mariology21 Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 I'm discerning whether to join a Third Order (Seriously considering Third Order Carmelite....although also possibly the Dominicans....still praying hard.) Is anyone else a member of a Third Order? Or have ever thought about becoming one? Just curious! ~Jen
ofpheritup Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 (edited) [quote name='mariology21' date='Jul 30 2005, 02:16 PM']Is anyone else a member of a Third Order? Or have ever thought about becoming one? Just curious! ~Jen [right][snapback]665437[/snapback][/right] [/quote] I have been a Secular Franciscan (third order) for 18 years. Don't ask me how I did it I come from a CROP of Carmelites. My mom, Aunt Rosemary and grandfather were all Third Order Carmeltes. My mom is still alive and living the life of a Carmelite. I am proud of her. She has done that all while raising EIGHT children. Edited July 30, 2005 by ofpheritup
mariology21 Posted July 30, 2005 Author Posted July 30, 2005 [quote name='ofpheritup' date='Jul 30 2005, 04:42 PM']I have been a Secular Franciscan (third order) for 18 years. Don't ask me how I did it I come from a CROP of Carmelites. My mom, Aunt Rosemary and grandfather were all Third Order Carmeltes. My mom is still alive and living the life of a Carmelite. I am proud of her. She has done that all while raising EIGHT children. [right][snapback]665575[/snapback][/right] [/quote] God Bless her!!! I want 9 children God willing. Maybe I'll be able to do it while living the life of a Carmelite too!! ~Jen
ofpheritup Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 [quote name='mariology21' date='Jul 30 2005, 03:48 PM']God Bless her!!! I want 9 children God willing. Maybe I'll be able to do it while living the life of a Carmelite too!! ~Jen [right][snapback]665584[/snapback][/right] [/quote] Hello again. My mom did do it for years while raising the kids. She had the support (spiritually) of her sister and dad. It was like the had their own little community. The secret to a large family is EVERYONE DOES THEIR FAIR SHARE. Even the youngest can contribute something. And should be expected to. She had a schedule of who did what. The older ones helped take care of the younger ones. We were held accountable. We were taught responsibility. And the youngest one in the family didn't get to use the excuse I'M THE BABY. She helped as much as any of us. Today we range in age of 54 to 39 I think? It is hard keeping up with who is what. I KNOW HOW OLD I AM.
mariology21 Posted July 30, 2005 Author Posted July 30, 2005 [quote name='ofpheritup' date='Jul 30 2005, 05:11 PM']Today we range in age of 54 to 39 I think? It is hard keeping up with who is what. I KNOW HOW OLD I AM. [right][snapback]665614[/snapback][/right] [/quote] Haha...that's all that matters!! How many grandchildren does your mom have? Christmas's must be WONDERFUL!!!!!! I'm blessed to be good friends with someone who has 7 children. Just watching them is giving me ideas There's also a family at work who has 8 children and another family who has 11. I LOVE seeing the large families!!! I'm praying God blesses me with a large family someday too!! ~Jen
philothea Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 I have considered Third Order of Carmelites, but where I live now it would not be possible. Hmm, must add that to the criteria of the house-hunt.
ofpheritup Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 [quote name='philothea' date='Jul 30 2005, 10:35 PM']I have considered Third Order of Carmelites, but where I live now it would not be possible. Hmm, must add that to the criteria of the house-hunt. [right][snapback]665859[/snapback][/right] [/quote] Why wouldn't it be possible? If you are thinking that you need to live around others who are also Third Order I don't believe that is true. I would encourage to follow up on your desire. My mother is now nowhere near anyone who is also TO. I knew a woman in my area who was considered an ISOLATED Carmelite. The nearest member to her was three hours away. She simply lived the life on her own but did keep in contact by phone and mail. This was before the Internet. She also attended the yearly conference. .
FutureSoror Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 I know a lot of 3rd order Camelites and a 3rd order Franciscan...
p-hawk Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 If I don't ending up joining a religious order, I will become a Third Order Dominican like that *snaps fingers*.
Laudate_Dominum Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 My mum is a 3rd order Carmellite! I would like to join a 3rd order some day.. we'll see.
zabbazooey Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 I only want to join a third order if I do not enter a convent. Well, if I was a 3rd order in a convent....that wouldn't make much sense...
philothea Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 [quote name='ofpheritup' date='Jul 31 2005, 05:35 AM']Why wouldn't it be possible? If you are thinking that you need to live around others who are also Third Order I don't believe that is true. I would encourage to follow up on your desire. My mother is now nowhere near anyone who is also TO. I knew a woman in my area who was considered an ISOLATED Carmelite. The nearest member to her was three hours away. She simply lived the life on her own but did keep in contact by phone and mail. This was before the Internet. She also attended the yearly conference. . [right][snapback]666033[/snapback][/right] [/quote] Hmm. I recall (vaguely) that last time I looked into the Third Order Carmelites, joining involved meeting with a director, and... some other in-person stuff. So, being the determined person I am, I got depressed and stopped looking I will look again. Thanks for the encouragement!
Matty_boy Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 Third order like lay person? I'm an oblate of the Monks of St. Benedict in Atchison, Kansas.
DeeDee Posted August 11, 2005 Posted August 11, 2005 I was considering joining the Secular Franciscan Order, but the group I met with didn't seem to be doing anything but going over finances and talking about other meetings. My idea was to join a group that not only prayed but did some kind of social work -like St. Francis of Assisi. Eventually I lost interest. But I still love the Franciscans, and the Dominicans too.
Totus Tuus Posted August 12, 2005 Posted August 12, 2005 Secular Franciscans are great if you follow the Constitutions, as far as I know. I know a couple who just joined the third order at EWTN which is taken very seriously there. It was a process of important discernment for them to even make the decision that they were ready to make this kind of change in their life. So myabe if you keep searching you'll be able to find a truly authentic community of lay Franciscans. There is a group at our Church that does a lot of work in the pro-life movement and for the upkeep of the church. I'll pray for you!
ofpheritup Posted August 14, 2005 Posted August 14, 2005 [quote name='DeeDee' date='Aug 11 2005, 05:29 PM']I was considering joining the Secular Franciscan Order, but the group I met with didn't seem to be doing anything but going over finances and talking about other meetings. My idea was to join a group that not only prayed but did some kind of social work -like St. Francis of Assisi. Eventually I lost interest. But I still love the Franciscans, and the Dominicans too. [right][snapback]682510[/snapback][/right] [/quote] I UNDERSTAND..... I have spent the majority of my time as a Secular Franciscan by myself although I live 15 minutes away from a fraternity meeting. If it wasn't the politics, it was the gossiping and backbiting. It was the attitude of just show up, keep your mouth shut and don't need us for anything. For me it really started (years ago) when a new Council was elected. Rules, constitution and by-laws pretty much got thrown out they did what they wanted. I have recently started attending the meetings again. The people on the Council have changed. Although the majority of the attitudes are still there. They don't seem to be interested in changing. I don't know how much longer I will be going. My greatest disappointment is with the National Council, I have received next to no help from them. I am pretty much of the opinion that I will do it on my own. IT'S GREAT WHEN IT WORKS, and hell when it doesn't.
Birgitta Noel Posted August 16, 2005 Posted August 16, 2005 I'm going to become an Oblate in the Community of St. John on December 27th (the feast of St. John) of this year. It's been a long road, but Mary waited patiently for me to come join her at the foot of the cross with her son John.
franciscanheart Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 im looking for a secular fransiscan order in my area. i cant find any information on it at all and i really want to. any ideas? im still really back and forth about my vocation, which is okay because i have lots of time still, and i want to have as much info as i can in order to truly understand what God is asking of me.
ofpheritup Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 (edited) [quote name='hugheyforlife' date='Aug 18 2005, 10:09 AM']im looking for a secular fransiscan order in my area. i cant find any information on it at all and i really want to. any ideas? [right][snapback]688912[/snapback][/right] [/quote] Call 1-800-FRANCIS or put a search on the Internet for National Fraternity of the Secular Franciscan Order. A bit of advice if in your area there is more than one fraternity I would suggest visitng them all. You want to take your time in discovering which one suits your personality. Believe me, it makes a difference. Edited August 18, 2005 by ofpheritup
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