Help! Need advice

[annie]

I am in Wheaton.

I have, actually, called Dr Ray in the past. It is difficult,as he must speak in generalities.
Thankyou, Norseman82 for seeing a bit of my side of it. Yes, I did have a history with her, and it was 'higher risk' behavior than simple 'who likes whom' and curfew violations.

Whoever previously posted that sometimes notes are more dramatic and graphic than real life---THAT is info a mom needs to know! I don't want to bury my head in the sand, but perhaps the lingo I have seen in the past is mere literary license--not all of it, but some of it.

I pray to St Monica every day, and wear her medal. Of course Mary too.

We had a la-la therapist with my first daughter. Kinda wierd, with a feminist bend. Things settled, but we never had family counseling. Big mistake, as I now see that might be the root of it all.

You all have been such a blessing to me. It is so very great there are teenagers on here giving their insights too.

Can I ask you to pray specifically for my daughters, Amy and Liz? Thanks.

[Maria]

Sure.
I don't think it's healthy to snoop and pry, but I don't think a situation where it (or a lot of 'it') would be considered snooping is healthy either. But, whether you 'snoop' or not, it's very important that the children know they are respected.
But, for instance, a basic sort of looking through things isn't necessarily wrong, but trying to, detective-like and without their consent, find hidden information about their life, is, I think. Preferably, the relationship should be based on mutual trust and respect.

[Jaime]

Good luck with the Family systems therapy Annie. There is a wonderful book called "the Family Crucible" that gives a wonderful explaination about Family Systems Therapy.

The family that decides "We're in this together" and have Christ as a foundation cannot be torn down. I will add your family to my prayers.

If you have any questions about family therapy while you start up with the therapist, feel free to PM me. This was my focus in grad school.

[Lil Red]

jason evert, who wrote "pure love" is wonderful! we just saw him speak at NCYC and he is amazing! great idea to give her that pamphlet book!!

annie, you have my prayers.