Dsmme To Appear On Oprah

[tinytherese]

[quote name='DevotedtoHim' date='08 February 2010 - 04:56 PM' timestamp='1265666200' post='2053624']
Dame Agnes, I agree with you what you said. I probably wouldn't feel the way I do about this if it weren't with Oprah and if it didn't seem like the same communities get all the attention all the time. I definitely agree with the Holy Father (and you) about being out there, and breaking through the noise, and who knows, there might be a vocation or two from the show, but after my time of being in discernment, I just feel really sad for the faithful nuns who are struggling because they are older and not as "media savvy" as the younger ones or the newer ones. I don't know if that makes sense, but I guess I just have a soft spot in my heart for those nuns and since we just got done with a controversy over life this weekend with the superbowl (in the secular world), I think one of the reasons we can so easily abort is because we ARE in a disposable society and that includes the elderly. It seems like everybody wants to join a new, young, fresh order with lots of money meanwhile, the convents and monasteries of older nuns who have lived good, faithful lives who are full of wisdom and goodness are kind of being ignored. I know of two really good Carmels that closed/suppressed/merged this past year because of lack of vocations and they were in the full habit and everything! So I think it would have been really cool to have some older nuns talking about their lives and what it meant, and give them the chance to show their wisdom and sanctity but I guess that's for sure not what Oprah is about and people are interested in why young beautiful white girls want to "throw it all away" for God. I get that. I have made some really serious changes in my discernment process with the help of my sd and I am hoping to enter a community that has been around for a long time and needs the support and help of new people. I want to be one of those people.

I really didn't mean to be too cynical, I guess it's just hard enough living here (usa) with the focus on looks, weight, hair, education, youth, youth, youth and money that when I see it in religious life (not saying that about the DSMME's as an order but that's what others chose to highlight) I just get kinda sad.

Katherine

PS Even though I am young now I know I won't be forever God willing and I want to be treated well at every stage of my life, with respect and dignity.
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Pax Christi.

Meaning no disrespect to you or to older sisters, I think that young discerners are not as likely to contact communities where the sisters are older is because they may feel uncomfortable about it. Personally, I wouldn't want to join a community where I am the baby, while everyone else is old enough to be my mother or grandmother. When one is older, one is more likely to be set in their ways and perhaps not even understand how young ladies are. I've had to live with my grandparents for weeks and still have to for some time for personal and familial reasons. Even though they are good and loving people, it isn't easy for a 21 year old to live with a couple in their 70's. Some may not be as educated as they should be when it comes to interaction. If a sister were say to enter a community fifty years ago when things were very different in the Church and society and perhaps even became cloistered and been told very little about the world or its developments that this could be a problem.

I had the unfortunate experience years ago of having a prioress, who definitely had misconceptions and wasn't properly educated in the matter which I was facing when I was interested in joining her community. I'm not going to reveal who she was or the name of the community, but she was perhaps in her fifties or maybe even older. I told her about my family life and experience which involved being emotionally abused and even tortured by my dad. She told me that I was at least partially to blame for the way that he treated me, that I had somehow deserved it because I didn't show him that I loved and respected him the way that I should have, and that she believed it was rare that there would just be one guilty party involved in such a matter. I realize that not every community with older sisters is like this, but there are some who still have old misconceptions. Believe it or not, there actually are communities who will not accept anyone with a history of depression or other mental illness, even if someone is cured from it. However, many communities these days realize that this is a common problem that people go through and are much more up to date and educated on the matter.

Also, using technology can help people to even know about a community. Without the internet, I wouldn't even know about most communities. Also, perhaps these ladies are impatient in this regard, but sending letters via-snail mail just isn't what young people are used to. We live in a media savy world. People also network through media to find jobs and earn degrees.

It would be nice to have a variety of ages living together, which everyone could benefit from, but that isn't always how it works.

Edited February 9, 2010 by tinytherese

[Lil Red]

[quote name='DevotedtoHim' date='08 February 2010 - 11:42 AM' timestamp='1265654530' post='2053464']And of course I haven't seen the show and I am sure I am going to pretty cynical, but how much do you want to bet they are going to show the nuns playing volleyball or soccer? I am so tired of "photo ops" for religious. Whatever happened to being modest and religious?! [/quote]
+JMJ+
i don't understand how showing nuns playing sports is not modest?

[Hilde]

Is there somewhere I can watch the whole show?

[TeresaBenedicta]

Honestly, I wasn't all that impressed with the show. I thought Oprah was rather disrespectful at times and waaaay overemphasized the "giving up sex" schpeel. I thought the Sisters did well at trying to handle it all... but that's not something I would've wanted my mom to see for her first real understanding of religious life.

[laetitia crucis]

[quote name='Hilde' date='09 February 2010 - 08:35 PM' timestamp='1265762115' post='2054430']
Is there somewhere I can watch the whole show?
[/quote]

Here's the transcript (sorta):

[url="http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Lisa-Ling-Goes-Inside-a-Convent/1"]Link[/url].

Or you can read under the spoiler:

[spoiler]

[b]Keeping the Faith[/b]
[i]The Oprah Winfrey Show[/i] | February 09, 2010

Imagine if you were asked to give up your career, possessions, sex life and the possibility of ever having children. It's a way of life many women worldwide gladly accept in order to serve God.

There are more than 60,000 Catholic nuns in the United States, with 750,000 worldwide. As nuns, sisters take three strict vows: chastity, poverty and obedience to God and their church. Nuns believe they are married to Jesus Christ, and some wear wedding rings to symbolize their devotion.

Their traditional clothing is called a habit, which consists of a white cap, veil and long tunic. Nuns consider this their wedding dress.

Not all nuns live the same lifestyle. Cloistered nuns rarely leave the confines of their monastery and pray up to 12 hours a day. Some sisters choose an independent path, which means they live alone, go to college, pursue careers and don't wear a habit.

Oprah Show correspondent Lisa Ling is no stranger to exploring different ways of life. She's traveled to the Congo, reported on North Korea and gone inside a prison. Now, she's going where she's never gone before—inside a convent.

The nuns of Dominican Sisters of Mary, a thriving convent outside of Detroit, invited Lisa to spend the night. Just under 100 nuns live at the convent. The average age of a sister is 26; the youngest sister is only 18.

When she arrives at 5:30 p.m., Lisa says she expects to find the sisters in prayer. Instead, they're playing cards and Scrabble!

At 7 p.m., a bell signals the call to nightly prayer. The first 15 minutes are conducted in complete silence. A procession follows, with nuns lined up from youngest to oldest. "At the end of this, it's silence," Sister Joseph Andrew says. "The sisters go and they either study, or if there's duties to be done, [they do those]."

At 10 p.m., the sisters have profound silence. "That means absolutely no talking and everyone should be in her cell," Sister Joseph Andrew says.

The 100 cells, or bedrooms, of the convent are cloistered, which means no one is allowed in. An exception is made for Lisa and the cameras.

The rooms are free of possessions. "We don't really have a lot of things, and that's a part of our vow of poverty," she says. "Our time is given to God and to people."

Bedtime is also the only time of day a nun does not wear her habit. "We always say it's kind of like a woman's wedding ring. It says someone loves me. Someone has claimed me as his own," she says. "And of course we would say that's Christ."

At 5 a.m., a bell rings to rouse Lisa and the sisters. Twenty minutes later, everyone's at morning Mass. "We live in a culture where we're bombarded with so much noise and so much insecurity," Lisa says. "This was actually a very peaceful night's stay that I had."

At 7 a.m., everyone heads to breakfast. All meals are eaten in silence. There's no time to linger as the sisters attend to their daily jobs—cleaning, teaching and whatever else is needed to keep the convent running.

Lisa then sees Sister Joseph Andrew use something she never thought she'd see at the convent—a BlackBerry! "Wherever I go, I grab my prayer books and I grab my BlackBerry," she says. "If a young woman is really looking at this [life], she immediately wants to know is there a family spirit here."

Every day after lunch, the sisters get some exercise. Their favorite activities? Field hockey, soccer and basketball. "They obviously always have to wear their habits. They just pull them up a little bit and put their sneakers on," Lisa says. "Let me tell you something, these sisters are competitive."

It can take up to nine years to become a nun. Women who have just joined the convent are called postulants. These sisters-in-training don't yet wear a veil. "When you're a postulant, [it's] the first year you enter," Sister John Dominic says. "The idea of a postulant means 'to ask.'"

The next step after being a postulant is to become a novice. It's a time of study, and novices can be identified by their white veils. "We're right now in what's called canonical year," novice Sister Maria says. "It's a year that you spend really entering more fully into the life, focusing more in prayer, and you're trying to really avoid as many distractions as you possibly can."

Once sisters have taken their final vows, they wear a black veil. Mother Assumpta, one of the founders of the convent, has been in this life since age 17. She says she never feels that she missed out on other experiences like having children. "I think every woman is called to be a mother, you know, physically," she says. "But God called me to this, and this is what I want to be—a spiritual mother."

Sister Mary Judith, now 26, joined the sisterhood at age 21. "I was really at a crisis point in my life. I had been in college for three years, and prior to that I grew up in northern Saskatchewan on an Indian reservation, so I encountered a lot of suffering, drugs," she says. "I was looking to be filled, and I felt empty. But it's interesting because I wanted to save the people I saw drowning, but I was drowning myself."

Sister Mary Judith says she removed herself from the situation by going to college. While away volunteering at Thanksgiving, she received a call that a close friend had been shot back home. "It kind of just put me face-to-face with my life. [It] wasn't just a joke or just having fun," she says. "I needed to find a direction."

Sister Mary Judith says she turned to God. "He made it very clear to me that if I wanted to be happy, I had to give my whole life to him."

Sister Francis Mary, now 26, says she received the calling when she was 22. Though she was baptized Catholic, Sister Francis Mary says she wasn't particularly religious. In fact, she thought she was meant to marry her serious boyfriend, who was also Catholic.

All of that changed when her boyfriend invited Sister Francis Mary to see his own sister take her vows to become a nun. "Something within me changed," she says. "All of a sudden, I knew that Christ wanted me for himself. And it was mind-boggling. I was afraid."

Eventually, she had to tell her boyfriend of her new life plan. "We both cried," she says. "He was really shocked at first, but then again he was extremely supportive and I am so grateful to him."

As it turns out, God had plans for her boyfriend as well. "God takes care of everything," she says. "He's going to be ordained a priest the same year I make my final vows."

Both Sister Mary Judith and Sister Francis Mary admit they experienced an adjustment period after giving their lives to God. "The very first day I entered I was, like, 'What did I just do?'" Sister Mary Judith says.

Sister Francis Mary says she had a hard time filtering out the things society once told her were important, such as material possessions, wealth and sex. "I really had to weed it out, if you will, slowly. Because you can't just isolate yourself into a little bubble suddenly," she says. "That's why, when I did enter the community, there's that first year of postulancy, which is really a year of being introduced to the life to know how to let go of all these things."

Both sisters say there were times they could have turned back, and no woman is forced to stay. "There's many periods," Sister Mary Judith says. "You're in discernment for basically seven years before you make your final vows."

Sister John Dominic has been a nun for nearly 30 years and says the transition to the church is often harder on the sister's family than the woman herself. "Any mother, the moment they lay their eyes on their child, they have dreams for them," she says. "And they [ask], 'What is my child going to be?'"

She says her own mother was upset with her decision. "I became a Catholic when I was in high school," she says. "Not being Catholic and not being exposed to it was very difficult for her. I had a family member that had been in a cult, so her idea was that I would be cut off from the world, I would be brainwashed and I wouldn't be able to think for myself."

Over time, Sister John Dominic says her mother realized she was still the daughter she'd always known. "They begin to see that we become who we are. My personality hasn't changed," she says. "They begin to see the freedom and the joy in that and there's an acceptance, and she's my biggest supporter now."

The vow that most nonclergy are curious about is the vow of chastity. Instead of giving their sexuality to another person, nuns instead give it to Jesus. "He's a hard husband to be married to because if something goes wrong in the relationship, I know it's me," Sister Mary Judith jokes.

"A lot of times people will think that we're repressed because we don't have sex or we're not indulging in the same kind of things that most people our age are indulging in," Sister Mary Judith says. "I feel like I've reclaimed my sexuality from an oversaturated, sexualized world and that I don't want to be an object. I view my sexuality as a precious thing."

Sister Mary Judith says sexual urgings don't go away once a woman becomes a nun—sisters just have a different way of approaching them. "I think that there's a common concept that sexuality or sexual urges or sexual feelings are bad and dark," she says. "It's an integrated part of who we are and expresses a part of who we are. It is not all that we are."

Sexual feelings are kind of like chocolate, she says. "Just because I have this desire for chocolate all the time doesn't mean I'm going to have to eat chocolate every time," she says. "It's using the desires, the same desires I have for a greater calling and for a greater cause."

During her time at the Dominican Sisters of Mary, Lisa asked the sisters what the biggest misconception about nuns is. "That we all have a ruler in our pocket," one sister says.

Lisa says she was surprised by the freedom the sisters felt. "I think the perception of sisters and nuns is that they lead very strict existences," she says. "So many of the women whom I met, they had successful lives and careers, but they never felt like they could be skinny enough or consume enough. They always felt this underlying insecurity and they wanted more out of life. So in a way, rather than being very strict, their lives are actually much more liberating."

Another myth is that a woman has to be a virgin to become a nun. "If there are any young women out there that are interested in the religious life and they happen to have had sex, is it possible if they could enter the convent? Yes," Sister Maria says. "[They have] to prove that they have been living a chaste life prior to entering. They would also be committed to living chastely for the rest of their lives."

Nuns live in the way God commands them to, but they aren't severely punished if they break a vow. "I don't think any of us view our life like a life of rules. It's an integrated way of life," Sister Mary Judith says. "So to break a vow is like saying you're not living integrated. You're almost lying to yourself. So you're inflicting your own punishment on yourself."

"We do make these vows in complete freedom," Sister Francis Mary adds. "It takes three years before we can even first pronounce those vows, even just discerning and seeing if this is really what God wants and I want."

Since the Dominican Sisters of Mary was established 13 years ago, Sister Mary Samuel says they are seeing more interest than ever from prospective nuns who want to serve more than just themselves. "Our culture is certainly a very challenging culture to live in. It's very secular. Very materialistic. Getting more so," she says. "But our Lord is still calling them to himself. So all our life is a journey toward God and our life, as religious, is a more intimate journey that we have allowed ourselves that time by freeing ourselves from material things, through the vows of poverty, chastity and obedience."

Sister Mary Samuel says the most difficult vow for any nun is that of obedience. Once that is overcome, nothing but good can come. "Everyone has to do the will of God, and when we're doing that, we're the greatest and happiest people. But we have that struggle because we like to do our own will," she says. "We're able to, in religious life, gear that and have that time in silence and prayer to grow closer to him. Our journey is to him and that union, and then we, by being his spouse, we are spiritual mothers as we're mothers to all the children we serve."
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[EJames2]

after the show,(this didnt air), they spoke with Oprah about silence and the world.
[media][url="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cE5rAy0rORA"]http://www.youtube.c...h?v=cE5rAy0rORA[/url][/media]
it repeats without audio, dont know why
more to come soon..

Edited February 10, 2010 by EJames2

[EJames2]

lets try this..
Youtbe wont accept my vid ,, Queen Oprah and all
, ill put the [url="http://en.Gloria.tv"]en.Gloria.tv[/url] link up soon.

Edited February 10, 2010 by EJames2

[Indwelling Trinity]

I think there are a couple of ways at looking at community. For myself when i was a young Carmelite, I looked up to my older sisters as they had lived the life for many years and rather than being rigid i found them very understanding of my youth. Whereas when among the young sisters they had much more immaturity and many were so into the nun look and external penances... and looking acetic that it was almost laughable.

I found time mellowed the older sister into understanding what was really important in religious life as they concentrated less on the external trappings. Yes some older religious get stuck in a mold and never reach their full potential in union with Christ because they cannot let go of their own way of looking at things and that is very sad to see. But on the whole i found most to be more pliable than the younger ones coming in with all their pre-concieved ideas as what it meant to be holy.

But to be a true religious of ten takes a lifetime of growing in the spirit and so TIME is needed.

Laughing... I remember one old priest telling us when I was in the novitiate: "young nuns look holy but are not holy, Middle aged nuns neither look holy nor are holy, Old nuns don't look holy, but many Are holy!" Definitely and exaggeration... but there is a touch of truth too.

When in community i found many holy older sisters whose example i still look up to today and my joy was to be near them learning at their feet so to say on how to love God. Some how they learned the trick of loving in total hiddeness and obscurity maybe partially because we as a society really do not respect the wisdom of our elders or maybe they just wanted it that way.

tenderly,

Indwelling Trinity

Edited February 10, 2010 by Indwelling Trinity

[dominicansoul]

[quote name='DevotedtoHim' date='08 February 2010 - 04:56 PM' timestamp='1265666200' post='2053624']
Dame Agnes, I agree with you what you said. I probably wouldn't feel the way I do about this if it weren't with Oprah and if it didn't seem like the same communities get all the attention all the time. I definitely agree with the Holy Father (and you) about being out there, and breaking through the noise, and who knows, there might be a vocation or two from the show, but after my time of being in discernment, I just feel really sad for the faithful nuns who are struggling because they are older and not as "media savvy" as the younger ones or the newer ones. I don't know if that makes sense, but I guess I just have a soft spot in my heart for those nuns and since we just got done with a controversy over life this weekend with the superbowl (in the secular world), I think one of the reasons we can so easily abort is because we ARE in a disposable society and that includes the elderly. It seems like everybody wants to join a new, young, fresh order with lots of money meanwhile, the convents and monasteries of older nuns who have lived good, faithful lives who are full of wisdom and goodness are kind of being ignored. I know of two really good Carmels that closed/suppressed/merged this past year because of lack of vocations and they were in the full habit and everything! So I think it would have been really cool to have some older nuns talking about their lives and what it meant, and give them the chance to show their wisdom and sanctity but I guess that's for sure not what Oprah is about and people are interested in why young beautiful white girls want to "throw it all away" for God. I get that. I have made some really serious changes in my discernment process with the help of my sd and I am hoping to enter a community that has been around for a long time and needs the support and help of new people. I want to be one of those people.

I really didn't mean to be too cynical, I guess it's just hard enough living here (usa) with the focus on looks, weight, hair, education, youth, youth, youth and money that when I see it in religious life (not saying that about the DSMME's as an order but that's what others chose to highlight) I just get kinda sad.

Katherine

PS Even though I am young now I know I won't be forever God willing and I want to be treated well at every stage of my life, with respect and dignity.
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I greatly appreciate this comment. I just want to emphasize that what we see and hear and experience about these wonderful communities...is just that...the wonderful part....

...but to those of us who have lived in these communities, we know the life is not as "romantic" as it seems, and these women are not as perfect as they seem...these are the very few points that are NEVER shown to the public...

...after watching the show, my heart is more determined to pray for my dear Dominican Sisters of Mary Mother of the Eucharist, because they are the enemies of the devil, and he will do everything he can to undermine the work of their hands. I hope and pray that others do not see this show and think that everything must be fine and dandy, and forget them in their prayers, because that would be terribly wrong. We need to remember all our religious in our prayers EVERY NIGHT. Sometimes I believe the exposure is excellent, but at the same time...a little too much might get to their heads...(and I mean this in the nicest way...possible....I lived with these women and know them and love them very much...but there is a danger in that...I'm sure for all of us...)

at the same time, I believe Oprah contacted several convents, and all of them refused, until she called the DSMME. So, we don't know if some of the older, faithful communities might have refused her or not. I'm sure some of them were like, "Oprah who?"

[Indwelling Trinity]

[quote name='dominicansoul' date='09 February 2010 - 11:19 PM' timestamp='1265771984' post='2054517']
I greatly appreciate this comment. I just want to emphasize that what we see and hear and experience about these wonderful communities...is just that...the wonderful part....

...but to those of us who have lived in these communities, we know the life is not as "romantic" as it seems, and these women are not as perfect as they seem...these are the very few points that are NEVER shown to the public...

...after watching the show, my heart is more determined to pray for my dear Dominican Sisters of Mary Mother of the Eucharist, because they are the enemies of the devil, and he will do everything he can to undermine the work of their hands. I hope and pray that others do not see this show and think that everything must be fine and dandy, and forget them in their prayers, because that would be terribly wrong. We need to remember all our religious in our prayers EVERY NIGHT. Sometimes I believe the exposure is excellent, but at the same time...a little too much might get to their heads...(and I mean this in the nicest way...possible....I lived with these women and know them and love them very much...but there is a danger in that...I'm sure for all of us...)

at the same time, I believe Oprah contacted several convents, and all of them refused, until she called the DSMME. So, we don't know if some of the older, faithful communities might have refused her or not. I'm sure some of them were like, "Oprah who?"
[/quote]

Amen Dominican soul most never get to see the underside of the equation and the struggles inherent in the life. Please pray for this poor Carmelite too !

Tenderly,

Indwelling Trinity:shield:

[dominicansoul]

[quote name='Indwelling Trinity' date='09 February 2010 - 10:29 PM' timestamp='1265772577' post='2054529']
Amen Dominican soul most never get to see the underside of the equation and the struggles inherent in the life. Please pray for this poor Carmelite too !

Tenderly,

Indwelling Trinity:shield:
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I certainly will!

[EJames2]

ok here we go, lets try again..
on Oprah, some outakes/promo, including un-aired after show footage
[url="http://gloria.tv/?media=51171&connection=corporate"]http://gloria.tv/?me...ction=corporate[/url]
---
and
[url="http://gloria.tv/?media=1188"]http://gloria.tv/?media=1188[/url]
-
[url="http://gloria.tv/?media=46904"]http://gloria.tv/?media=46904[/url]
pax

Edited February 10, 2010 by EJames2

[laetitia crucis]

[quote name='dominicansoul' date='09 February 2010 - 11:19 PM' timestamp='1265771984' post='2054517']
I greatly appreciate this comment. I just want to emphasize that what we see and hear and experience about these wonderful communities...is just that...the wonderful part....

...but to those of us who have lived in these communities, we know the life is not as "romantic" as it seems, and these women are not as perfect as they seem...these are the very few points that are NEVER shown to the public...

...after watching the show, my heart is more determined to pray for my dear Dominican Sisters of Mary Mother of the Eucharist, because they are the enemies of the devil, and he will do everything he can to undermine the work of their hands. I hope and pray that others do not see this show and think that everything must be fine and dandy, and forget them in their prayers, because that would be terribly wrong. We need to remember all our religious in our prayers EVERY NIGHT. Sometimes I believe the exposure is excellent, but at the same time...a little too much might get to their heads...(and I mean this in the nicest way...possible....I lived with these women and know them and love them very much...but there is a danger in that...I'm sure for all of us...)

at the same time, I believe Oprah contacted several convents, and all of them refused, until she called the DSMME. So, we don't know if some of the older, faithful communities might have refused her or not. I'm sure some of them were like, "Oprah who?"
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I echo Indwelling Trinity and give thanks for this post dominicansoul. Thank you for posting this. I agree with you so much, especially when you say this: "[i]...but to those of us who have lived in these communities, we know the life is not as "romantic" as it seems, and these women are not as perfect as they seem...these are the very few points that are NEVER shown to the public...[/i]". From my own personal experience in religious life... all I can say is, "Amen!" and offer my prayers.



P.S. "What's an Oprah Winfrey?" <-- loved that.

[laetitia crucis]

[quote name='EJames2' date='10 February 2010 - 12:24 PM' timestamp='1265819072' post='2054742']
ok here we go, lets try again..
on Oprah, some outakes/promo, including un-aired after show footage
[url="http://gloria.tv/?media=51171&connection=corporate"]http://gloria.tv/?me...ction=corporate[/url]
---
and
[url="http://gloria.tv/?media=1188"]http://gloria.tv/?media=1188[/url]
-
[url="http://gloria.tv/?media=46904"]http://gloria.tv/?media=46904[/url]
pax
[/quote]

Hi EJames2 -- thanks for posting the other two links with that!

I'd never seen that second one. Most excellent!

Edited February 10, 2010 by laetitia crucis

[Tridenteen]

JMJ
YAY! I just watched the show on Youtube. They did a wonderful job. I really liked how when Oprah asked um, sex, <blush> related questions, the sisters answered her head on! The DSMME rule! Feeling that urge again!

[Piccoli Fiori JMJ]

Is there a video of the show portion and not just the visit? I cannot seem to find anything on YouTube, and you all have piqued my interest...

[Guadalupe23]

I'm really bummed that I missed it! How do I watch the episode? Any insider tips? Looked on youtube and hulu...nothing. The oprah website wasnt' any help either..=(

[laetitia crucis]

EJames2 posted a good clip from the show.

[url="http://gloria.tv/?media=51171&connection=corporate"]Here[/url].

I don't know where to find the full episode, though.

Perhaps Tridenteen could post where she found it.

[zunshynn]

[quote name='dominicansoul' date='09 February 2010 - 08:19 PM' timestamp='1265771984' post='2054517']
I greatly appreciate this comment. I just want to emphasize that what we see and hear and experience about these wonderful communities...is just that...the wonderful part....

...but to those of us who have lived in these communities, we know the life is not as "romantic" as it seems, and these women are not as perfect as they seem...these are the very few points that are NEVER shown to the public...

...after watching the show, my heart is more determined to pray for my dear Dominican Sisters of Mary Mother of the Eucharist, because they are the enemies of the devil, and he will do everything he can to undermine the work of their hands. I hope and pray that others do not see this show and think that everything must be fine and dandy, and forget them in their prayers, because that would be terribly wrong. We need to remember all our religious in our prayers EVERY NIGHT. Sometimes I believe the exposure is excellent, but at the same time...a little too much might get to their heads...(and I mean this in the nicest way...possible....I lived with these women and know them and love them very much...but there is a danger in that...I'm sure for all of us...)
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Of course no community is perfect, and it's true that sometimes people in their zeal project a romanticism surrounding religious life that is not, by any means the basis of what religious life is actually about but it sort of sounds like you're implying that they're hiding some deep, dark, horrible secrets (although I'm sure you didn't mean it to). And especially because any random searching for more info about the show might come across this thread and wonder what you're referring to that is "NEVER shown to the public" (Phatmass threads show up on Google pretty quickly after they're posted... like around 15-36 hours later), someone might easily come to the conclusion that you're talking about some pretty serious deception, which I highly doubt is the case.

The opinions of people that already romanticize or condemn religious life are not likely to be greatly influenced to change based on what anyone tells them about religious life, as we can see on the comments people have made on Oprah's page... and a short documentary about a community isn't really going to tell anyone completely what they're like... but just because they don't open up all of their imperfections to the public forum doesn't mean that what the documentary did show was misleading.

But yeah, we do definitely need to pray for all of them!

Just my .02, for what its worth.

Edited February 10, 2010 by zunshynn

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Agreed that no community should have to hang their dirty clothes out for all to see, but a little more openess on the realities that we are just humans doing our best might be encouraging for others to hear too.

I LOVE Dominicans... but also know that they are excellent apologists! Razzzzzzzzzberry! I can feel the onslaught begin! laughing... go ahead scalp me!!!