Dreams Mean Anything?

[Totus Tuus]

[quote name='brandelynmarie' timestamp='1322598221' post='2342237']

Loving people are needed everywhere!
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Including in marriage... it just depends on what God is calling you to! If everyone took MarysLittleFlower's advice, there would be no children with loving mothers. How sad!

[Sarah147]

[quote name='Lilllabettt' timestamp='1322530624' post='2341941']
I would not dream that and think: "It's a sign about where I'm called." I would dream that and think "I obviously have some worries about the possiblity of nourishing relationships in religious life."
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I totally agree! Are they nourishing? Hugs, smiles, laughs, someone to talk to, cry to, etc.?

[Lilllabettt]

[quote name='Totus Tuus' timestamp='1322598318' post='2342240']
Including in marriage... it just depends on what God is calling you to! If everyone took MarysLittleFlower's advice, there would be no children with loving mothers. How sad!
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I don't think MarysLittleFlower was saying anything against marriage. I think she was saying that a need for loving relationships does not necessarily mean being called to marriage.

[quote name='JoyfulLife' timestamp='1322603337' post='2342269']


I totally agree! Are they nourishing? Hugs, smiles, laughs, someone to talk to, cry to, etc.?
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Honestly, it varies by community and what you define as "nourishing." The Missionaries of Charity have a charism that emphasizes detachment - even when it comes to fellow Sisters. In my former community, there were great friendships and a TON of smiling and laughter. On the other hand, (at least in formation) - it was frowned upon to cry to another Sister or tell her your problems - that was supposed to be done with the Superior. Of course sometimes I didn't feel comfortable discussing an issue with the superior! Other communities have more flexibility. It all depends. The Missionaries of Charity do not hug one another, while other communities (my former one for example) are definitely "huggers."

Edited November 29, 2011 by Lilllabettt

[OnlySunshine]

[quote name='Lilllabettt' timestamp='1322606155' post='2342275']

I don't think MarysLittleFlower was saying anything against marriage. I think she was saying that a need for loving relationships does not necessarily mean being called to marriage.



Honestly, it varies by community and what you define as "nourishing." The Missionaries of Charity have a charism that emphasizes detachment - even when it comes to fellow Sisters. In my former community, there were great friendships and a TON of smiling and laughter. On the other hand, (at least in formation) - it was frowned upon to cry to another Sister or tell her your problems - that was supposed to be done with the Superior. Of course sometimes I didn't feel comfortable discussing an issue with the superior! Other communities have more flexibility. It all depends. The Missionaries of Charity do not hug one another, while other communities (my former one for example) are definitely "huggers."
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It's funny you should mention about the hugging thing because when I was visiting the RSMs, there were two Missionaries of Charity that would come to Mass and Holy Hour. During the Sign of Peace, I looked over, and, indeed, they never hugged each other or anyone else. They bowed with their hands in a prayer-like position.

The RSMs, on the other hand, do hug! I wasn't sure if they would or not, so I waited to see what the postulants/Sister did in my pew. They both were huggers.

[Lil'Monster]

I am a hugger and I love hugs!!!! can't get too much hugs...hugs actually make my day better!!! so if anyone hugs me that means alot to me....i dont think i would live long enough without hugs....no hugs would make me cry

[Sarah147]

I totally feel like that. Hugs are a w esome!


Mater, I don't hug at the sign of peace. But do you know how they are about hugging at other times? And about crying, talking to, laughing, etc. at the RSM? I guess I'm looking for what I get in friendships. It's part of what keeps me healthy -- mentally, emotionally, etc.

Edited November 30, 2011 by JoyfulLife

[Lil'Monster]

yeah hugs keep me healthy too....and would you know that i used to not to be a hugger when i was a little girl

[Sarah147]

Alicia of the FSI gave me the longest, tightest hug when I saw her in January! I couldn't believe how much she missed me! Hugs say a lot.

[Lil'Monster]

hugs do say alot.....im a crybaby so thats means tthat i need lots of hugs

[Sarah147]

The Blessed Virgin is even hugging Pope John Paul II in my avatar!

[Lil'Monster]

thats avvesome

[MarysLittleFlower]

I think I should maybe clarify what I meant in my post..

I'm all for mothers loving their children I didn't mean that those with "loving" personalities are not called to marriage. I meant that they are not necessarily only called to marriage, and that we need religious like this too. There are Saints who were nuns and they were very kind, tender hearted people, and they used that to help others and also to respond to Jesus.

I think what I was saying, is that there's a need for such people not only in families, but also in religious life, because their kindness can really dispose them to consoling Jesus.. I'm thinking of people like St Margaret Mary. So.. I'd say we need such people everywhere!

Of course we need to show love to spouses, children, parents, etc. That is very important. But I woudln't say that because someone has a very kind nature, that means they can't be called to religious life. They can be called to either vocation. Do we sometimes forget that though God has no need of us, Jesus has a human nature and "needs" our love too? My point was that being a very kind person doesn't mean that this could only be shown to a husband, though of course it can be, if that person is called to marriage.

God bless!

Edited November 30, 2011 by MarysLittleFlower