Mantilla

[homeschoolmom]

[quote name='Totus Tuus' post='797961' date='Nov 22 2005, 04:53 PM']So are you saying that people should not do things that draw attention to themselves? Because are [i]are[/i] called to be a sign of contradiction...[/quote]

That was not what I said. What I said was:

[quote name='homeschoolmom' post='797924' date='Nov 22 2005, 03:52 PM']It would cause me to focus on the fact that I was wearing it-- not on my reason for being at mass to begin with. And saying that this would go away as I got used to it doesn't wash. I still think about (and am aware of) not holding hands during the Our Father just about every single mass[/quote]



[quote name='StThomasMore' post='922911' date='Mar 26 2006, 08:16 PM']I think it's cool that girls wearing mantillas at the NO show off...[/quote]
Nice attitude.... "I think it's great that girls try to show off their peity." I think that was the argument just about everyone in this thread was arguing against.

[HotRod]

My wife has started wearing them in the past 6 months, and she has some for our 2 daughters as well.
I think the argument of not wanting to appear too holy is a pretty lame excuse. Its the holier than thou attitude you should want to avoid, not actual pious behavior. I've seen scandilous clothes at Mass before, and its only gets worse at Wichita State's Newman Center, I think wearing a veil is the least of ppl's worries.

[Chaya]

i don't have one but i'd like to have one. where can you get them? (in switzerland) and does anybody know what they are called in french? until then, and until now, i have often worn jewish women's style headcoverings when going to church like these:
[url="http://www.tznius.com/cgi-bin/tying.pl"]http://www.tznius.com/cgi-bin/tying.pl[/url] most often like the dutch crown. but sometimes i go out and about with these the whole day anyway.

[Archaeology cat]

[quote name='Chaya' post='1454445' date='Feb 2 2008, 09:37 AM']i don't have one but i'd like to have one. where can you get them? (in switzerland) and does anybody know what they are called in french? until then, and until now, i have often worn jewish women's style headcoverings when going to church like these:
[url="http://www.tznius.com/cgi-bin/tying.pl"]http://www.tznius.com/cgi-bin/tying.pl[/url] most often like the dutch crown. but sometimes i go out and about with these the whole day anyway.[/quote]

Thanks for that site, Chaya. I don't currently wear a veil of any sort, but I've been thinking about it.

[He is Risen!]

I do cover my head at mass, but almost always with a scarf or a hat that covers all of my hair. A mantilla gets too much negative attention here in Rochester, NY. Also, it gets completely wrinkeled and smooshed in my purse on my way to mass. I do wonder why one would wear a cover that you can see the hair through. It seems to be keeping to the letter of the rule/tradition, but not the spirit of it. A mantilla is much better than nothing if your heart is in it, plus, they are quite pretty. I guess I'm a bit confused about this, so to be safe, I just stuff all my hair under/into something.

[doe-jo]

I'd wear one but too bad I'm a guy.

[Archaeology cat]

I don't wear a mantilla, but I did recently start wearing a scarf to Mass.

[jiyoung]

HSMom--I can definitely understand that viewpoint, that wearing a veil would be a distraction to yourself. I'm easily distracted anyway so I struggled with it for a while too. It is true that after a while you get used to it, and I actually feel weird when I'm NOT wearing it and more aware of that. However, I still have my times when I walk into a new church, feel self-conscious, and keep thinking about it and about people looking at me. But sometimes I like being a sign of contradiction like that, because perhaps people will remember that they're at a Mass--this was definitely more pronounced when I was in Europe and people ran around churches like they were big pretty museums. It still doesn't help the distraction, though, unfortunately. I don't want to make it sound like I like drawing attention to myself, because I'd much rather blend in, but if I am then at least it's for a good thing and not because I'm immodestly dressed.

But the bottom line is, you don't have to wear a veil. People wave around arguments that the canon law was never abrogated, but either way if people don't know that then they're not at fault anyway. The important thing is, if you feel called to it, you should do it, and lay aside your worries because God will give you the grace to overcome those obstacles. (After a while...) If you don't feel called to it, and the Church isn't (at our best knowledge) requiring us to wear a veil across the board, then that's FINE--I actually have come to really appreciate it as a choice, because it means more that way. It's not just doing it because we have to. I would only ask that you remain open to the idea (not to say that you're not--general "you" being used here), because it is really a beautiful and biblical tradition that embraces and promotes true femininity, so if you don't feel called to it you can at least cheer on the women who choose to wear it, because it takes a lot of courage to finally get to that point, and having women who are opposed to it really doesn't help--it's supposed to be a sign of reverence to the Lord, not a point of bitter controversy, and it's such a shame that it's become that in recent years.

*steps off soapbox*

[fides quarens intellectum]

i voted for the first option, but i wouldn't say i love wearing a mantilla. i actually still feel a bit ackward when i wear it (and it always smooshes my hair down so it's all flat when i take the thing off). The reason i wear it is out of respect for Jesus' presence in the Blessed Sacrament, added to the arguments presented in other threads on this topic. i certainly don't love wearing it, though.

[Moosey]

I've been wearing my mantilla to mass since April 2006. I heart my veil