rkubs Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 I was wondering, i know what catholicism teaches about sex, where you think the line should be drawn for Making out and such.
azaelia Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Making out and such, is a near occassion of sin and can easily lead to other acts, so it's best to keep it sweet and restrict that kind of contact to light kisses. It's never a good idea to play with fire.
Sinner Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 "Making Out"........ not a good idea. Hold hands, short hugs, light kisses. More will usually bring about........ um more.
Paladin D Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 [quote name='Sinner' date='Sep 28 2004, 11:38 PM'] "Making Out"........ not a good idea. Hold hands, short hugs, light kisses. More will usually bring about........ um more. [/quote] More, and more... with a little more!
azaelia Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 [quote name='Paladin D' date='Sep 28 2004, 11:40 PM'] More, and more... with a little more! [/quote] Did we mention...more?
Brother Adam Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Yep. Always ask - why are you dating the person? Actually, if you are around that age where you are ready to date I suggest a few protestant books: I kissed Dating Goodbye I gave Dating a Chance and Everyman's Battle or Everywoman's Battle (depending on gender)
franciscanheart Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 no making out. no tongue before marriage!! my two cents
AfroNova No Limit Soldier Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 www.pureloveclub.com www.nomoho.com
Thy Geekdom Come Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 [quote name='hugheyforlife' date='Sep 29 2004, 12:16 AM'] no making out. no tongue before marriage!! my two cents [/quote] As a person who made the [i]mistake[/i] of doing both of these, [b]avoid them like the plague![/b] If you're in it so that you're body can feel good, it's not a good thing. Love is self-giving, not self-seeking. Sex is only for inside of marriage and is meant to be completely self-giving. Man and wife are to give themselves completely, not just their bodies or a part of themselves, but all of themselves, to one another. Likewise, this involves God, who blesses the marriage because of this pure self-giving, which is also a total gift to Him, as it is a giving of pure love and He is involved deeply in it. Contraceptives are a grave evil and should never be used. Think to yourself...would I want to give myself or would I want to take for myself? That is the difference between love and lust.
franciscanheart Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 [quote name='Raphael' date='Sep 29 2004, 12:34 AM'] As a person who made the [i]mistake[/i] of doing both of these, [b]avoid them like the plague![/b] [/quote] DEFINITELY
MagiDragon Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 [quote name='Raphael' date='Sep 29 2004, 12:34 AM'] As a person who made the [i]mistake[/i] of doing both of these, [b]avoid them like the plague![/b] [/quote] AMEN!!!
Theoketos Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 One must make the descision to love the other person and not use the other person. Making out is using the other person for pure sexual pleasure (Inside of marriage affection that leads to arousal serves a greater purpose as it is possible for it to be intergrated into love and thus these actions are not using the other person). When you cross the line between affection and arousal, you treat the other person no longer as a brother or sister in Christ, but an object.
Thomas Michael Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 I'd hate to think y'all are limiting yourselves a bit too much. I see nothing wrong with (chaste) cuddling, as long as it's fully clothed and the hands never go where they shouldn't be. Short kisses ARE a good idea, though.
Theoketos Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Yeah, I was saying the same thing. Anything that is affection is good, anything that is arousal (outside of marriage) is bad.
toledo_jesus Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 and really, if you should say...become aroused by light kisses, or cuddling, then you need to not do those things. Everybody has a different threshold. You need to learn to recognize the feeling of lust and squash it.
geetarplayer Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 [quote name='Raphael' date='Sep 29 2004, 02:34 AM'] As a person who made the [i]mistake[/i] of doing both of these, [b]avoid them like the plague![/b] [/quote] Double-ditto! -Mark
heyyoimjohnny Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 [quote name='AfroNova No Limit Soldier' date='Sep 29 2004, 12:31 AM'] www.pureloveclub.com www.nomoho.com [/quote] Go to the sites he posted!
Luthien Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Believe you me, when you're in a chaste relationship, there is no regret. I've never felt so free when my boyfriend and I practice a chaste and abstinent lifestyle. We're free to have fun together, and have conversation. Its so awesome.
picchick Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 That is sooo awesome Luthien. I wish that ppl would see that there is freedom in living chastly. Fr. Stan made a point about long kisses. He said that you start getting bored and your hands start moving around and soon you are finding that you are "doing uptown buisness dowtown." It was funny at the time but it is soo true.
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