Borthers And Sisters

[Carla]

I will like to start new topic i'm interesting in something.After i reed beautiful vocation story about twin sisters (Phoenix ,Cheyenne) i'm interesting what is your situation with brothers in sister.If you have them are they interested in religious life an discerning or it is different.I have 2 others sisters and we are all different so i'm interested in other experiences.

 

Edited November 13, 2014 by Carla

[marigold]

Ooh, good topic! :)  I have a younger sister. We are very, very alike in temperament and in things like humour, attitude towards careers, TV shows we like (she finally finished Breaking Bad last night and needed some support over text message!). But she's not a believer, and she feels completely at home in our culture. That's a big difference between us and one that we don't often talk in depth about. She doesn't pretend to understand why I want to be a nun, but says pretty much, 'Well, whatever floats your boat.'... which I guess is one of the nicer things about the culture in the UK. There's an openness to people being validly different.

[PhuturePriest]

I will like to start new topic i'm interesting in something.After i reed beautiful vocation story about twin sisters (Phoenix ,Cheyenne) i'm interesting what is your situation with brothers in sister.If you have them are they interested in religious life an discerning or it is different.I have 2 others sisters and we are all different so i'm interested in other experiences.

 

I am the youngest of three children. My brother is three years older than I am, and my sister is three years older than my brother. However, my sister and I have always been really close despite the six year age gap. She was always really religious, which is how I became religious (I pretty much did whatever she did,) and she discerned for a really long time. Eventually, she discerned she wasn't called to religious life, went to college, and then married a man and now has two kids. I recently discerned I am most certainly not called to religious life, but I am still going to apply to seminary and see about being a seminarian. If I were to become a priest, I would be the first ever priest we know of on either side of the family.

[TheresaThoma]

Well my only sister is married, and not religious at all. So we are very different but still close.

[Tradosaurus Rex]

I have two brothers.  One is married and the other was discerning religious life for a while but not so much anymore. He has visited a couple communities over the years, but none of them believed he had a calling.  Right now he is taking a break for a while and is starting to go out on dates.   He has been really frustrated lately with the whole discernment thing.  I pray he finds peace in his life, because he truly is a remarkable person.   

[Charbel]

JMJ

I will like to start new topic i'm interesting in something.After i reed beautiful vocation story about twin sisters (Phoenix ,Cheyenne) i'm interesting what is your situation with brothers in sister.If you have them are they interested in religious life an discerning or it is different.I have 2 others sisters and we are all different so i'm interested in other experiences.

 

I have three older sisters, one of whom is my twin sister. The two eldest have boyfriends and my twin does not feel called to religious life at this time, after contemplating it in her heart for a long time (she seems interested in marriage). I have always been very close to each of them, but as some others were saying, they are all very immersed into today's culture. My family goes to Sunday Mass together weekly which I am happy we are able to do together.
I do agree with you, the vocation stories of Phoenix and Cheyenne is very beautiful!

As twin sisters, many think you will have the same vocation. It is understandable, since they tend to be very close to one another (all twins to be precise, not just sisters). Some may and others do not. My twin and I always thought we would live together, but God had different plans! We must take different paths in life, and it has been a difficult thing for me and my family, but also a very beautiful thing.

 

May Jesus keep you in His Sacred Heart.

[veritasluxmea]

I have three younger siblings. They're aware that I'm discerning but they don't really care. I think my brother may have a vocation too, but he's to young at the moment to start discerning. 

[ChristinaTherese]

I have one older sister who isn't really religious and has a couple of kids, she might be aware that I'm discerning but I don't think she cares too much. I also have an older brother, who was on the cusp of marriage but called it off (over a year ago) and is now discerning religious priesthood. We also became Catholic somewhat together (separated by two years, but with each other's support).

[Carla]

So many beautiful stories.It is so nice that we are very different but still we have great connections with our brothers and sisters.For me is it interesting that we came from same families we have same parenting but still we end up very different.

I have 3 sisters and we are also so different.My oldest sister is married and she have 2 children.She never consider any vocation or something similar,She only wanted family and carrier.Her faith is Sunday mass and that is all.I'm the middle one and i have many ups and down in my vocation.But this is story for compliantly different topic.Now i have finally

give the application and with God' grace soon i hope so i will enter the community.

My younger sister also have different path but in the same time similar to me.We are 3 years diffidence and she start working right after the high school.She found her self job that involve traveling and she travel half of the world.She use to have boyfriends and she live pretty secular life for few years.She went to masses and keep the faith in her life but she

never consider religious life till last year.After years of searching her self and search for God's grace finally she decided that she is called for religious life.Now same as me she preparing her self for entering and starting her collage.But we are considering two different communities.So in some way we are even different in this.

[marigold]

So many beautiful stories.It is so nice that we are very different but still we have great connections with our brothers and sisters.For me is it interesting that we came from same families we have same parenting but still we end up very different.

I have 3 sisters and we are also so different.My oldest sister is married and she have 2 children.She never consider any vocation or something similar,She only wanted family and carrier.Her faith is Sunday mass and that is all.I'm the middle one and i have many ups and down in my vocation.But this is story for compliantly different topic.Now i have finally

give the application and with God' grace soon i hope so i will enter the community.

My younger sister also have different path but in the same time similar to me.We are 3 years diffidence and she start working right after the high school.She found her self job that involve traveling and she travel half of the world.She use to have boyfriends and she live pretty secular life for few years.She went to masses and keep the faith in her life but she

never consider religious life till last year.After years of searching her self and search for God's grace finally she decided that she is called for religious life.Now same as me she preparing her self for entering and starting her collage.But we are considering two different communities.So in some way we are even different in this.

 

Wow, Carla, that's amazing! :)

[Carla]

I totally forgot about this topic.i just want to give quick update about my sister.As i already write my sister after very short discerning 3 months ago enter the postulate.

Few days before entering her life become little bit complicated and she considering to move her entrance day till spring.

After short consideration she decided that she will stay with her original entrance day.The moment of her entrance has been very emotional for me and for my family.

My parents has been very proud and very sad in the same time.I could notice that in this period my sister is very happy.She smiles all the time and i see that she is fitting there pretty good.When i have found out my entrance day i become sad only because of one thing.Proudly i will not able to atent my sisters taking her first vows.But i have accepted that and i'm so happy because of her :)

 

[marigold]

That seems like one of the best reasons not to be able to go!  :console:

[Carla]

That seems like one of the best reasons not to be able to go!  :console:

 

Yes i understand that and i accept this,but still this information made me sad.But i will be ok.Only important is that my sister is happy:)
 

[brandelynmarie]

Carla, I often think about the weddings & such I would miss in the cloister... But Marigold is right, what better reason is there? :blush: You can unite yourself to your loved ones in the Eucharist & in your prayers & hold them in your heart...

My younger brother was married, but he died two years ago. I would have called him nondenominational protestant. He had a "whatever floats your boat" sort of attitude toward my discernment. My younger sister is agnostic, but she is seeking God in her own way. She has a young child & really doesn't understand what I'm trying to do with my life... And yes, I'm a convert! ;)

[vee]

My younger brother was married, but he died two years ago.

 

Im so sorry for your loss! :console:

 

 

 

To answer the original question, my brothers and sister don't know Im discerning and unless Im accepted Im not telling them either!

[kg94]

Im so sorry for your loss! :console:

 

 

 

To answer the original question, my brothers and sister don't know Im discerning and unless Im accepted Im not telling them either!

 

Carla, I am so glad you are very active in the vocations groups. Thank you. I still remember when you first joined our Vocations Chat. It was such a blessing. :) Many prayers for your discernment as always. 

 

To be honest, it's a good idea to keep discernment quiet, even after you are accepted. Anything can happen between being accepted and entering, not to mention, a lot can happen before that too! By keeping your discernment quiet, and maybe only sharing with other discerners and in vocations groups with vocations directors/religious communities etc, you are more able to focus on discerning without the pressures of others trying to give you their own opinion on what they think about your life. This is one of those issues between you and God. 

 

When I told my family that I would be entering with Religious Sisters, they threw a fit and started accusing the Sisters of all sorts of things like trying to kidnap me and send me off somewhere etc. They went completely out of their mind. Nothing was sober about family life (they were not in the right state of mind, even though they were not drinking or on drugs). So, anyway, I'm doing a university degree and my vocation only strengthens by the day. I can notice the difference in my heart that my desire for the Religious Life is much stronger than it was, thank God. The Sisters know I still desire to enter, and sometime after I have worked for a little while after my degree, I will probably reapply for the Postulancy. Please keep me in prayer in the mean time as it can be difficult at times. My family still don't accept my faith decisions in becoming a Catholic let alone entering RL. Yes, I am a convert, though I wanted to become a Catholic since the age of three. :) 

My story is on the blog I write with EmilyAnn: The Vocation Operation

http://vocationoperation.blogspot.com 

 

If you haven't already figured it out, my family are not religious. I have an older brother who thought Christmas was a made up holiday and rejoiced at the day off work last year. My parents think it's some commercial cheat of some sort. It is very sad that even Christmas, the most celebrated festival, is the LEAST understood. 

 

With love and prayer, 
Kim-Therese x

[Carla]

Carla, I often think about the weddings & such I would miss in the cloister... But Marigold is right, what better reason is there? :blush: You can unite yourself to your loved ones in the Eucharist & in your prayers & hold them in your heart...

My younger brother was married, but he died two years ago. I would have called him nondenominational protestant. He had a "whatever floats your boat" sort of attitude toward my discernment. My younger sister is agnostic, but she is seeking God in her own way. She has a young child & really doesn't understand what I'm trying to do with my life... And yes, I'm a convert! ;)

 

I'm very sorry to hear about your brother i can not image how is to lose brother or sister.

About missing thinks of course that i thinking about this also.It is normal and of course a lot of thinks will miss me.But also i sure on my Vocation and my need to be there.I know  that God will help me in this transition from normal life to cloister.But i have open my heart and i trust him completely,i want to become his bride and spend life in this beautiful place for my soul.

 

 

Carla, I am so glad you are very active in the vocations groups. Thank you. I still remember when you first joined our Vocations Chat. It was such a blessing. :) Many prayers for your discernment as always. 

 

To be honest, it's a good idea to keep discernment quiet, even after you are accepted. Anything can happen between being accepted and entering, not to mention, a lot can happen before that too! By keeping your discernment quiet, and maybe only sharing with other discerners and in vocations groups with vocations directors/religious communities etc, you are more able to focus on discerning without the pressures of others trying to give you their own opinion on what they think about your life. This is one of those issues between you and God. 

 

When I told my family that I would be entering with Religious Sisters, they threw a fit and started accusing the Sisters of all sorts of things like trying to kidnap me and send me off somewhere etc. They went completely out of their mind. Nothing was sober about family life (they were not in the right state of mind, even though they were not drinking or on drugs). So, anyway, I'm doing a university degree and my vocation only strengthens by the day. I can notice the difference in my heart that my desire for the Religious Life is much stronger than it was, thank God. The Sisters know I still desire to enter, and sometime after I have worked for a little while after my degree, I will probably reapply for the Postulancy. Please keep me in prayer in the mean time as it can be difficult at times. My family still don't accept my faith decisions in becoming a Catholic let alone entering RL. Yes, I am a convert, though I wanted to become a Catholic since the age of three. :)

My story is on the blog I write with EmilyAnn: The Vocation Operation

http://vocationoperation.blogspot.com 

 

If you haven't already figured it out, my family are not religious. I have an older brother who thought Christmas was a made up holiday and rejoiced at the day off work last year. My parents think it's some commercial cheat of some sort. It is very sad that even Christmas, the most celebrated festival, is the LEAST understood. 

 

With love and prayer, 
Kim-Therese x

 

O yes we know our self now for some time.And i so glad because of this.You are amazing person and some day i know you will finish your discerning.I remember how hard has been for you in this process,and how it us hard to be in this without family support.I told you without my family support it will be much harder for me maybe even impossible.I will pray for you

[brandelynmarie]

Thank you vee & Carla. :blush:

[Carla]

With the permission of my sister i want to share with all of you that my sister will take first vows in October 4th with her Dominican order.his bring great joy and little sorrow in my heart.