Fides_et_Ratio Posted August 27, 2006 Share Posted August 27, 2006 [quote name='Norseman82' post='1051565' date='Aug 27 2006, 01:10 PM'] Somehow I don't think that lobbing St. Anthony statues at women would work for me - they'd probably file lawsuits and orders of protection. [/quote] well, if you lobbed a St. Anthony statue at a woman, you'd probably knock her out. Women don't typically throw things as hard as men do. : Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norseman82 Posted August 27, 2006 Share Posted August 27, 2006 [quote name='annabelle87' post='1051146' date='Aug 26 2006, 06:41 PM'] So I met this amazing guy last November and we started dating in January...he's 23, grad student, Catholic, doesn't party, values family, respects me, respects my family...wow amazing right? I felt so blessed...I found the kind of person I've always prayed about. He broke up with me a few weeks ago for stupid reasons. I was/am dumbfounded. My parents even liked him and thought we would get married. I know I need to trust God because He has a plan and I know this isn't gonna sound too Christian but I hate love and I hate men and I hate having my heart broken again and again. And this time could be the worst, because he was so different. It's not fair. I hate it! I'm sorry don't mean to sound like a pathetic case but I just needed to vent [/quote] I don't know what the "stupid reasons" are - and keep in mind that one person's "stupid reasons" could be another person's legitimate dealbreakers. Have you discussed this with someone like a solid priest? Or trusted family? They could validate whether they are truly "stupid reasons". For this reason you should also try to include some male feedback as well (priest, father, brother). Now, if you validate that these are truly "stupid reasons", there may be the chance that this guy may want another chance. In this case, [b]lay down the law[/b] with him and tell him you don't want to be strung along with mind games. If not, see who he ends up dating. It is sickening how many nice people are dumped for lowlife and even more sickening that people are harder on the nice people for "not accepting it as part of God's plan" to cover up the fact that they don't have the guts to confront the louts in the world who mistreat the nice people. [quote name='Fides_et_Ratio' post='1051569' date='Aug 27 2006, 12:12 PM'] well, if you lobbed a St. Anthony statue at a woman, you'd probably knock her out. Women don't typically throw things as hard as men do. : [/quote] You obviously never met my mom's side of the family (while they were still alive)! They would make drill sergeants look like Mother Theresa. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jswranch Posted August 27, 2006 Share Posted August 27, 2006 Any chance God is sending you a message that you are called to be a cellibate of some sort? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
God the Father Posted August 27, 2006 Share Posted August 27, 2006 [quote name='jswranch' post='1051665' date='Aug 27 2006, 04:09 PM'] Any chance God is sending you a message that you are called to be a cellibate of some sort? [/quote] [img]http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y35/PeteLiv/ceburn.gif[/img] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scardella Posted August 27, 2006 Share Posted August 27, 2006 Just so that you know, there are guys in the same sort of position... take it from a veteran of that. Sometimes God lets things like this happen, but He manages to bring you closer to Him in the process. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uruviel Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 just remember that it's not like you are un-loved. In Jesus's heart you are His love, and if we call on Him through these hard times we grow closer to Him and learn to deal with these hardships in His sacred heart. God Bless you!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maddalena Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 I used to worry about the same thing -- all the time. I finally just decided to forget about it and live my life because I realized how silly I sounded -- now I'm engaged. It pays to just live your life and kind of forget about it, then God will throw what it is you really want your way. That's my experience anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldenchild17 Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 (edited) [quote name='annabelle87' post='1051146' date='Aug 26 2006, 06:41 PM'] So I met this amazing guy last November and we started dating in January...he's 23, grad student, Catholic, doesn't party, values family, respects me, respects my family...wow amazing right? I felt so blessed...I found the kind of person I've always prayed about. He broke up with me a few weeks ago for stupid reasons. I was/am dumbfounded. My parents even liked him and thought we would get married. I know I need to trust God because He has a plan and I know this isn't gonna sound too Christian but I hate love and I hate men and I hate having my heart broken again and again. And this time could be the worst, because he was so different. It's not fair. I hate it! I'm sorry don't mean to sound like a pathetic case but I just needed to vent [/quote] It smells of elderberries but be patient. If you're meant to get married you will. I've had a lot of the same thoughts as you. It seems all the girls I ever have interest in or start to go out with or whatever always end up entering convent . While it's not cool to keep losing opportunities like that, it made me realize that at least I'm picking on the right kind of girls . So, take what you can from the experience and you'll learn something from it, like I did. Edited August 28, 2006 by goldenchild17 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Josie07 Posted April 23, 2007 Share Posted April 23, 2007 wow this is scary.. you just described my life Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thessalonian Posted April 23, 2007 Share Posted April 23, 2007 I've been there from the male side of things. I didn't get married till I was 38 and she wasn't Catholic. But she converted. Keep the faith. The Lord has something in mind for you. I will pray. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 [quote name='thessalonian' post='1254427' date='Apr 23 2007, 06:50 PM']I've been there from the male side of things. I didn't get married till I was 38 and she wasn't Catholic. But she converted. Keep the faith. The Lord has something in mind for you. I will pray.[/quote] See, now that's inspiring, esp. since you now have 8 kids. I'm 30 and I haven't dated much. It is really rare for me to find a guy I can connect with and grow to trust ... I can count the number of guys I've felt that way about on one hand. Those guys are jewels, and at this point I am just not willing to spend time investing in a relationship with someone who is not a jewel. I'm not a casual dater. So I am instead trusting that I am doing what God has called me to do, and that if he wishes to grant me a loving marriage, then so be it. If not, then I'm sure I will be OK then too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ash Wednesday Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 I've come to realize over time that whatever happens, even if it's a lesson we don't understand right now, it usually turns out to be for the best in the end. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pontifite 7 of 10 Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 [quote name='annabelle87' post='1051146' date='Aug 26 2006, 06:41 PM']I know I need to trust God because He has a plan and I know this isn't gonna sound too Christian but I hate love and I hate men and I hate having my heart broken again and again. And this time could be the worst, because he was so different. It's not fair. I hate it![/quote] I think God is trying to tell you something...*convent* hmhmh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bonoducchi Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 (edited) Could it be that these two people just weren't compatible? Why must we immeadiately suggest that she is being called to a religious vocation or that "God has a plan that will be revelaed when you throw a statue at someone." Sometimes people just don't want to date you anymore - for better or for worse. I'm sure they're are plenty of other men who would be interested in getting to know you better. I'm single and parishioners are constantly asking "Why? Are you going to be a priest?" The reply is always no, I just haven't found anyone I'm mutally interested in. People need to realize singleness is not this miserable, lonely existance that people are condemned to like its a desert island. The choice alwyas seems to be marriage or religious vocations, with no real appreciation for the middle ground. Its a perfectly joyful way of living in which you can embrace a life of service and freedom to live the way you want to (where you live, what color you paint the wall, when you eat, work schedule, how much to pay for cable, vacations.....). Being single is certainly not the end of the world. They're are plenty of us that do it all day, every day. Most of the time, I enjoy it because it allows me the freedom to work as much as I need to at my parish without fear that my relationship will suffer from it. Enjoy singleness - find a new hobby or rekindle old friendships that have withered with time. You don't need to date someone to be happy. And don't find a trad man just to get married - that sounds like a receipe for disaster. Edited April 24, 2007 by VaticanIILiturgist Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tindomiel Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 (edited) [quote name='annabelle87' post='1051146' date='Aug 26 2006, 07:41 PM']So I met this amazing guy last November and we started dating in January...he's 23, grad student, Catholic, doesn't party, values family, respects me, respects my family...wow amazing right? I felt so blessed...I found the kind of person I've always prayed about. He broke up with me a few weeks ago for stupid reasons. I was/am dumbfounded. My parents even liked him and thought we would get married. I know I need to trust God because He has a plan and I know this isn't gonna sound too Christian but I hate love and I hate men and I hate having my heart broken again and again. And this time could be the worst, because he was so different. It's not fair. I hate it! I'm sorry don't mean to sound like a pathetic case but I just needed to vent [/quote] My mom has a very similar story. As it turned out, the guy she had been engaged to wouldn't have been good for her at all. Then a few years later she met my dad. Maybe God just wants to make sure you marry the right person. [quote name='Tindomiel' post='1051201' date='Aug 26 2006, 09:29 PM'][/quote] [quote name='Tindomiel' post='1051214' date='Aug 26 2006, 09:47 PM'][/quote] [b]Who has been posting under my name?!?!?![/b] Blarghefur. Edited April 24, 2007 by Tindomiel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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