Mantilla

[misereremi]

[quote name='jiyoung' post='1096538' date='Oct 20 2006, 06:08 AM']
But my main reason for wearing a veil is to be reverent to our Lord in the Eucharist, and I firmly believe that there is no such thing as too much reverence to the Blessed Sacrament.
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Nice one. I like your post. I started wearing one only this year after talking to my sisters (who wear them) and my parish priest about it. He encouraged me to as an act of devotion and humility. I had also read some peoples' posts here on phatmass a while back which made a lot of sense to me. (thank you, peeps)

I didn't think about how anybody would react, and I don't feel that it draws attention. (if my kids are noisy that is a distraction). Although nobody else wears a mantilla in my parish, I've not come across anyone putting me down for it yet. People who know me have asked me why and are cool with it. People who don't know me aren't bothered. Once someone asked me if I was a widow.

[Franimus]

hmn.. there's no "I'm a guy and I think women shouldn't wear them" option :-P
there's also no "I refuse to speculate" :-P
j/k

Anywho, not that I'm "against" women wearing them, I think it is just a small-t-tradition. I would rather a woman dress up for every mass before wearing a mantilla (or other covering) to a daily mass while wearing a t-shirt and jeans, shorts, or any pants for that matter. To me, and I don't mean to offend any of the beautiful ladies here, it just seems foolish to wear a mantilla with said dressed down clothing. I'm not saying we should all dress up for every mass, since that's another discussion and I don't do that myself, but I think women should dress nice before wearing a mantilla or fancy (and by fancy i mean really good-looking) hat/bonnet. I mean, you don't see guys wearing ties with flip-flops..

EDIT: I wonder how long it'll be before I get burnt to a crisp from the flames...

Edited October 20, 2006 by Franimus

[SeekingHisPlan]

[quote name='Franimus' post='1097245' date='Oct 20 2006, 07:56 PM']
hmn.. there's no "I'm a guy and I think women shouldn't wear them" option :-P
there's also no "I refuse to speculate" :-P
j/k

Anywho, not that I'm "against" women wearing them, I think it is just a small-t-tradition. I would rather a woman dress up for every mass before wearing a mantilla (or other covering) to a daily mass while wearing a t-shirt and jeans, shorts, or any pants for that matter. To me, and I don't mean to offend any of the beautiful ladies here, it just seems foolish to wear a mantilla with said dressed down clothing. I'm not saying we should all dress up for every mass, since that's another discussion and I don't do that myself, but I think women should dress nice before wearing a mantilla or fancy (and by fancy i mean really good-looking) hat/bonnet. I mean, you don't see guys wearing ties with flip-flops..

EDIT: I wonder how long it'll be before I get burnt to a crisp from the flames...
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Well, I'll be one voice to support you on the skirts-in-Church thing. I always, always wear a skirt to Mass because I feel that I should make that effort for the King of Kings. It's an important demension in the growth of my relationship with Jesus as future spouse too- that I should want to be beautiful before His presence, not for myself, nor for any human eyes, but so that, the King shall have pleasure in the beauty of his bride. I say that not because I imagine myself to be some raving beauty, but because I view skirts/dresses as beautiful feminine attire. God created the complementarity of male and female in a very special and intentional way. The complelemtarity is borne out beautifully in the marriage relationship, both with eartly spouses and with the marriage of a priest or religious to the Church Herself or to Jesus Himself. And so, I wear skirts to Church in acknowlegement of that complementarity- to be beautifully feminine before my future Husband in His house.

I have to be careful how I say this, lest it sound like I wear skirts to Church so that [b]I[/b] can have glory in how beautiful I am before the Lord. But no. I put the skirt on and I go to Mass, and I do everything I can to forget myself and to put myself under His gaze, to fix my eyes on Him and to give Him glory.

Now...the mantilla....I would love to wear one, but I feel like that's a really long story with my parish. I'll not get into it here.

[Romans1513]

I know, I know... dragging this up again...
I'm just so frustrated with this subject. I've talked to lots of people, read articles, read this entire thread... It seems like there's no right answere here, is there?

Maybe I'm looking too hard for a reason not to wear a veil to my home parish (I started wearing one at school a couple weeks ago). It would be so.... different. But then would I be hypocritical or something when I go back to school and wear it again if I don't wear it here?

*sigh*

Any new and revelational insight?

[ovenbird03]

I had been very convicted about wearing a veil or some other sort of headcovering to Mass. It was a practice so long taught in the Church, and again it is in the Bible. Lately I only wear it sometimes, depending on how embarassed I am. It's easier to wear it to daily mass because a few older women wear mantillas there as well and daily mass seems to be a more traditional crowd. If I wear it to Sunday Mass though I feel like I'm a distraction amist all of the tank tops and short shorts. Which is the reason I have a black one, rather than white (it blends in with my hair more, less noticable). I also tie the ends under my hair, again it makes it less distracting I think. The Church at school that I go to is also kind of modern, they don't have kneelers and so the majority of the congregation does not kneel, the priests omit the 'men' from "for us men and for our salvation ...." in the Creed, among other things. So I feel like the priests might even find it offensive? I'm not sure. I really wish that it was a common practice, because it is such a beautiful devotion and it would be easier to wear that way, you wouldn't have to worry about distracting people or causing them to sin by judging you or scoffing at the devotion. I wish that mantillas were invisible, or at least less noticable (like scapulars) so that it could be more of a personal, humble devotion.
Well that's my two cents!

[she_who_is_not]

I like to wear hats. Especially at Easter and on my parishes patronal feast day.

[puellapaschalis]

I have a kerchief on my head during the day, and at Mass on Sundays and other feasts I swap it for a white mantilla. I probably get odd looks; I [i]have[/i] got some questions from people about why I wear it, and I try to give as good an answer as possible.

Mind you, I have a stubborn streak in me that's liable to just keep on going with something, despite what people around me might think. But I have a suspicion that the parish priest thinks it's cool too (although he'd probably never say it out loud .

My suggestion to any girl or lady thinking of it - jump in and be brave, even if you're not 100% sure on exactly [i]why[/i] you want to cover your head. My experience has shown me that the longer I've worn a head covering and kept on praying about it, the deeper my understanding of it grows. It's something like a more profound insight into what life as a [i]woman[/i] of God is like (or at least should be like!) - hard to explain, might rub some people up the wrong way, but this is what it's taught me.

Love and prayers,

PP

Edited December 25, 2006 by puellapaschalis

[exquisitebones]

I have been reading about this topic. I really would like to wear one. But it seems to be a (forgive me...)dying trend?

like at christmas i expected to see at least one, NOPE, not a single one, I have only seen a very select few older women wearing one on daily mass.

why is that? why does no one participate anymore?

[Romans1513]

[quote name='exquisitebones' post='1149990' date='Dec 26 2006, 05:55 PM']
I have been reading about this topic. I really would like to wear one. But it seems to be a (forgive me...)dying trend?

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I don't know, from my perspective, it was dying, but its back on the rise, so to speak. I know a lot of young girls who are returning to it. In Pittsburgh at least. Here at home (Toledo, OH) I saw one woman wearing a hat. That was it.

[DemonSlayer]

I've never seen anybody at my parish wear them either, but it depends on the church.

[brendan1104]

Guys dig girls in mantillas.

[Guest Rick777]

[quote name='homeschoolmom' post='797918' date='Nov 22 2005, 02:37 PM']
The Church has said we don't have to wear them. Therefore saying veils are okay, hats are okay, but bandanas are iffy, is rediculous.
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HSM I'm shocked! Mantillas on women are very attractive, of course that's just a plus and shouldn't be the intention .

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See, very nice. :

BTW-I think Jiyoung's post was the answer to all those girl's who feel it attracts to much attention or makes them worry about themselves.

Edited December 27, 2006 by Rick777

[brendan1104]

Actually, hsmom the church has never dispensed with the rule.

[Totus Tuus]

[quote name='jiyoung' post='1096538' date='Oct 19 2006, 11:08 PM']
I wear one. If people are distracted, then that's their own issue to deal with--it's different if you're wearing scandalously revealing clothing, but wearing a veil shouldn't scandalize someone, unless they simply hate traditional devotions--and if that's the case, there are some more deep-seated problems there.
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Very nicely put :

[cathoholic_anonymous]

[quote]If I wear it to Sunday Mass though I feel like I'm a distraction amist all of the tank tops and short shorts.[/quote]

In that case you would be a distraction with a cause, which is a good thing.