Autumn Dusk Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Go on a hiking trip for your honeymoon. Sleeping in a tent is cheap and if you buy trail food at the grocer not the hiking store it stays cheap.
Thy Geekdom Come Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 My parents finally decided to help us out. Praise God! We were so scared about everything, lol, and they weren't giving any indication of wanting to help. Thank you all for generous offers you made. God bless, Micah
Archaeology cat Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 That's great, Micah! But seriously, I would have helped were I not an ocean away.
Thy Geekdom Come Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='Archaeology cat' post='1403022' date='Oct 15 2007, 12:52 PM']That's great, Micah! But seriously, I would have helped were I not an ocean away. [/quote] Thank you. I truly appreciate the generosity on this website. My only wish is that parishioners would be this generous in supporting youth ministry.
photosynthesis Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 I feel your pain. Getting married is so expensive!!! What kind of wedding are you having?
scardella Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 It's called the money dance... not the dollar dance, people! Get it straight!
Thy Geekdom Come Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='scardella' post='1403079' date='Oct 15 2007, 04:32 PM']It's called the money dance... not the dollar dance, people! Get it straight![/quote] Exactly. We also accept Visa, Mastercard, or Money Order. No personal checks. Sorry, no C.O.D.'s.
Thy Geekdom Come Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='photosynthesis' post='1403047' date='Oct 15 2007, 02:19 PM']I feel your pain. Getting married is so expensive!!! What kind of wedding are you having?[/quote] I'm not sure in what way you mean that, so I'll say this: It's a winter wedding (but in the south, so there shouldn't be any snow), it's a Nuptial Mass, it's a small gathering, it's a thrifty gathering, and my bride will be wearing white. Not sure if that answered your question, but that's about all I know to say.
prose Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 I think dollar dances can be tacky. They are not the norm for around here. But if I could have gotten away with it, I would have. I know people who have had "Jack and Jill" parties to help fund weddings. Basically a fundraiser party. I don't know how I feel about that either.
Thy Geekdom Come Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='prose' post='1403090' date='Oct 15 2007, 04:45 PM']I think dollar dances can be tacky.[/quote] Jennie agrees.
jmjtina Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 It's not uncommon to have dollar dances down in South Texas. Besides, I love them. Is there any other time where everyone can have a chance to dance with the bride and groom? it's called the dollar dance down here. and it's only tacky if your culture doesn't do it. Hispanics have EVERYONE, padrino's (godparents) aunts, uncles, etc. help out with the wedding. It's an honor to be asked. So what may be tacky to you is actually an honor in an other culture. From invitations, to music, to the hall, you name it, we have it covered. When I was young I asked why we did this. The answer was simple. "Because we know how hard it is to start off a new marriage and our culture helps each other. " I had one friend who asked for $$ bridal gifts instead of presents because they had everything but they needed to fix the house. It worked like a charm. Guests always want to know what would be more helpful!
MissScripture Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='prose' post='1403090' date='Oct 15 2007, 04:45 PM']I think dollar dances can be tacky. They are not the norm for around here. But if I could have gotten away with it, I would have. I know people who have had "Jack and Jill" parties to help fund weddings. Basically a fundraiser party. I don't know how I feel about that either.[/quote] I don't know if I've ever been to a wedding that didn't have a dollar dance, actually. My parents didn't have a dance, just a meal, and even then, they took my mom's shoe and passed it around and people put money in it. (My parents actually had nothing to do with that. One of the altar boys stole her shoe.) What is a "Jack and Jill" party? I don't think I've ever heard of that.
Thy Geekdom Come Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='jmjtina' post='1403156' date='Oct 15 2007, 06:35 PM']It's not uncommon to have dollar dances down in South Texas. Besides, I love them. Is there any other time where everyone can have a chance to dance with the bride and groom? it's called the dollar dance down here. and it's only tacky if your culture doesn't do it. Hispanics have EVERYONE, padrino's (godparents) aunts, uncles, etc. help out with the wedding. It's an honor to be asked. So what may be tacky to you is actually an honor in an other culture. From invitations, to music, to the hall, you name it, we have it covered. When I was young I asked why we did this. The answer was simple. "Because we know how hard it is to start off a new marriage and our culture helps each other. " I had one friend who asked for $$ bridal gifts instead of presents because they had everything but they needed to fix the house. It worked like a charm. Guests always want to know what would be more helpful![/quote] Ah, you see, but in my culture, it is tacky to ask for money. Now, I really don't have a problem with it, but I think it's because if I ask for money, that means someone can't give a sentimental gift that they thought would express how they felt about us, etc. I can understand that...but then, a toaster isn't all that sentimental, so maybe those who would have given us appliances could just give us money, while those who wanted to express their thoughts about us could give us possessions.
Thy Geekdom Come Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 btw, I woke up this morning to find 14,000 tacos, so very tasty and good for you, in my PM wallet. Was that someone's idea of a joke?
Dreamweaver Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Dollar dances are common among us in the upper Midwest too. I don't see how they can be tacky! Garter auctions are tacky though, and a bit creepy when the father of the bride wins the garter. I guess it would be creepy no matter who bought it (besides the husband!) Ask around to see if you have any family or friends that can help out in anyway? Maybe you have an aunt that can do hair for the women? Some of my fiances' relatives helped his cousin with arranging flowers and boutonnières, and it looked very nice and saved hundreds of dollars.
Thy Geekdom Come Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 [quote name='Dreamweaver' post='1403225' date='Oct 15 2007, 08:23 PM']Dollar dances are common among us in the upper Midwest too. I don't see how they can be tacky! Garter auctions are tacky though, and a bit creepy when the father of the bride wins the garter. I guess it would be creepy no matter who bought it (besides the husband!) Ask around to see if you have any family or friends that can help out in anyway? Maybe you have an aunt that can do hair for the women? Some of my fiances' relatives helped his cousin with arranging flowers and boutonnières, and it looked very nice and saved hundreds of dollars.[/quote] Well, yeah, we've pretty much gotten it as cheap as we can...the food is $30 for every 12-16 people, the photographer is a friend of the matron of honor, the cake is being made by a cousin of the bride who's a baker, the honeymoon was going to be on discount with a company my mother works for, but we went with something even cheaper, lol, and someone (a phatmasser) offered to donate the groomsman's gifts to the wedding party. Basically, we've done the best we could. Oh, and the reception hall is free.
Old_Joe Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Hey, I know this may be a bad time right now, but you owe me $32,000 in legal fees.
prose Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 [quote name='MissScripture' post='1403164' date='Oct 15 2007, 05:45 PM']What is a "Jack and Jill" party? I don't think I've ever heard of that.[/quote] Basically, it is like a bridal shower, but all of the bride and groom's friends are invited, and it is a "fundraiser". They do things like dollar raffles, and silent auctions, some even charge a cover charge for the event. It is popular in some regions. Again, I am REALLY uncomfortable with anything asking for money. One wedding I knew, the girl invited me to her Jack and Jill, asked for money, but never even invited me to her actual wedding
Thy Geekdom Come Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 [quote name='prose' post='1403362' date='Oct 15 2007, 11:15 PM']Basically, it is like a bridal shower, but all of the bride and groom's friends are invited, and it is a "fundraiser". They do things like dollar raffles, and silent auctions, some even charge a cover charge for the event. It is popular in some regions. Again, I am REALLY uncomfortable with anything asking for money. One wedding I knew, the girl invited me to her Jack and Jill, asked for money, but never even invited me to her actual wedding [/quote] Yeah...that's just plain rude. Gotta invite those who help cover the cost.
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