Finding Other Catholic Virgins?

[the171]

I read this thread solely for Selah's posts.

[the171]

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Edited July 24, 2013 by the171

[Amppax]

That's five minutes I'll never get back.

 

Watch Kid Batman.  It'll make everything better.  

[homeschoolmom]

Polski-

You say that you wish to avoid marrying a person with a mental illness, and that is certainly your prerogative. No argument from me there. However, I wonder if you would have compassion on your child if s/he had a mental illness. It seems to me that you fail to see that you can love a person even if they do not meet up to your hopes, dreams and expectations.

 

 

[Norseman82]

Polskiserce,

 

Another idea came to mind when i was driving to the store to get some groceries.  Since you appear to be seeking someone similar to you, and by your screen name and your statement that your parents came from a conservative Catholic country I conclude that you are the son of Polish immigrants (if not one yourself), are there any Polish parishes in your area?  Maybe they have a young adult group.  My experience with Polish Catholic immigrants is that, for those who are faithful churchgoers, they are conservative Catholics, and I would wager that you might have a better chance of finding someone with a similar backgroind and values in that venue.  If you're in the Chicago area, Holy Trinity Polish Mission at Division and Noble (right off the Kennedy Expressway) has (or at least used to have) a young adult group, and they by and large impressed me as a conservative group of people. 

 

Another place to try is the National Catholic Singles Conference: 

 http://www.nationalcatholicsingles.com/

 

This year it is being held in Philadelphia.  The family that organizes the event also are conservative, faithful Catholics (they worship at an eastern-rite Catholic parish). 

 

I cannot gurantee that all the women there are virgins (BTW, when I attended the ones in Chicago, I noticed that the median age of attendees is 30s-40s, in case you were wondering), but I would wager that you stand a better chance there than most other places.

Edited July 24, 2013 by Norseman82

[Norseman82]

Norseman, how about we talk tomorrow... know I'm praying for you regardless.  Thank you for praying for me too!   :)  I hope all is well for you!  

 

SM

 

I may not be around too much tomorrow. 

[Apotheoun]

This thread makes me miss Budge and Stormstopper.

[Anastasia13]

This thread makes me miss Budge and Stormstopper.

 

 

This thread is like a grease fire, and people keep throwing water on it. Water, water, water, and the grease still burns.

[CatherineM]

Christopher Revees' wife hadn't planned to marry a paralyzed man. Michael J. Fox's wife hadn't planned to marry a man with Parkinson's disease. That's why those vows about sickness and health and better or worse are in there.

If you can't live life without having sex with a virgin, do what other degenerates do and buy a 13 year old in Thailand or the Philippines. Live there for six years and you can legally marry her and bring her back to the US. If you want a catholic, choose the Philippines.

[HisChildForever]

Christopher Revees' wife hadn't planned to marry a paralyzed man. Michael J. Fox's wife hadn't planned to marry a man with Parkinson's disease. That's why those vows about sickness and health and better or worse are in there.

If you can't live life without having sex with a virgin, do what other degenerates do and buy a 13 year old in Thailand or the Philippines. Live there for six years and you can legally marry her and bring her back to the US. If you want a catholic, choose the Philippines.

 

She has to be white, Catherine. Guess you missed those posts. :|

[polskieserce]

You need serious help.  I've already addressed all of this.  Does the fact that every woman on this thread is disgusted in you get anything through to your brain??  Not even uninterested but generally disgusted in you.

 

I have two tattoos... I'm not a gangster.  I'm a sister... and I live in inner city Philadelphia... and I haven't met anyone as scary as you.  Seriously, your comments are EXACTLY the way men who abuse and rape women justify their actions because you know what... its all about YOU and your needs and your desires and your wants and what you deserve and what you worked for...!!!

 

I hoped you would be a participating member of society by turning from the unhealthy and disgusting views about race, sexuality, and humanity that you are spewing everywhere but now I just hope that no woman gets involved with you.  You need to get over whatever happened to you as a child and in your family - in therapy.

 

Again, where are your rebuttals to the points I made??  All I see is "You are mentally ill, you have distorted views about everything, you are super selfish, you need therapy".  Here is a question for you, does that mean that white people who live in the suburbs have distorted views of race?  White people flock to the suburbs and minorities flock to the cities so that every group gets to be with its own kind.  I will post this link so you can see that this is a common mentality. 

 

Oh yeah... and you and the drug addict are completely equal... its called the Gospel... you might want to read it.

 

And knowing a few drug addicts, I'd rather spend time with them than with someone like you - not because they are better but because they are certainly more pleasant.

 

Edited because I didn't want P to think that I was putting him beneath anyone... that wouldn't be the Gospel either!

 

Lol, tell that to any employer who pays decently.  If you prefer them over someone like me, go right ahead and do what you want.  I live 90 minutes north of you, outside of Allentown.  I have seen some of the people roaming around in the more dangerous sections  :unsure:   In the social and capitalist hierarchies we have in America, those people TEND to be closer to the bottom.

 

Since I work with the mentally ill (including the MICA population)...I'm just disgusted by the comments made about them, as well as the "addict under the bridge." I've found SUCH joy working with schizophrenics and addicts alike, and my compassion for them is endless. This flippant attitude - this looking down at addicts as worthless human beings - I find it MORE disgusting than the OP's self-professed entitlement to a virgin bride.

 

The truth comes out. It's a game, a competition, a who-gets-there-first.

 

Let me tell you something. I fit all of your requirements EXCEPT that pesky anti-depressant one. And you want to know what? If for some ungodly reason we had met before my lovelysexyamazingwonderfulboyfriend and you began to go off on one of your virgin, "jungle fever," anti-mentally ill, entitlement rants? I'd thank my lucky stars the Good Lord "gave" me chronic anxiety.

 

So you marry the non-virgin, get divorced x years later, and waltz back into the dating world looking for a virgin. Even though you're now a non-virgin. Still with those demands, eh.

 

Well I happened to live with the mentally ill for a while and I can say that they are a NIGHTMARE to live with.  It was an inferno that brought out the very worst in me.  I only had additional problems/complications in life because of them.  I have every right to avoid them the way I would a rabid dog or a person with AIDS.

 

Everything in life is a competition, what else is new?

 

No, I would not marry the non-virgin in real life.  I was only saying what WOULD happen if I did, for the sake of going along with the hypothetical example.  That is the reason why I DO NOT want a virgin.

 

Polski, I have some understanding of where you're coming from with the mental illness thing. I was abused by my sister, who has borderline personality disorder, as a child and have taken years to heal. It is from that perspective that I tell you, not that you're crazy or that your desire is unreasonable, but that there can be healing after abuse. This prejudice against anyone who has even the slightest mental problem is, as far as I can see, a scar of your abuse. I was also against such things as adopting children, because my sister was adopted, and could easily have fallen into a fear of anyone who had serious mental conditions. But I have had friends who were adopted, and see that not everyone has to turn out as badly as my sister did. The mom of some of our friends had borderline personality disorder, and our (Protestant) pastor's wife was manic-depressive, and I saw how they were able to get past their problems.

 

Polski, I do not wish to speak to you in condemnation. I understand your reasoning. But I would encourage you, as others have already done, to go to counselling. If you do, you will be more able to work through the problems that your mother left in her wake that you may not even know were there. It is hard when someone very close to you abuses you, but it is harder when you are not willing to reach out and ask for help.

 

The only other thing I would advise, if you choose to go to a counselor, is that you find one who is Catholic. I have had one who was Catholic and one who was Protestant, and greatly preferred the former. It may have been the time in my life, but I have known at least one other who felt the same, so I think it is a reasonable stipulation.

 

On a much lighter note, Polski, I have one question for you. What does your screen name mean? I know that "polski" has something to do with "Polish" in Polish, but what does the rest of it mean? Are you Polish, or do you have the name for another reason or using a different etymology than the one I guessed?

 

Hello Christina,

Thank you for your input.  I read your post and it was refreshing to see a post that wasn't so antagonistic.  Aside from the stuff norseman posted, everything on here has been pretty negative.

 

Regarding mentally ill people, this is the way I see it: I have nothing to gain and everything to loose.  They don't offer me anything that a normal person can't offer me, but they are riskier to deal with.  So why bother?  If casinos had a slot machine where you could never win anything (best case scenario being you got your money back) and worst case scenario that you lost it, do you think a lot of people would play?  I don't think so.  The same logic applies to that population.

 

Here is what I am willing to do.  I'm not going to spend a penny on counseling services.  If I was even close to being mentally ill, I would have been institutionalized by now with what I have had to put up with.  I don't see how standing up for one's own personal interests is a distortion of reality.  What I am willing to do is go to a local parish priest one of these days, mainly to talk about these different young adult groups that are available in my area.  However, I will also talk to him about what has happened in the past couple of years with me, what I have seen with a lot of supposedly catholic girls, and the general direction I'm heading in.  I will see what he says and go from there.  However, rest assured that I'm not bending even 1 degree when it comes to virginity.  Regardless of what he says about me wanting a virgin, that's what it is going to take for any of my future relationships to reach that final level.

 

Polskie Serce is polish for "Polish Heart".  Yes I am Polish.  My parents left poland while it was communist.  They met in nyc and that's where I was born.  Polish culture is a part of who I am and it would mean the world to me if I had a polish girlfriend.  This is part of the reason why I mentioned earlier thread that I'm not looking to cross racial boundaries for a relationship.  Poland is one of the most racially homogenous countries in Europe.  If my family in Poland knew that I was looking for a virgin, they wouldn't care, and they would actually support me in my search.  I already know they have pretty similar sentiments regarding non-virgins.  But if they found out that I crossed those types of boundaries for a relationship, they would really think there is something weird going on with me.  Even white families who have been in the US for several generations and have had much more contact with other races are not rushing to marry minorities.  Even with the inter-racial marriage rate increasing, it's still at only 1 in 12.

 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/02/16/interracial-marriage-stat_n_1280511.html

 

Contrary to what some people have suggested, I am not racist.  Racism is the idea that one race is better than another.  I never said that one race is better than another.  I just said that I was only considering white girls.  The reason?  I simply do not have any physical attraction for non-white girls.  What's the point of dating a girl you are not physically attracted to?  It defeats the whole purpose of dating.

 

But again, I will see if I can talk to a priest about the issue and see what happens.

[missionseeker]

And y'all aren't reproducing.

 

Thank God for that. 

 

 

 

Polski, I just want to throw it out there, that I'm a white female who is usually way more attracted to Latin/darker European or Black men than I am to white dudes. Perhaps I just like parties and dancing, but in general I just don't find most white guys attractive, though there are definite exceptions both ways. I don't really care what the race/skin color of the person I might one day in the future marry is. 

[CatholicsAreKewl]

So...

 

I had the BEST licorice today

 

On the reals? You must like arak then!

[CatholicsAreKewl]

If you can't live life without having sex with a virgin, do what other degenerates do and buy a 13 year old in Thailand or the Philippines. 

 

If he waits one more year, he can have a Catholic marriage!

 

http://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG1104/_P3Y.HTM

 

Jk... but really, wth? Is this still allowed?

Edited July 24, 2013 by CatholicsAreKewl

[HisChildForever]

Well I happened to live with the mentally ill for a while and I can say that they are a NIGHTMARE to live with.  It was an inferno that brought out the very worst in me.  I only had additional problems/complications in life because of them.  I have every right to avoid them the way I would a rabid dog or a person with AIDS.

 

Nice.