Went to a talk last night...

[Proud2BCatholic139]

How could you? He is the biggest spammer on phatmass.

[Totus Tuus]

It all sounded true to me, except for the direction of the conversation. I think I tend to lose focus more easily than most women.

[Proud2BCatholic139]

Yeah, depending on the subject, I do too.

[scardella]

This is a perfect exposition of this:

[quote name='raphael']3. Use of Language

Men use language in a more utilitarian fashion.

Women use language to engage in relationships.

This is why very often women will speak to a man and eventually there will be a lull in the conversation. A point has been reached where a man has nothing more to say. Because he uses language as need arises, once a need has been taken care of, he stops talking (or writing). A woman, however, uses language for leisure and relationship building, and interprets the lull in conversation as a sort of rejection.

Additionally, men tend to bring their own things into speech.

Women tend to continue along one line of discussion.

The example given to us was this: a boy and a girl have birthdays and come to school the next day with their presents. A boy says, "look at my firetruck" and a girl responds, "cool. How fast does it go? How many wheels does it have? How big is it? Does it make sounds?"

However, a girl would say, "look at my new doll" and a boy woud respond, "look at my new firetruck."

This is why women need girlfriends...a man cannot be your girlfriend...don't expect him to be...he's not wired that way. He won't talk to you the same way.
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[Proud2BCatholic139]

Yes, I read that...

[Old_Joe]

[quote name='Raphael' date='Nov 14 2005, 11:52 AM']Why not?

I long ago surrendered.
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I thought it came to a mutual non-aggression pact.