Self Image

[Nihil Obstat]

I think embarrassment is like.. my biggest fear. Lol. I go to great lengths to avoid it. Part of why I'm so shy.

I used to have a pretty poor self image. Now it's doing better. There's one guy's story.

[Angel*Star]

I hold a very double standard. What is perfectly fine and okay for those around me is totally out of the question for me. I don't even believe my husband of over 20 years because he "has" to say I am beautiful. Now, that being said...I do amaze myself sometimes when I look in the mirror and like what I see. However, now that I am three months pregnant...not big enough for people to know I am pregnant...not thin enough for me to not care...and don't dare try to diet now...my self image gets in the way A LOT! Plus I am tired a lot and some how think eating will help me feel better. HOWEVER, I am grateful to be me and glad God created me in His image. And He has blessed me in so many ways. I just have to get my thoughts off myself and onto what is way more important.

[mariahLVzJP2]

[quote name='Lil Red' post='1907439' date='Jul 1 2009, 05:38 PM']+J.M.J.+
anybody else have a problem with theirs? [/quote]
Yes, especially working in the fashion industry where the "ideal" image is everywhere & i look at magazines a lot for work.

[Resurrexi]

[quote name='Nihil Obstat' post='1907765' date='Jul 1 2009, 10:58 PM']I think embarrassment is like.. my biggest fear. Lol. I go to great lengths to avoid it. Part of why I'm so shy.[/quote]

My biggest fear is dying in mortal sin.



Other than that, IAWTC.

[OraProMe]

Nope, I like the way I look and I don't lack confidence.
I'm a really happy person in general.

[Hassan]

[quote name='icelandic_iceskater' post='1907572' date='Jul 1 2009, 08:49 PM']For some reason I've never been all that conscious about my looks. I mean, yeah, I have my days, but generally speaking I don't really give it any thought [/quote]





I don't understand why people freak out about it.


If you let yourself go for a time eat less and go to the gym. Aside from that, and I guess tanning, you have what you have. Why obsess?

[VeniteAdoremus]

[quote name='Angel*Star' post='1907771' date='Jul 2 2009, 07:06 AM']I hold a very double standard. What is perfectly fine and okay for those around me is totally out of the question for me. I don't even believe my husband of over 20 years because he "has" to say I am beautiful.[/quote]

I had the same! Very strongly. I didn't believe my boyfriend at all.

Then we broke up and he still said it, so I was inclined to believe him more

And I also know about the double standard. When I think about it, the five prettiest women in my acquaintance are all heavier than average, but that doesn't mean I'm "allowed" to.

What was really tough for me in secondary school is that I was about twenty pounds heavier than the other girls. Granted, I was also a foot taller. But when they complain about "almost" being some weight that's not even near to your own weight... something does stick, in the back of your mind.

The height thing also means people on the street are more likely to stare and yell things at you, which aren't often positive. Doesn't help either. I really needed to grow up before I could enjoy that God chose to make me special.

[cmotherofpirl]

[quote name='Lil Red' post='1907439' date='Jul 1 2009, 06:38 PM']+J.M.J.+
anybody else have a problem with theirs? [/quote]
I have met very few women who don't have some issue with how they feel about themselves. As long as I don't look in a mirror, talk to another person, or leave the house I am fine. Sometimes.

[Lil Red]

[quote name='cmotherofpirl' post='1908173' date='Jul 2 2009, 10:06 AM']I have met very few women who don't have some issue with how they feel about themselves. As long as I don't look in a mirror, talk to another person, or leave the house I am fine. Sometimes.[/quote]
+J.M.J.+
i love you.

[rizz_loves_jesus]

[quote name='Lil Red' post='1907439' date='Jul 1 2009, 05:38 PM']+J.M.J.+
anybody else have a problem with theirs? [/quote]

Yes

[Seven77]

[quote name='Nihil Obstat' post='1907765' date='Jul 1 2009, 10:58 PM']I think embarrassment is like.. my biggest fear. Lol. I go to great lengths to avoid it. Part of why I'm so shy.

I used to have a pretty poor self image. Now it's doing better. There's one guy's story.[/quote]

Word brother. I can relate. I avoided making friends even. For me it is being in a wheelchair due to muscular dystrophy... obsession with preoccupations on how others perceive me...

[goldenchild17]

[quote name='Seven77' post='1908266' date='Jul 2 2009, 01:08 PM']For me it is being in a wheelchair due to muscular dystrophy[/quote]

I didn't know you were I am too, for spina bifida tho..

Edited July 2, 2009 by goldenchild17

[TeresaBenedicta]

Oh yeah.

So much so that I tend to pull the "not caring" card. Because I still have issues when I try and look nice, go out of my way and such... I tend to despise those types of things. So for the most part I don't wear make-up or take a lot of interest in fashion (I'm good with jeans and sweatshirt). Try to give off the "I don't have self-image issues" vibe. But I do.

I wish I were skinnier. I might be able to believe that I were pretty if I were.

But... I look back at pictures of myself, and I think "Gosh, I was pretty back then, what happened to me?" But, 'back then' I thought I was ugly. Sooo... it's probably just the same psychological issue most women struggle with.

[IcePrincessKRS]

I'm still a good 25-30 lbs over my normal weight. Definitely having self-image issues. And when i lose that I'll still be disgruntled because my belly isn't as flat as I'd like, or other areas *ahem*haha* aren't what they used to be. It's a never ending battle with self.

[Lil Red]

[quote name='IcePrincessKRS' post='1908439' date='Jul 2 2009, 04:34 PM']I'm still a good 25-30 lbs over my normal weight. Definitely having self-image issues. And when i lose that I'll still be disgruntled because my belly isn't as flat as I'd like, or other areas *ahem*haha* aren't what they used to be. It's a never ending battle with self.[/quote]
+J.M.J.+
yeah, i think after pregnancy is the time when i really struggle with body image issues. no matter what i wear or put on, what i see in the mirror is not pretty (to me).

[Nihil Obstat]

[quote name='Seven77' post='1908266' date='Jul 2 2009, 01:08 PM']Word brother. I can relate. I avoided making friends even. For me it is being in a wheelchair due to muscular dystrophy... obsession with preoccupations on how others perceive me...[/quote]
It's strange for me. I don't say it often, but I'm actually pretty happy with the way I look. I don't have much confidence in how I relate to people though. Working on it........ That must be one of the hardest things to change. in a person.
Although I don't face the same challenges that you must come up against. I shouldn't whine.

[missionseeker]

[quote name='VeniteAdoremus' post='1907990' date='Jul 2 2009, 04:35 AM']I had the same! Very strongly. I didn't believe my boyfriend at all.

Then we broke up and he still said it, so I was inclined to believe him more

And I also know about the double standard. When I think about it, the five prettiest women in my acquaintance are all heavier than average, but that doesn't mean I'm "allowed" to.

What was really tough for me in secondary school is that I was about twenty pounds heavier than the other girls. Granted, I was also a foot taller. But when they complain about "almost" being some weight that's not even near to your own weight... something does stick, in the back of your mind.

The height thing also means people on the street are more likely to stare and yell things at you, which aren't often positive. Doesn't help either. I really needed to grow up before I could enjoy that God chose to make me special.[/quote]

I have the weight thing, without the height. My friend and I are (were) almost the same size. We could wear the same size pants and such. She was 110. I was not. We weighed the same after she gained forty pounds. After five months of pregnancy. I once was being weighed and the doctor thought her scale was broken.

AND... I have to buy clothes weird. Barely any nice shirts fit me. And I buy for my thighs, not my waist which gets annoying. Thing is, it makes me feel "fat" (not really fat, just.. big.. idk) but.. it's not fat, it's just muscle. idk.

that's my issue.

[whatsup]

For me its not size but that I look 10 years younger than I am. So everyone treats me like a child. I work at a university and when staff don't know me they as what HS or Middle school I'm from and what I'd like to do with my life.

*punch you in the face* is what I want to say, but I have to smile and be polite.

And please don't patronize me with the "you'll like it when you're older" beucase I've heard that way too much. My mom and dad and brothers look young, and no one ever knows we're a family. My dad's grown out of despising it and my mom mostly enjoys it but as they approach retirement they both acknowledge it'd be nice not to have people think that they're their friend's children when they go out.

And then no matter what group I'm in I become the "kid".

I really. really hate it.

[CatherineM]

My biggest problem in clothes has always been my thighs which have always been big even when I was skinny, and my shoulders and upper arms. I've got a neck like a Cardassian. It's near impossible to find women's shirts designed for my shoulders. Sometimes if they have shoulder pads, I can remove them and they fit, but have never been able to wear a purse with a shoulder strap because of the slope of my shoulders.

[Luthien]

[quote name='CatherineM' post='1909063' date='Jul 3 2009, 10:44 AM']My biggest problem in clothes has always been my thighs which have always been big even when I was skinny, and my shoulders and upper arms. [b]I've got a neck like a Cardassian.[/b] It's near impossible to find women's shirts designed for my shoulders. Sometimes if they have shoulder pads, I can remove them and they fit, but have never been able to wear a purse with a shoulder strap because of the slope of my shoulders.[/quote]


Love the Star Trek reference.

I think pregnancy has messed with my self image. I feel like I look a little weird pregnant, because I have no gained weight much in other places beside my abdomen. I am worried about how Ill look postpartum, Im sure I won't look the same...