Discalced Carmelite Nun Communities

[ACS67]

Thank you Emma and Chiquitunga! That is all so very helpful!

[Chiquitunga]

Sure thing!

[quote name='Chiquitunga' timestamp='1346647556' post='2477787']The other Carmels with an all Latin Office use the Roman Rite (which again, is the norm for OCDs) which currently is the [i]Liturgia Horarum[/i], or it's translated form[i] Liturgy of the Hours[/i] for the US/it's called simply [i]The Divine Office[/i] in the UK edition (different English translation). The Carmels that I know of that pray the full [i]Liturgia Horarum[/i] in Latin are Buffalo, Alexandria, Brooklyn & Wichita.

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I wanted to add to this that I have heard of a couple communities in the US that have received permission to use the UK [i]Divine Office[/i]. It is supposed to be a better translation from the Latin. I have seen it and it does appear nicer.. no little 70ish pictures every now and then, and no psalm prayers, which are not in the original Latin. I believe OLAM does this .. but I could be wrong. But I know the Erie, PA Carmel does.

Also, Morristown prays an all Latin Office now too, and I would assume it is [i]Liturgia Horarum [/i]but I am not certain as they started having a weekly Extraordinary Mass and maybe want to switch to that completely.

[ACS67]

The psalm prayers seem oddly out of place. And yes, some of the 70ish pictures and collects are rather bland. But of course those collects were from the Mass, which is why I am so glad we have the new translation!

Thanks again Chiquitunga! (who is pictured in your avatar? She looks very happy)

[VeniJesuAmorMi]

[quote name='Mary's Margaret' timestamp='1346511678' post='2477145']
VJAM, that sounds like such a lovely community. Allowing the Sister to stay with her Lord into the night, then singing her into her special day! What blessings from our most loving God! Thank-you for sharing this with us.
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Your very welcome.

I miss the life there very much. Please say a little prayer for me. Thankfully I have a priest who is very kindly giving his time and help to me as I continue discernment to Carmel. I'm very hopeful.

[emmaberry]

[quote name='VeniJesuAmorMi' timestamp='1346717303' post='2478032']
[b]I miss the life there very much[/b]. Please say a little prayer for me. Thankfully I have a priest who is very kindly giving his time and help to me as I continue discernment to Carmel. I'm very hopeful.
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I am sure you do.. I almost miss it, and I have never even lived it! Just you describing it for us was so beautiful.

I will say a prayer for your discernment.. Leaving and adjusting all over again must be so difficult. I hope you find the Carmel you are called to. I don't know much about you at all, but I have a 'crush' on the JMJ Carmels. They are wonderful, if you have not checked them out.

[Chiquitunga]

[quote name='ACS67' timestamp='1346716572' post='2478025']Thanks again Chiquitunga! (who is pictured in your avatar? She looks very happy)
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It's Chiquitunga herself [url="http://chiquitunga.jimdo.com/"]http://chiquitunga.jimdo.com/[/url] That was her nickname before entering Carmel. She is a Discalced Carmelite Venerable now Hna. María Felicia de Jesús Sacramentado (Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament! )

It's funny you should mention how happy she looks .. her last words (she died in a sanitarium with her father present)

[i]"Dear daddy, how happy I am! How great is the Catholic religion! What a meeting with my Jesus! I am so happy! [/i][i]Jesus, I love you! What a sweet encounter! Virgin Mary![/i]

[emmaberry]

[quote name='Chiquitunga' timestamp='1346718612' post='2478068']
It's funny you should mention how happy she looks .. her last words (she died in a sanitarium with her father present)

[b][i]"Dear daddy, how happy I am! How great is the Catholic religion! What a meeting with my Jesus! I am so happy! [/i][i]Jesus, I love you! What a sweet encounter! Virgin Mary![/i][/b]
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How beautiful.

[VeniJesuAmorMi]

[quote name='emmaberry' timestamp='1346717845' post='2478038']
I am sure you do.. I almost miss it, and I have never even lived it! Just you describing it for us was so beautiful.

I will say a prayer for your discernment.. Leaving and adjusting all over again must be so difficult. I hope you find the Carmel you are called to. I don't know much about you at all, but I have a 'crush' on the JMJ Carmels. They are wonderful, if you have not checked them out.
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This is very kind, may God reward you.

Yes, I love the JMJ Carmel also and would be thrilled if I was called to one of them. I am familliar with the one in Elysburg, but I'm not called there. Perhaps in the future one of the JMJ foundations I could call home; the life, traditions, and the Tradtional Latin Mass ... it is all so beautiful. The adjustment has been sorrowful. The life in the cloister doesn't compare with the life in the world. In there; He is everything and everything is for Him. The world couldn't care less. You can imagine what its like when feast days come around; the traditions they kept (in the cloister) are priceless, everything is done so beautiful and reverently. I always thought how all these little things must be so pleasing to Him as He is the center of it all and I was so thankful to be part of it.

For the time being though my focus needs to be on living a virtuous life in the world. Then, as Father said, the time to enter Carmel will begin to arrive. So until then I hope to be patient and to be able to stand with Our Sorrowful Mother.

[emmaberry]

[quote name='VeniJesuAmorMi' timestamp='1346769666' post='2478253']
This is very kind, may God reward you.

Yes, I love the JMJ Carmel also and would be thrilled if I was called to one of them. I am familliar with the one in Elysburg, but I'm not called there. Perhaps in the future one of the JMJ foundations I could call home; the life, traditions, and the Tradtional Latin Mass ... it is all so beautiful. The adjustment has been sorrowful. The life in the cloister doesn't compare with the life in the world. In there; He is everything and everything is for Him. The world couldn't care less. You can imagine what its like when feast days come around; the traditions they kept (in the cloister) are priceless, everything is done so beautiful and reverently. I always thought how all these little things must be so pleasing to Him as He is the center of it all and I was so thankful to be part of it.

For the time being though my focus needs to be on living a virtuous life in the world. Then, as Father said, the time to enter Carmel will begin to arrive. So until then I hope to be patient and to be able to stand with Our Sorrowful Mother.
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It sounds like, as much as you loved the cloister (understandable to me!), you might be pleasing God just as much by working on being virtuous in the world, since this is so much harder on you.

Your words really reflect why I have this inordinate fear of leaving/discerning out/being sent away from the cloister. It would be literally like coming from Heaven back to earth. Of course, we have to follow God wherever He calls us, but it doesn't mean it is not difficult or painful. At least you have the light of Carmel at the end of this tunnel!

[VeniJesuAmorMi]

[quote name='emmaberry' timestamp='1346787942' post='2478366']
It sounds like, as much as you loved the cloister (understandable to me!), [b]you might be pleasing God just as much by working on being virtuous in the world, since this is so much harder on you.[/b]

Your words really reflect why I have this inordinate fear of leaving/discerning out/being sent away from the cloister. It would be literally like coming from Heaven back to earth. Of course, we have to follow God wherever He calls us, but it doesn't mean it is not difficult or painful. At least you have the light of Carmel at the end of this tunnel!
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That is true; I completely agree with you. While I was discerning and then preparing to enter the thoughts were more, "now I am finally entering; all I desire is to give everything to Our Lord." Well, this was certainly with the right intentions, but now I see it was a reflection of my impatience with His timing and also lack of trust. I was so anxious to enter and wanted to as soon as possible; I also didn't have a spiritual director helping me and this was also a problem. So I was finally entering and was indeed going to give everything to Our Lord; but in no way did I realize what "everything" really meant, and I wasn't prepared. I had the view of the "everything" being exterior, and not so much the poverty, chastity, and obedience that one should have in their heart. I wasn't spiritually mature and I needed growth that wasn't going to happen in the cloister, as I had entered too soon and didn't have a strong interior life.

The experience was humbling, and indeed I hope that this serves to only increase humilty in me. Thankfully I am getting the guidance that was needed all along, and I hope to do this right this time .... in His time. Father who is helping me recently had me read "The Golden Arrow: The Autobiography and Revelations of Sister Mary of St. Peter." Well, if only perhaps I had read this before! She had desired so much to enter Carmel, but she had a good priest guiding her, and he would not let her. It would be 5 years until she was permitted to. In that time she had prepared herself under his direction for what was waiting for her in the cloister.

So now, having this experience and not having the door to Carmel open for me at this time, I find that I am becoming stronger and experiencing that spiritual growth that I should have been working on before (or rather should have let Him do the work He was trying to do) but I just rushed myself right along. Father had mentioned that when I had entered Carmel I got altitude sickness from taking that one big step, when I should have been taking a little step at a time and not have pushed the door open to Carmel myself, but that it will come when I'm ready.

I should say also that I now know the importance of having guidance when one is discerning, and that its so important to be open and honest about everything. If not, we won't get the help we need. I had that same thought in the cloister as you have now. I had often said that I would rather die at the enclosure door rather than have to leave it. It happend, and your right that the pain doesn't leave, but it is still picking up that cross and following Him. I've gained a lot of self-knowledge and many virtues that perhaps I wouldn't have acquired any other way because He chose this cross to bring me to this point now. We will only keep our peace if we follow Him.

edit: for spelling.

Edited September 5, 2012 by VeniJesuAmorMi

[emmaberry]

[quote name='VeniJesuAmorMi' timestamp='1346805665' post='2478480']
That is true; I completely agree with you. While I was discerning and then preparing to enter the thoughts were more, "now I am finally entering; all I desire is to give everything to Our Lord." Well, this was certainly with the right intentions, but now I see it was a reflection of my impatience with His timing and also lack of trust. I was so anxious to enter and wanted to as soon as possible; I also didn't have a spiritual director helping me and this was also a problem. So I was finally entering and was indeed going to give everything to Our Lord; but in no way did I realize what "everything" really meant, and I wasn't prepared. I had the view of the "everything" being exterior, and not so much the poverty, chastity, and obedience that one should have in their heart. I wasn't spiritually mature and I needed growth that wasn't going to happen in the cloister, as I had entered too soon and didn't have a strong interior life.

The experience was humbling, and indeed I hope that this serves to only increase humilty in me. Thankfully I am getting the guidance that was needed all along, and I hope to do this right this time .... in His time. Father who is helping me recently had me read "The Golden Arrow: The Autobiography and Revelations of Sister Mary of St. Peter." Well, if only perhaps I had read this before! She had desired so much to enter Carmel, but she had a good priest guiding her, and he would not let her. It would be 5 years until she was permitted to. In that time she had prepared herself under his direction for what was waiting for her in the cloister.

So now, having this experience and not having the door to Carmel open for me at this time, I find that I am becoming stronger and experiencing that spiritual growth that I should have been working on before (or rather should have let Him do the work He was trying to do) but I just rushed myself right along. Father had mentioned that when I had entered Carmel I got altitude sickness from taking that one big step, when I should have been taking a little step at a time and not have pushed the door open to Carmel myself, but that it will come when I'm ready.

I should say also that I now know the importance of having guidance when one is discerning, and that its so important to be open and honest about everything. If not, we won't get the help we need. I had that same thought in the cloister as you have now. I had often said that I would rather die at the enclosure door rather than have to leave it. It happend, and your right that the pain doesn't leave, but it is still picking up that cross and following Him. I've gained a lot of self-knowledge and many virtues that perhaps I wouldn't have acquired any other way because He chose this cross to bring me to this point now. We will only keep our peace if we follow Him.

edit: for spelling.
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This is beautiful VJAM. I would love to have your advice on how to prepare in the months leading up to entering the cloister. Many websites/nuns say, "Just live your life like normal," but I think your testimony and my gut-feeling show that there are preparations one can make, or like your priest said small steps up the mountain so we don't get altitude sickness!

[Mary's Margaret]

[quote name='VeniJesuAmorMi' timestamp='1346717303' post='2478032']
Your very welcome.

I miss the life there very much. Please say a little prayer for me. Thankfully I have a priest who is very kindly giving his time and help to me as I continue discernment to Carmel. I'm very hopeful.
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VJAM, I will definitely keep you in daily prayer. May the Lord light your way and bring you to the fullness of His plan for you.

[Chiquitunga]

Always love reading your insights too, VJAM! Thank you!

I meant to reply to this earlier ..


[quote name='VeniJesuAmorMi' timestamp='1346509189' post='2477130']
I heard that on August 24th the 5 that were there went back to Nebraska (after a month of being in CA) and then they would take 5 more Sisters and head back to CA. I guess that would be 10 total? I'm surprised they didn't send more, but then again maybe its because they should have only 21 in the community anyway so they wouldn't make a new foundation and fill it up already!

They will also have a lot of Sisters still in Nebraska... it will be interesting to find out that still another foundation will be happening soon.
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About the size of the community in Canyon, 10 was probably the most they could fit, as two of the Sisters' cells are also the refectory, [url="http://cal-catholic.com/wordpress/2012/07/30/new-carmelite-house/#comment-4291"]http://cal-catholic....e/#comment-4291[/url] I also heard from this father of one of the Sisters that they won't be accepting postulants for "some time" But if you're called there, it will be God's timing as you say anyway [i]"What God wants, as God wants. when God wants"[/i] - St. Maravillas of Jesus, OCD

[VeniJesuAmorMi]

[quote name='emmaberry' timestamp='1346809587' post='2478546']
This is beautiful VJAM. I would love to have your advice on how to prepare in the months leading up to entering the cloister. Many websites/nuns say, "Just live your life like normal," but I think your testimony and my gut-feeling show that there are preparations one can make, or like your priest said small steps up the mountain so we don't get altitude sickness!
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I would love to share some advise, and also some of what Father has told me that has been reassuring and helpful. If I think of anything else, I'll post here from time to time. I hope I may be helpful.

After I talked to Father the first time about my situation, he noted first thing that the big problem was that I was not directed by a good priest before I entered. St. Teresa of Jesus would do nothing without consulting a priest first. This is a priestly universe. God works best through them. So, a good confessor would have helped me to know what was needed to enter and stay in the monastery. He recommended that I read "In This House of Brede." Its a fictional story of a woman who enteres a Benedictine monastery (I'm reading it now, and it was written many years ago so it was nice that the description of everything in the monastery is very traditional.) The book really brings out human nature and weakness; this is a view I didn't have of being a nun and living in community. I suppose it was all those pictures I would look at and the romantic view I had in my immaturity.

About other books; he recomended also some works of St. Teresa of The Andes, and Blessed Elizabeth because they wrote some things on how they were spiritual in the world. This brings up an important point, about being virtuous in the world being more challenging, it seems to be essential to have this be challenging before one enters a community; especially the cloister. It seems mysterious in a way but nothing is hidden about yourself in the silence of a cloister. Who you are really comes out and sometimes you wouldn't even know. Its a lesson in humility and self-knowledge. In the book "The Interior Castle" St. Teresa gives high praise to the room of self-knowledge, as its important to take this with us everywhere. Humility is certainly the root of all virtues. I think when we focus on living a virtuous life in the world, it really is great preparation to live the life in the monastery because with everything around us in the world, and even those we live with at home, can be difficult but we will face similiar things in the monastery that we should know how to deal with.

Everyone who enters the cloister will have to face themselves sooner or later...and a certain crisis will come. Once you pass through it, the sailing becomes more smooth. In the world its so easy to "escape" from reality and oneself, and I would do this often before I entered. Simple things like distractions (spending a long time on the internet and listening to music, finding something to do that was not bad but was useless so the time would go by fast when I felt bored.) So to stay away from images and sounds that are not godly. Perhaps someone wouldn't believe that things they have seen and heard will come to the memory and could cause great trials, and as we know that we do not have distractions to go to in the cloister; these distractions we once used before we enter become distractions in the silence. It might be helpful also to make notes after making an examination of conscience to find out what distractions you have in silence and ask Our Lord for the graces to overcome these things. In the silence we really see who we are and who God is. It could help to add a penance or a humiliation to each of the faults you find; this will help make you stronger and overcome these things too. A set schedule in great if you could keep one. Set different prayers for set times (or spiritual reading, times of silence) then when that time comes, stop whatever else your doing and go and say that prayer or whatever that time was set for. Think of it as the monastery bell, Our Lord, calling for you.

Its nice also if you know the different practises and mortifications that the community has, because its nice to be able to do these at home, or wherever you may be. I find recollection of the eyes very important, not looking at things or people when its not necessary, because once something or someone is in your thoughts it will remain and may not be a good thing at all during prayer (it also helps mortify your senses.) Also, not talking about yourself or really anything if it won't be helpful to another or cause damage in any way. Good posture is another good one. Not eating between meals is very important. Not giving into your feelings, but no matter what your feeling, be joyful for others. I found that always keeping a smile in community was very important. The one act of another affects the others in community, whether it be good or bad. Anything that could be an opporunity to make an act of mortification to your senses and your will especially! Nothing seems too heavy or difficult when we are working for something, in this case Someone, that is everything to us. Then we will keep going no matter how hard it seems.

I wrote a lot already (hopefully not too much!) but when I think of anything to add I will. It would be great too if anyone had advise they have or have been told. I'm in this same boat too.

Edited September 5, 2012 by VeniJesuAmorMi

[emmaberry]

[quote name='VeniJesuAmorMi' timestamp='1346868384' post='2478821']
I wrote a lot already (hopefully not too much!) but when I think of anything to add I will. It would be great too if anyone had advise they have or have been told. I'm in this same boat too.
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Thank you so much! I feel bad asking you to post this on the thread, instead of PMing it, but I have a feeling it will be of great benefit to others beside myself who are waiting to enter.

You say that in the cloister you have to come face to face with yourself. I have also heard this from nearly every religious I have spoken with, so I know it is a reality. What exactly does this mean though? For me, it seems like you have to come face to face with how sinful, selfish, prideful, etc you really are.. There aren't any distractions to make you think everything you do is for an unselfish motive or the greater glory of God. Is this a correct understanding? Why do so many leave or have a crisis in the midst of this? Is part of this trial feeling far from God? On that note, were you in the convent long enough to experience a 'Dark Night?' If so, how did you work through this? This is one of the things that terrifies me. My Protestant upbringing hammered into me that prayer=consolation, so I have been trying to rid myself of this notion, but I still feel 'good' in prayer, and am worried that if this stops, I will not persevere in the cloister, simply because it will be so foreign to me. How are these types of things dealt with 'inside'? My prayer life and the feelings that inevitably come with it ebb and flow of course, but I have never experienced complete desolation... How does a cloistered nun deal with this, since prayer is her [i]whole life[/i]? In No Greater Love a nun spoke of feeling God's absence for 18 years. She persevered, but I don't know if I could have done it! Since everything in a nun's life points toward God, I am at a loss for how these nuns manage to stay when God does not close or present for long periods of time.

The schedule is something that gets me-at college I had a really great schedule and was 'on top' of spiritual devotions, you could say. Now I am at home waiting to be accepted and hopefully enter, and it is such a challenging environment! I get to Mass, but even that can become kind of routine after a while. I used to spend daily hours in adoration at school, here at home there are so many distractions and honestly, I am just lazier in this environment.

You say posture-is that something postulants are taught in the cloister? I will work on that. I am trying to make my posture better anyways, but it is difficult and this may give me some needed motivation to keep those shoulders back!

I was really worried about how little the PCCs ate, but then I went on a no sugar, yeast, cow milk, wheat, or fruit diet for my PCOS. Now I don't know if I'll be able to eat all the food they give you at mealtime-and Poor Clares are expected to eat every crumb!

Custody of the eyes is one of those gems that I wish more people in the world would learn! Every Mass without fail, someone will come in late, and everyone around me whips their head around to stare at the late person. The world would greatly benefit from this monastic (or should I just say Christian?) practice!

The SD will start up once I learn whether I am accepted. I agree with you that it is very important.

One thing that has helped me to have a more realistic view of the convent and the nuns inside it is (get ready for it): Phatmass and VS. I came onto this forum thinking that everyone would be super [i]nice[/i]-I can't decide on a better word than that. Yet though VS was created especially for discerners, former religious, and those who are just interested in vocations, people are not always rainbows and sunshine, although the VS/PM community is a great group! Likewise, PM itself is for Catholics, so I figured I'd find a big happy group of people who believed the same things I did-I mean we are all Catholic, right?-and that is definitely not the case! This has helped me realize that even in the cloister, where it seems that the nuns are all exactly like one another (same habit, schedule, living quarters, prayers, etc), there will be differences, and if I let them, these can dissolve into petty disagreements. I really think PM has helped me realize that people can be perfectly orthodox and genuinely Catholic and yet differ with me on some issues that I always thought were givens. They can also be Catholic and sometimes come across as snarky or mean..this is the internet after all. I am SO thankful for this, because it would have been a very hard reality to recognize in the cloister! I hope all this makes sense.


VJAM, were you served a certain portion at mealtimes, or was it self-serve? I love what you have posted so far. If you think of anything else, I'd love to heart it, and may God reward you! (I am also sorry this is so long!!!)

Edited September 5, 2012 by emmaberry

[VeniJesuAmorMi]

[quote name='emmaberry' timestamp='1346878489' post='2478943']
Thank you so much! I feel bad asking you to post this on the thread, instead of PMing it, but I have a feeling it will be of great benefit to others beside myself who are waiting to enter.
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I'm thankful that I think I can answer all your questions, as they are all things that I have experienced.

The coming face to face with yourself I think all has to do wtih self-knowledge, so it as you said; seeing yourself as you really are. This kind of goes back to the silence again; there are things that will come up within you that perhaps you didn't even know were there, and some will enter with past wounds that they thought healed but will open again. It seems somewhat mysterious when you think of it, but we all need healing and also His mercy. If we see these things and face them, they can be worked on before entering. So spending time in the silence and practicing mortification is very important before taking the step of entrance. Seeing yourself as you really are is seeing also how He sees you, so at the same time we will know Him even more. It seems like we get surprised when we notice a fault or a sin in ourselves, but He isn't surprised; He knew all along. ... This must be lack of humility. We need humiltiy to bear self-knowledge, and He will provide that. We either despair and give up, or we humble ourselves and ask for His mercy. I must have been too proud. So I think this has to do with the perseverance; we either give into ourselves, or we give into God. When we give into ourselves we will only be brought down and then we give up. I know of a Sister who was talking once to a Mother Subprioress about how fervent she was to mortify herself. The Mother said in reply, "Sister, if you won't; God will."

Self-knowledge does have a lot to do with the dark night but there are many other trials and temptations that one will endure; especially in community life. A group of women living together, anywhere, could get difficult; so this could become one of them. But love isn't in feelings, it is in the will. St. Therese is a great example of how to live out charity in community life. We will all have our own unique crosses to bear but its important to remember not to lay them on others, and this especially to be careful of in community. Rather, carry yours and help carry the one your Sister has. There will be so many opportunities to give yourself, mostly in little ways (but with great love), to your community.

About the interior dryness and darkness of a soul; this will be different for everyone. St. John of The Cross will obviously answer this better then me. How it comes and how long it last will be what God permits. He knows how much He will let us bear; it will not be more then what He has chosen. Though at times we get so low and we don't know if we can go on, but here then comes the image of Our Lord during His Passion. We will be able to do it because He first did it for us. It will take a great faith and trust to believe this, but if He chooses this cross for you, he is going to supply the graces because His grace won't let you fall and stay down, we have only to accept it. It takes someone with a well formed interior (spiritual maturity and growth) to see Our Lord in everything and to stay there (within yourself) with Him; knowing that He is always there, especially those times when our feelings tell us He's "not there." In fact, when this is so, He is even more close to us then when we feel Him with our senses. St. John of The Cross talks more about this. It is pure faith, and certainly if He gives us the grace of a cloistered religious vocation, then we really have this grace of pure faith. Consolations can be for beginners in the spiritual life, and also at times for strength. He will send them at the proper time. We have to be like a child with Him. Childlike, not childish. When I first started experiencing the dryness I had a lot of anxiety (this was before I entered; though I was still in this state upon entering) and not knowing at the time, but I was going through detachment because after my conversion I experienced many consolations in prayer, but then they became on and off and the trials started but thats when I distracted myself (some of what I mentioned in the last post.) In this state He was calling me closer to Himself by taking away what I was attached to, consolations and also exterior things, but I believe I impeded this work by fighting against it for some time. The acceptance of our sufferings will make us more interior. The more we show our sufferings (perhaps to get attention or because we carry them reluctantly) we actually make them heavier to bear than what they really could be, and if we show them in community the others will have to bear them also. Thats not a good thing.

About the schedule; now that your at home you could always see your family as your "community" right now. It sounds like its more challenging so you could really practice mortifications and denying your own will in a lot of cases. (Its almost like my situation, but different circumstances.) I'm living with my parents, but I help with chores and there are many times when we could refrain from saying something that we know we shouldn't; perhaps when being told to do something thats not to our liking or when we just have one of those days when we don't feel like smiling (then just smile anyway so they don't know there's anything bothering you.) Think of your family as your religious Superiors, who are in the place of Our Lord. For me, giving into feelings was so much a fault, but by not giving in we strengthen our will and become stronger because we then not act with feelings but with love.

The posture you would pick up on very quickly, especially when everyone around you is doing it! It would always be corrected anyway. When your a postulant, it seems that everything is new and that you haven't done it before. Even brushing your teeth and laying down in bed! It seems so strange at first that its like this, but it will catch on. Postulants usually have a lot of funny stores they take with them throughout their formation. They're fun to share at recreation! I don't think we ever got tired of hearing the stories.

At meals, you got a plate of food served to you. But the Sister who was serving would pass around trays where you could take more. There also was a put back plate, where you could put back food if you think your plate had too much. I think postulants and novices have to ask this permission though (to put back food; or rather you would say you won't be able to eat all the food on your plate, then you get told what to do.) If you didn't finsih what you had to eat you would have your leftovers with your next meal. This was how it was done in the community I was in. If a Sister wasn't feeling well, she would get made whatever she needed. When your sick in the monastery, you got treated like a queen.

I really enjoyed your view about PM and the monastery! It is true; even though your with people who have the same faith and who are there for the same reasons we are all completely different and there may be clashes; its a cross of being in community. Living in a community is a grace also, not everyone could do it. But like here at PM and there at the monastery we have many chances to show Our Lord's love to eachother.

So, these are views I have based on my experiences I've had, and what I've learned. I couldn't speak for anyone else, but I hope it helps.

edit: for spelling.

Edited September 6, 2012 by VeniJesuAmorMi

[ACS67]

Thank you Veni for posts. I find them very helpful. I believe "self-knowledge" is where older vocations would have a "leg up" on the younger ones. For if a person has any amount of insight at all they will indeed grow wiser as they grow older because of experience.

I would think posture is particular to Carmel (perhaps in their meditation/mental prayer periods) and not so much Poor Clares or Franciscans in general. The Franciscans are much more "loose" in this regard.

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[VeniJesuAmorMi]

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Thank you Veni for posts. I find them very helpful. I believe "self-knowledge" is where older vocations would have a "leg up" on the younger ones. For if a person has any amount of insight at all they will indeed grow wiser as they grow older because of experience.

I would think posture is particular to Carmel (perhaps in their meditation/mental prayer periods) and not so much Poor Clares or Franciscans in general. The Franciscans are much more "loose" in this regard.
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Your very welcome; I'm glad I could help.

What a good observation about the older vocations. When one gets older they do become more set in their ways.

God reward you for your insight about the posture! Your right. Now that I think of it, in pictures I have seen of other Orders, they do use chairs with backs on them, and posture didn't seem particular. In Carmel, you won't find backs to anything they sit on; in fact I learned in the monastery that not only not leaning your back against anything and sitting straight, but also there is a certain way to sit, not just with the back. (I don't know if I explained this well? It would be easier to show then explain in words.) I had the same thought that this has to do with keeping always the spirit of prayer.

I have found that it is a really good mortification to keep good posture. It seems that at every moment if you are aware of a mortification that you could do, it will keep you close to Our Lord and aware of His presence. Once you get into the practise of always doing some mortification at all times, however little, you'll want to always do it as it helps so much and will help keep one spiritual, especially during distractions and in the midst of worldly things.

[mantellata]

Then on the flip side of things - St. Thomas Aquinas would say that a posture for prayer should neither be too uncomfortable nor too comfortable - so that one can remain alert for prayer.

The Dominican approach would be that one should choose the appropriate means to achieve the ends. This would mean that trying to create a "universal" posture in choir may be counter-productive.

[ACS67]

I agree mantellata. It seems a bit robotic and contrived.