uruviel Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 (edited) [mod]edited for personal information[/mod] I'm sorry, I didn't create this topic. The person who did however, is my friend and we talk allot on here anyways, I do see that it was not appropriate but I accept that I was immature in ignoring the fact. WE ARE NOT DOING ONLINE DATING. I think that's absolultey ridiculas to date online, and this was started as a joke. As is the rest of this board, this board was created for bored teen agers who want to be stupid and joke around. My parent knows that I come here, and trusts me. I keep my eyes open at all times, and I watch for things that are not appropriate, seeing this I knew it wasn't the best but I know the kid who started it and know it was just ajoke. Thank you [mod]edited for personal information[/mod] for it though God Bless you, [mod]edited for personal information[/mod] Edited May 25, 2006 by Lil Red Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dandy777 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 what do you mean when you all say that you are not allowed to date? not allowed by who? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uruviel Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 who said their not allowed to date? I never did, if they aren't allowed I would assume it's their parents. It's not that I'm not allowed, its that I choose not to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dandy777 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 In the first page of the topic, some of the posters said that they are not allowed to date. can i ask you how old you are? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BonnieLass Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 (edited) [quote name='uruviel' post='990303' date='May 25 2006, 09:02 AM'] I'm sorry, I didn't create this topic. The person who did however, is my friend and we talk allot on here anyways, I do see that it was not appropriate but I accept that I was immature in ignoring the fact. WE ARE NOT DOING ONLINE DATING. I think that's absolultey ridiculas to date online, and this was started as a joke. As is the rest of this board, this board was created for bored teen agers who want to be stupid and joke around. My parent knows that I come here, and trusts me. I keep my eyes open at all times, and I watch for things that are not appropriate, seeing this I knew it wasn't the best but I know the kid who started it and know it was just ajoke. Thank you for it though God Bless you, [mod]edited for personal information[/mod] [/quote] When someone whom I do not know at all plans to come from another state to my house, it is no longer a joke! Do not use my real name in this public space, please. Trust does not mean that you are absolutely able to make correct choices or that you will be wise about what you are doing. Not to demean anyone but is your strong friendship with this person based solely on postings in this forum? Again, not to demean anyone, but can you Uruviel, without a doubt say that people are who they say they are without living near them???? "WE ARE NOT DOING ONLINE DATING" When one purposely makes effort to chat with a particular person of the opposite gender in a public forum, it becomes a singles forum! I observed many comments to this effect. Minors in PhatMass should NOT be allowed to PM! It is dangerous. I see that there is absolutely no security in place to prevent this! I witnessed attempts by an adult that I do not know to communicate privately with my minor child. Not acceptable!!! I suggest that you be responsible and mature, Uruviel, and show ALL your posts and PMs, includng my posts, to your parents and let them decide if this forum is not indeed being properly utilized by yourself! You are NOT an adult and should not be making these choices on your own. If you are bored Uruviel, you could make MUCH better use of your time. Friendship is important but forming ureliable friendships on public space on the Internet is not WISE. This board needs to have higher security features for minors installed! I would no longer recommend it for ANY minor. Edited May 25, 2006 by Lil Red Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
musturde Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Definitely... Oh wait this is only girls? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uruviel Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 [quote name='BonnieLass' post='990327' date='May 25 2006, 10:33 AM'] When someone whom I do not know at all plans to come from another state to my house, it is no longer a joke! Do not use my real name in this public space, please. Trust does not mean that you are absolutely able to make correct choices or that you will be wise about what you are doing. Not to demean anyone but is your strong friendship with this person based solely on postings in this forum? Again, not to demean anyone, but can you Uruviel, without a doubt say that people are who they say they are without living near them???? "WE ARE NOT DOING ONLINE DATING" When one purposely makes effort to chat with a particular person of the opposite gender in a public forum, it becomes a singles forum! I observed many comments to this effect. I see that there is absolutely no security in place to prevent this! I witnessed attempts by an adult that I do not know to communicate privately with my minor child. Not acceptable!!! I suggest that you be responsible and mature, Uruviel, and show ALL your posts and PMs, includng my posts, to your parents and let them decide if this forum is not indeed being properly utilized by yourself! You are NOT an adult and should not be making these choices on your own. If you are bored Uruviel, you could make MUCH better use of your time. Friendship is important but forming ureliable friendships on public space on the Internet is not WISE. This board needs to have higher security features for minors installed! I would no longer recommend it for ANY minor. [/quote] Oh I'm very sorry for using your name on this board I will try to take it off. I absolultey respect where you are coming from, I understand what your saying too and your right. This is a verye immature board and I spend allot of time on the vocation station anyways, I come here to joke around. Granted there are respectable people that come to this website and some are not but my father, if you must know, has an account on this website as well, he remains in the vocation station whereas I go everywhere. I didn't overthink this website, I began speaking with allot of people, and not only does my father watch me and my posts, but I do very closly watch what I'm doing. I will have to point out that when a I chat with someone of the opposite gender over PM it has nothing to do with dating, I don't even know the gender of people on this website most of time. I can never say without a doubt that people I talk to are who say they are, this is why I am ALWAYS keeping my eyes open. I am not just a child blindly speaking with people on this website, I know the dangers and I have other people monitering me as well as myself!! My father has warned me and I take it into consideration everytime I chat. [quote]Minors in PhatMass should NOT be allowed to PM! It is dangerous. [/quote] I must dissagree with this, while I think minors too young shouldn't be using the internet except for school is a bad idea, I think minors that are mature enough can use PM as a way of getting advice from people, such as the vocation station. NEVER trust people over the internet, even if they say they are religous, and NEVER use their advice and trust it completely, but being since this is a catholic website mature enough minors with the right intentions should be allowed to come here and speak with others, as long as they keep their eyes open and their minds closed. I get what your saying about friendships being formed over PM are wrong and i agree. Having an adult coming here and pointing out that I have had 'friends' here that I speak with has helped me see that it was very immature of me but you also come here critizing me like I'm blind to the dangers. I am very grateful for your concern and your warning, I take it seriously now, but you must also realize that I'm not coming here hoping to make friends, get a date, or seek advice. I am very aware of the dangers. I shouldn't have relied on these people so much and I definitely shouldn't have relied on myself so much either it was immature and unwise I see that now. Please know that I am careful though, very careful. God Bless you, -uruviel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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BonnieLass Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 [quote name='uruviel' post='990338' date='May 25 2006, 10:07 AM'] I must dissagree with this, while I think minors too young shouldn't be using the internet except for school is a bad idea, I think minors that are mature enough can use PM as a way of getting advice from people, such as the vocation station. NEVER trust people over the internet, even if they say they are religous, and NEVER use their advice and trust it completely, but being since this is a catholic website mature enough minors with the right intentions should be allowed to come here and speak with others, as long as they keep their eyes open and their minds closed. I get what your saying about friendships being formed over PM are wrong and i agree. Having an adult coming here and pointing out that I have had 'friends' here that I speak with has helped me see that it was very immature of me but you also come here critizing me like I'm blind to the dangers. I am very grateful for your concern and your warning, I take it seriously now, but you must also realize that I'm not coming here hoping to make friends, get a date, or seek advice. I am very aware of the dangers. I shouldn't have relied on these people so much and I definitely shouldn't have relied on myself so much either it was immature and unwise I see that now. -uruviel [/quote] Your comments are self-contradictory. Why seek advice where you have to close your mind; the vocation station is no less secure? I was not criticizing you, only urging you to have your parents read your posts to determine your use of this forum. It is not my place to say. I am not comfortable with the security features on this forum for ANY minor (that would include the young man who posted above). This forum is public; its Catholic label does not guarantee safety. I have never agreed with the concept of seeking advice on a public forum from a group of potential strangers, which are not guaranteed to steer you in the proper Catholic direction. You have parents, a spiritual advisor, godparents, local friends, and siblings with which to seek counsel; PM is not the place to do this. NO minor should ever have a private conversation with a any person, especially with an adult, that your parents do not know personally and well. I do not doubt that you are attempting to be responsible, I am no less a good parent than your own; yet, I found my responsible child to have made unsafe mistakes. I again urge you to have your parents read ALL your posts and PMs to make a determination for you. I am not accusing you of doing anything wrong; your parents must determine that. The wise thing to do is to let them make that decision. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lightofelendil Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 [quote name='BonnieLass' post='990159' date='May 25 2006, 01:44 AM'] As a parent, BonnieLass', in fact, I am not at all pleased to see that this forum has become an avenue to discuss potential subscribers dating each other. This is NOT a single's forum. I am sorry to say, but one CANNOT get to know a person very well in a public forum. The fact that some on this forum are adults and others are minors makes the situation completely unacceptable!!! I know some of your parent, girls. It is obvious that some of you are not mature enough to discern what is acceptable conversation in a public forum and what is not. Are you girls comfortable with your parents knowing that this discussion has gone on in PhatMass???? BonnieLass is being unsuscribed from PhatMass. [/quote] [quote name='BonnieLass' post='990327' date='May 25 2006, 10:33 AM'] When someone whom I do not know at all plans to come from another state to my house, it is no longer a joke! Do not use my real name in this public space, please. Trust does not mean that you are absolutely able to make correct choices or that you will be wise about what you are doing. Not to demean anyone but is your strong friendship with this person based solely on postings in this forum? Again, not to demean anyone, but can you Uruviel, without a doubt say that people are who they say they are without living near them???? "WE ARE NOT DOING ONLINE DATING" When one purposely makes effort to chat with a particular person of the opposite gender in a public forum, it becomes a singles forum! I observed many comments to this effect. Minors in PhatMass should NOT be allowed to PM! It is dangerous. I see that there is absolutely no security in place to prevent this! I witnessed attempts by an adult that I do not know to communicate privately with my minor child. Not acceptable!!! I suggest that you be responsible and mature, Uruviel, and show ALL your posts and PMs, includng my posts, to your parents and let them decide if this forum is not indeed being properly utilized by yourself! You are NOT an adult and should not be making these choices on your own. If you are bored Uruviel, you could make MUCH better use of your time. Friendship is important but forming ureliable friendships on public space on the Internet is not WISE. This board needs to have higher security features for minors installed! I would no longer recommend it for ANY minor. [/quote] I dont know if bonnie's parents will read this, but i felt like i had to say something. I am very offended by what you said in your posts. I'm sorry that you feel that way about this phorum. And it is your choice if you want your kids to get off this forum. But it is very rude and offensive for you to sit there and tell minors and their parents what they can and can not do. (even if you are just giving suggestions) You are insulting the children on this forums parants, from what i see telling them that they are not being good parants in letting thier children get on this website. Judge your own kids all you want, but dont judge other kids and their family. (at least puplicly) Aslo, I am very offended with the way you talked to my sister. You not only judged every one on this forum, you also judged my sister, me and my family. You accused her of not being responisble and mature, and suggested she should show her posts to her parants. I think you were very out of line to bash people on this forum. I am sorry you dont like us, but its rude to throw your opinion in our faces. I will be praying for you, God Bless, lightofelendil (if any one feels the same way i do, please tell me) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heavenseeker Posted May 25, 2006 Author Share Posted May 25, 2006 ok i feel that the frendly nature that we have had been useing has been took wrong and that their is a huge missunderstanding. I understand concern but would never do anything to harm. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lightofelendil Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Sorry hs. dont take what they said personally. I understand what they said, but it think they were very out of line saying it. No one has anything wrong with you tho, we know the poll was just joking around.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heavenseeker Posted May 25, 2006 Author Share Posted May 25, 2006 yes but with me as a legal adult it was also wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lightofelendil Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 your a legal adult? oh wait i knew that. Yea i get your point. And its very mature of you to apologize, if you dont mind me saying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heavenseeker Posted May 25, 2006 Author Share Posted May 25, 2006 phisical age is what counts in the real world not if you were just joking around and thinking like a child because you dont want to have to be serious and dont share in with the adult humor as much as the younger humor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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