CrossCuT Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 [quote name='Tata126' post='995316' date='Jun 1 2006, 11:03 PM'] I disagree. I think physical attraction is very important to a relationship, though it's definitely not the most important thing. But God gave us our bodies, and He made them beautiful for a reason, and He gave us our sexual desires, to be used in the proper context, so I don't think you can completely ignore physical attraction. I dated someone I wasn't remotely attracted to, and I discovered that when you enjoy conversations with someone who you never want to touch you, that's friendship, not romance. Chances are, the person who's in love with someone unattractive has some reason for finding him attractive, though she knows that he's not conventionally attractive, or that most people wouldn't find him so. Because, like I said, if you love someone but have no desire for that person to touch you, that's friendship-love, not marriage-love. Besides, there have been all sorts of studies done on the factors that go into physical attraction, such as pheremones, and they've found that we're also attracted to people with whom we would produce the strongest babies - like, people don't find their parents' or siblings' pheremones attractive, for the obvious reason that incest produces weaker babies, and God wanted us to be attracted to people who would further the goal of filling the earth and subduing it. Woah, science can tell us things, too! [/quote] [size=1][color="330000"]I agree. This might sound immoral, but I think there has to be a physical, or at least sexual attraction to a romantic relationship. Because when you are just friends, physicial appearence should not matter at all. In the situation of friends, NO ONE should take into account physical appearence. But in romantic dating relationships, it is vital that there is an attraction there. Of course the important one is stability with your two personalities, a physical attraction takes second place. [/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uruviel Posted June 3, 2006 Share Posted June 3, 2006 Yes but just because your ugly doesn't mean you will never marry, people might be attracted to other features about you other than your phsyical features and still have romance! I don't think it's VITAL for a relationship, I think it plays a MAJOR part in todays society but I def. don't think it's vital. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarcasmguy126 Posted June 3, 2006 Author Share Posted June 3, 2006 [quote name='CrossCuT' post='994309' date='May 31 2006, 11:35 PM'] [size=1][color="330000"]Though I agree that we all should not judge by appearance and that you all are superheroes to say you only see people for their personality, but I do not think physical appearance plays no roles in how we see people. It does have an effect whether we like it or not. I am sure that when you see some bald bicker guy wearing a ripped leather jacket and has tattoos up the china, you are not too apt to walk up and ask him out to tea. That is an example of how someone’s appearance can cause first impressions. So if you guys dont do that, you would say "HEY! He looks like a nice guy!" And go right up and ask him over to your grandma's house for dinner. I DOUBT you would ever do that because of the way he looked. As hard as I try, I know appearance will have an effect on me whether it be big or small, it will and I cant help that due to the fact I am human. No one is immune to it. But what I can say is that appearance plays a role in relationships too (gf bf) because I doubt you would want to date someone if you were not physically attracted to them. That might sound shallow, but our degrees of attraction are all different and we may like people who others think or ugly, but we think they are prince charming. It is a touchy issue, but bLAH! I think physical appearance has a weigh in our impressions whether we like to think so or not. [/color][/size] [/quote] well i never said physical beauty had NOTHING to do with it...just some of it...sorry if i wasn't clear Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heavenseeker Posted June 3, 2006 Share Posted June 3, 2006 what topic is this on now? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Rick777 Posted June 3, 2006 Share Posted June 3, 2006 It's gone back and forth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proud2BCatholic139 Posted June 3, 2006 Share Posted June 3, 2006 I don't know what has been said already... but... Beauty is more than skin deep. Think about the person you marry 60 years from now. Their physical beauty will be gone, but their personality is still there. However, if you are not attracted to them physically, one component is lost to make a lasting relationship work. However, I'm not saying that looks is all that is needed. Because, one person of the opposite sex can be beautiful, but there are no brains. On the other hand, one can be intelligent, but not physical attractiveness. There has to be some commonground. Jason Everett even said so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted June 4, 2006 Share Posted June 4, 2006 [quote name='uruviel' post='995657' date='Jun 2 2006, 06:14 PM'] Yes but just because your ugly doesn't mean you will never marry, people might be attracted to other features about you other than your phsyical features and still have romance! I don't think it's VITAL for a relationship, I think it plays a MAJOR part in todays society but I def. don't think it's vital. [/quote] I agree with what you say! And I believe I mentioned it in my post too. Just because some people find a person ugly does not mean another person will. All our degrees of attraction are different. When I would like a guy for example, and I would tell my friend, she would often be like "What? are you seriouse??" because according to the almighty opinions of the stereo crowd at school, the guy I was attracted to was "ugly". I didnt think so... [quote name='Proud2BCatholic139' post='996013' date='Jun 3 2006, 05:54 AM'] I don't know what has been said already... but... Beauty is more than skin deep. Think about the person you marry 60 years from now. Their physical beauty will be gone, but their personality is still there. However, if you are not attracted to them physically, one component is lost to make a lasting relationship work. However, I'm not saying that looks is all that is needed. Because, one person of the opposite sex can be beautiful, but there are no brains. On the other hand, one can be intelligent, but not physical attractiveness. There has to be some commonground. Jason Everett even said so. [/quote] [size=1][color="330000"]When you are younger and when you are older there are different bonds of attraction being made. It might sound crazy but it is true. Younger couples NEED some type of physical attraction to be able to stay together (it isnt the most important one, but it has to be there) because they need that element of a sexual desire (har har) for their purpose right now is to have babies! LOTS OF BABIES! So that they keep the unitive and procreative meanings in place. While older couples have moved past those elements because they no longer have their childeren to look after (they grow up) and stuff does happen to you when you get older and so they look more into a relationships of support and deeper friendship to replace what they had when they were younger. I dont think that made complete sense on paper, but I have it all striaght in my mind. [/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TridentineMotoX Posted June 4, 2006 Share Posted June 4, 2006 (edited) I agree. I think. Heaven Seeker, to answer your question. Bonnielass abused here previlledges on the computer and she knew it. I'm 19, WAY more experienced that her, and can take care of myself. Edited June 4, 2006 by TridentineMotoX Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heavenseeker Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 ok interesting seems to be a patern in thinking age makes you immuned in your family. it helps but does not fix everything. But to stay on the real topic. Phisical beauty is only skin deep and its importance is equaly as it is. What counts is spiritual beauty, that is where the true bonds are made. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tata126 Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 I absolutely agree that physical beauty is not what a relationship should be based on, because it will fade eventually. I also agree that everyone is attracted to different people; it gives hope to those of us who haven't been asked out in a really long time. But the ultimate difference between friendship-love and romance-love, I think, is physical attraction. I mean, I can be friends with the most wonderful guy in the world, but if I'm not attracted to him, there's nothing I can do about it, no matter how much I want to convince myself that I am attracted to him. If it's not there, it's not, and honestly, I don't want to marry someone if I'm not going to be thrilled to have him touch me on our wedding night. But it's not the most important thing, at all. The most important thing is to have someone who loves God, and is trustworthy and honest, someone you can have amazing conversations with, and someone who will help you get closer to God. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heavenseeker Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 if you truly love someone then it shouldn't matter what they look like Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 [size=1][color="330000"]I think that if you truly love someone then you will love them no matter what they look like. And therefore be attracted to them. Maybe I am crazy. [/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uruviel Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 [quote name='CrossCuT' post='996296' date='Jun 3 2006, 08:06 PM'] I agree with what you say! And I believe I mentioned it in my post too. Just because some people find a person ugly does not mean another person will. All our degrees of attraction are different. When I would like a guy for example, and I would tell my friend, she would often be like "What? are you seriouse??" because according to the almighty opinions of the stereo crowd at school, the guy I was attracted to was "ugly". I didnt think so... [size=1][color="330000"]When you are younger and when you are older there are different bonds of attraction being made. It might sound crazy but it is true. Younger couples NEED some type of physical attraction to be able to stay together (it isnt the most important one, but it has to be there) because they need that element of a sexual desire (har har) for their purpose right now is to have babies! LOTS OF BABIES! So that they keep the unitive and procreative meanings in place. While older couples have moved past those elements because they no longer have their childeren to look after (they grow up) and stuff does happen to you when you get older and so they look more into a relationships of support and deeper friendship to replace what they had when they were younger. I dont think that made complete sense on paper, but I have it all striaght in my mind. [/color][/size] [/quote] I absolutely understand that, it made perfect sense, that whole, when your older it replaces the desire to have babies, thing, lol. I get it now. At least I've formed my opinion now. Thanks! [quote name='CrossCuT' post='996886' date='Jun 4 2006, 10:29 PM'] [size=1][color="330000"]I think that if you truly love someone then you will love them no matter what they look like. And therefore be attracted to them. Maybe I am crazy. [/color][/size] [/quote] Yeah, so, to love someone, you have to have turn on's, (oh great here we go, I'm gettting deep into it) God had to make us so that we can live together, he had to make pairs. Well when you meet someone, things in their personality turn you on, and maybe physically they don't turn you on. But you are still attracted to them because of DIFFERENT features in them! Say you meet someone who is physically attractive, and you date them. Then you get to know THEM and they turn you off, because of their personality. I think it more rely's on personality, despite the major role that looks play in our romance, part of life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heavenseeker Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 is this one of those long post only threads? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uruviel Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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