KimberlyAnneImelda Posted December 31, 2004 Posted December 31, 2004 Since my sister is a Sister my parents know how it is to "give up" their daughter. They, of course, have eventually accepted it, although we all do miss her a lot. My mom continually reminds me that she does not want another daughter to leave her. I don't think my dad would mind that much, although I'm much closer to my mom and it would mean a great deal to me if she would understand.
karin Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 this is very old but i am gonna post anyways.... I put not sure. My dadd y thinks its awful and stupid and crazy and my mommy is like of course yes do it I am so happy you are gonna do it but..... just wait a while
catholicflower Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 [quote]this is very old but i am gonna post anyways.... I put not sure. My dadd y thinks its awful and stupid and crazy and my mommy is like of course yes do it I am so happy you are gonna do it but..... just wait a while [/quote] I understand. I doubt my family will support me at all. My father is an athiest and does not uderstand my love of God or the Church. My 2 sisters arn't really Catholic anymore and me poor mom wants me to stay near her for the rest of her life (my parents are divorced so my mom is going to live a chaste single life the rest of her life---she's a true saint)
son_of_angels Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 I am a convert to Catholicism from an Baptist/Church of Christ family. Any time I even mention being a priest, they are completely mortified. Moreover, my background limits me a bit. Heck I haven't even got the Nicene Creed fully memorized yet. I have never been an altar server, I did not know a thing about Catholicism till fifteen. It's rough.
crusader03 Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 I have been very blessed that my parents are as supportive as they are. My dad told me that I have his blessing whenever I decide to enter. Mom took a little more time, and was mainly concerned about me making the right decision, as it currently involves leaving in the middle of college. As for my extended family, they're either lapsed Catholics or atheists and think that everything I do is rather odd.
ThyHolyLove Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 I'm glad this thread has been resurected, I think it's good to bond about this stuff. My mom has been very supportive, but she wanted me to finish college first. I only have one more year so that's okay with me! Even she is suuprised about how accepting she is hehehe! Before he died this year, my Dad was supportive as well. He told me that I had to do what would make me happy. I am so glad that I got his blessing before he died, it means the world to me.
FiatLux1860 Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 (edited) [quote name='ForHimAlone' date='Dec 11 2004, 11:55 AM']I just wanted to see whose parents supported their vocation. I'm having a hard time with this right now. I've been seriously discerning the cloistered life for awhile, and my dad is completely against it. He says he doesn't understand how Christ could break up a family like that with the limited visitations. He says he doesn't understand the purpose of that kind of life and thinks that it's ridiculous. I would never want to hurt him, but I feel within that this might be where I'm supposed to go. What are your experiences or thoughts? [right][snapback]445872[/snapback][/right] [/quote] Well, first of all, what comes to mind when I read the comment about Christ breaking up families is this: "Do not think that I have come to bring peace upon the earth. I have come to bring not peace but the sword. For I have come to set [i]a man 'against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; and one's enemies will be those of his household.'[/i] Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever does not take up his cross and follow after me is not worthy of me. Whoever finds his life wil lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it." Matthew 10:34-39 I guess that may not sound like one of the more encouraging passages, but I think we can see that it holds true even today. No one in my family is real wild about the idea of me becoming a cloistered contemplative nun. They keep trying to give me reasons why I shouldn't, they tell me I need more world experience so I can (as my mom put it) "see what it is you're throwing away." All I know is that it's more important to do what Our Lord wants me to do, not what would be the [u]easiest[/u] thing to do for me or my family. Edited June 21, 2005 by FiatLux1860
karin Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 [quote name='FiatLux1860' date='Jun 20 2005, 09:50 PM']Well, first of all, what comes to mind when I read the comment about Christ breaking up families is this: "Do not think that I have come to bring peace upon the earth. I have come to bring not peace but the sword. For I have come to set [i]a man 'against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; and one's enemies will be those of his household.'[/i] Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever does not take up his cross and follow after me is not worthy of me. Whoever finds his life wil lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it." Matthew 10:34-39 I guess that may not sound like one of the more encouraging passages, but I think we can see that it holds true even today. No one in my family is real wild about the idea of me becoming a cloistered contemplative nun. They keep trying to give me reasons why I shouldn't, they tell me I need more world experience so I can (as my mom put it) "see what it is you're throwing away." All I know is that it's more important to do what Our Lord wants me to do, not what would be the [u]easiest[/u] thing to do for me or my family. [right][snapback]617478[/snapback][/right] [/quote] see what it is you are throwing away ... hmm.. where have i heard that before.. oh yeah from my dad and grandfather and one of my best friends.... I know how you feel sistah and you will definately be in my prayers
benedictaj Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 (edited) I haven't actually told my parents yet...I'll have to soon though because Ill be getting some info from a couple of monasteries over the next week or so. I'm scared because dad was in the seminary before leaving to marry mum and I want to be SURE before I say anything. Also, what really makes it hard is that I think that I will need to leave the country...to enter the cloister. Edited June 21, 2005 by memtherose
anchoress Posted June 22, 2005 Posted June 22, 2005 Sometimes they never accept it; remember Saint Francis.. His choice alienated hs father... and there are others...many others... As Jesus says, we are blessed if we leave father or mother for His sake. Not easy.... Blessings and prayers for all here. [url="http://www.iol.ie/~anchorhold/"]http://www.iol.ie/~anchorhold/[/url]
Totus Tuus Posted June 22, 2005 Posted June 22, 2005 My parents are very supportive. I can't say the same about everyone I know, but to have my immediate family approve is a bigger blessing than I could ask for.
ofpheritup Posted July 2, 2005 Posted July 2, 2005 I am glad the apostles didn't feel that way. My perspective is a little different I am 47 so my parents are not the issue. If I were younger and they were part of the process this is the only question I would need to answer. Given a choice would I rather explain to my parents why I chose Jesus (religious life/seminary) over them or would I rather explain to Jesus why I chose my family and friends over Him? When He calls you, there can be only one answer.
let_go_let_God Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 I don't really think my dad cares, but when I told my mom that I was considering the consicrated life for a while she told me I should get married, and now that I am heavily discerning the married life she says I should enter the consicrated life. I love my mom, and I think she'll support me in whatever I do, but I think she is becoming more and more open. I just think they don't want to think of "loosing" their only child to more than college right now. God bless- LGLG
Piccoli Fiori JMJ Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 I wish my mom would let me drop outta college to enter the convent I know dad wouldn't care too much... he's the one who said at least a year...
ofpheritup Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 [quote name='ofpheritup' date='Jul 2 2005, 06:25 AM']Given a choice would I rather explain to my parents why I chose Jesus (religious life/seminary) over them or would I rather explain to Jesus why I chose my family and friends over Him? When He calls you, there can be only one answer. [right][snapback]629925[/snapback][/right] [/quote] I know that some of you are torn between the religious life and your parents. I have to tell you though God has called you and has put a dream in your hearts. He did the same for your parents. They got to choose their life, now it is your turn. While you of course you should be sensitive to what they are feeling you have to remember to whom your primary allegiance belongs to. I told this story on another topic, can't remember which one. I met a sister who came from a LARGE family all together there were 28 of them. She was told if she left to become a sister she would be dead to them. The day she left she placed a sympathy card on her bed for them. Since that time some have changed their minds, some have not. This was some 22 years ago. YOU NEED TO FOLLOW JESUS. There is a scripture that you don't usually see conncected to this topic but I think it still applies. IF YOU WOULD DENY ME IN FRONT OF MAN I WILL DENY YOU IN FRONT OF MY FATHER (I think I just paraphrased).
dspen2005 Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 i dont know what to answer.. my parents are really indifferent. so does that qualify as a yes, or no, or not sure?
LiL Kat Said Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 i havn't talked to my parents about it. They still think it's weird that i go to church and they think i'm crazy b/c i go to mass on wednesday. and don't even get me started on how they act and the looks i get when i go to adoration randomly. haha *sigh* it's scarry and i don't think they'd like it AT all. i think if i ever decide to enter then it'll just drop in on them like a bomb or something...it just scares me to think about it.
All For Jesus Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 It's kind of hard for me to answer as well. For the past couple of years, I have been trying to discern my vocation. My parents seemed to be supportive. They allowed me to go on retreats at different convents.- But now, they don't seem to understand. My mother has decided that no one should decide to enter the convent until age 29 (I'm 18) and I tend to think that my dad might agree with her, as far as waiting until I'm older. My mother also doesn't like the idea of a vocation to the cloister either. (Right now, I'm leaning more toward a more active apostalate, but I am open to both) I'm heading off to college this fall, but I don't want to tell Jesus no if He calls me somewhere before I'm 29.
benedictaj Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 [quote name='All For Jesus' date='Jul 30 2005, 02:24 PM']It's kind of hard for me to answer as well. For the past couple of years, I have been trying to discern my vocation. My parents seemed to be supportive. They allowed me to go on retreats at different convents.- But now, they don't seem to understand. My mother has decided that no one should decide to enter the convent until age 29 (I'm 18) and I tend to think that my dad might agree with her, as far as waiting until I'm older. My mother also doesn't like the idea of a vocation to the cloister either. (Right now, I'm leaning more toward a more active apostalate, but I am open to both) I'm heading off to college this fall, but I don't want to tell Jesus no if He calls me somewhere before I'm 29. [right][snapback]664611[/snapback][/right] [/quote] Yes, I still haven't told my parents They have their hearts set on me becoming a human rights lawyer (which is what I used to want to do with my life.) If they do support me, it will only be after university, I feel. which I don't understand!!!! Mary didn't get a degree before having Jesus!!! She just said yes! So I would love to enter the cloister straight after high school (so, maybe next Janurary/February.) The other problem is that where I feel I am called to enter, is on thje other side of the world!!!! Ah well, mutual prayers as always....for everyone here!!!
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