telling little kids

[bx_racer]

um this is kinda embarrasing but ive caught my little bro, well you know but i dont know if he knows i caught him. anyway i wanna tell him its wrong but i mean how can i? it feels weird talking about that with a little kid.

[homeschoolmom]

It would depend on how old your brother is. Would your dad be useful here?

[Era Might]

[avemaria40]

i agree w/HSmom, ur dad would be the best to talk to him

[brendan1104]

[Brother Adam]

Someone needs to talk to him. I wish someone would have talked to me so I would have never become addicted. Then again I was Lutheran and we were taught it was a normal and healthy outlet...

[homeschoolmom]

You suggest by the tread title that your brother is a little kid. What age? This is important. I six year old probably doesn't need to hear anything more than, "We don't touch our private parts." Whereas a 16-year-old gets a whole different conversation altogether...

[ironmonk]

[quote name='bx_racer' date='Mar 13 2006, 07:05 PM']um this is kinda embarrasing but ive caught my little bro, well you know but i dont know if he knows i caught him. anyway i wanna tell him its wrong but i mean how can i? it feels weird talking about that with a little kid.
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Well, if he's around ten, he'll be in sex ed, and they tell them it's a normal thing.

The public school system is corrupt... but that's another story.

Pray and just sit down and talk to him... and continue to pray for him. Know that you are planting seeds... pray that the Lord waters them. If someone uses the excuse that everyone does it, so it can't be that bad, point out that a lot of people lie, and that does not make it right.

It is actually bad for prostate and testicles also. The latest study states that it can lead to prostate cancer later in life. The natural release through nocturnal emissions is the only healthy outlet outside of a sacramental marriage.

You could take the angle that God teaches us everything for a reason... i.e. if there was no premarital sex, there would be no std's or hiv.

Bad things can happen to us when we break God's laws. The laws are here to protect us from the harm we can cause ourselves.

You don't have to tell him that you caught him, just talk to him about it. He might be more comfortable talking to you rather than your parents.

Good luck and God Bless,
ironmonk

[Brother Adam]

That is fascinating ironmonk, do you have a link to that study? I'd love to have it for my discussions with Protestants.

[dairygirl4u2c]

Surely the study would indicate that only excessively [mod]be nice[/mod], for guys that is, would be bad. That is, unless regular sex with your spouse can lead to cancer etc.

There are studies, I hear of anyway, that say that sex is good for you etc and can extend your life. But then I know I've heard of some that say if you do it too much it can shorten your lifespan. I'm sure it all depends on how the studies I hear of are interpreted/misinterpreted and most definitely probably on frequency. etc

All I claim to offer is hearsay.

[zunshynn]

dairygirl, please try to have some respect for the dignity of the human body.

[thessalonian]

Funny, I was thinking of this issue with regard to some of the discussions that say homosexuality can't be cured. I've been told by a relative that this cannot be cured either and that single men cannot help themselves. I suppose you could even say it is genetic and so using the usual homosexual gene logic we wave our majic morality wand and call it good.

I do think you need to approach him in a gentle way, trying not to embarrass him.

[thessalonian]

[quote name='dairygirl4u2c' date='Mar 13 2006, 09:16 PM']Surely the study would indicate that only excessively [mod]be nice[/mod], for guys that is, would be bad. That is, unless regular sex with your spouse can lead to cancer etc.

There are studies, I hear of anyway, that say that sex is good for you etc and can extend your life. But then I know I've heard of some that say if you do it too much it can shorten your lifespan. I'm sure it all depends on how the studies I hear of are interpreted/misinterpreted and most definitely probably on frequency. etc

All I claim to offer is hearsay.
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Mastrubation isn't sex. It's fornication and that can't be good for you no matter how you slice it. Unless of course your in the let's read the Bible so that it makes me feel good group. Oh, did I offend you? Sorry.

[Robbi]

Just to add my 2 cents.....

One of my pet hates is the problem with alot of people today the "[b]If it feels good - do it[/b]" mentality.

Using that kind of logic, I can say "I feel like taking your money".... etc...
It may feel good to someone if theres alot of cash in it! ..... :

Not everything that feels good can be right......

Rob

[Semalsia]

[quote]Mastrubation isn't sex.[/quote]

Your body can't tell the difference between masturbation and sex. They are the same except in sex you'll be in contact with foreign substances and possible STDs.

[curtins]

I would first deffinatlty pray about it--> then if you end up being the one talking to him (you should try and get ur dad or parents to talk to him) make sure you tell him how it leads to a perverted view of women and of sex, and even a rapist aditude- that God's law against it is to protect him- and give him freedom rather that take away his freedom. Use the gaurd rail on the side of the road analogy. I'll be praying.

[Church Punk]

Ultimately what it comes down to is that although masturbation is not sex and actually does not come close to what sex has to offer. During intercourse there is the giving between a man and a woman mutually.

With masturbation it is self gratification and satisfaction. That it is a selfish and wasteful act. For the sole purpose of bringing temporal pleasure ones self. Under this light perhaps masturbation could be viewed as a greater sin than pre-marital sex. By this I mean that through pre marital sex we remove God from the equation (which is the gravest of sins) but still maintain the bond between man and woman, a life giving act, and mutual giving and recieving (i am in no way condoning pre-marital sex, just speculating under one circumstance). With masturbation we remove God and our created counter parts (either male or female) and focus entirely on ones self, thus it is purly selfish.

The human body has natural ways to control it self with out external force and stimulation. God made us that way. However for most people its easier said than done.

Edited March 14, 2006 by Church Punk

[bx_racer]

[quote name='ironmonk' date='Mar 13 2006, 07:44 PM']Well, if he's around ten, he'll be in sex ed, and they tell them it's a normal thing.

The public school system is corrupt... but that's another story.

Pray and just sit down and talk to him... and continue to pray for him. Know that you are planting seeds... pray that the Lord waters them. If someone uses the excuse that everyone does it, so it can't be that bad, point out that a lot of people lie, and that does not make it right.

It is actually bad for prostate and testicles also. The latest study states that it can lead to prostate cancer later in life. The natural release through nocturnal emissions is the only healthy outlet outside of a sacramental marriage.

You could take the angle that God teaches us everything for a reason... i.e. if there was no premarital sex, there would be no std's or hiv.

Bad things can happen to us when we break God's laws. The laws are here to protect us from the harm we can cause ourselves.

You don't have to tell him that you caught him, just talk to him about it. He might be more comfortable talking to you rather than your parents.

Good luck and God Bless,
ironmonk
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hey, thanks guys for replying. and yeah, i used to do it to but then i started finding out it was wrong like at this church sex ed and stuff. if my dad had told me back then id be pretty embarrased. but hey it would have been for the best. however, my bro is more of a shyer person so i dunno ive been thinking of telling him myself, but yeah, its kinda tough. oh hes ten by the way but he goes to a Catholic school, so they dont condone it there, if theyve even mentioned it.

[thessalonian]

[quote name='Semalsia' date='Mar 14 2006, 04:25 PM']Your body can't tell the difference between masturbation and sex. They are the same except in sex you'll be in contact with foreign substances and possible STDs.
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Your soul knows the difference. We are not rabbits. The spiritual disease is worse than the physical ones. And yes I know premaritial sex has effects on the soul also. They would be different though. Pre maritial sex disorders the social abilities of a person, making them look toward another as somethone to use. Masturbation disorders toward solitude and loneliness. It is use of self in a distordered manner.

Edited March 15, 2006 by thessalonian

[Fixxxer]

[quote name='bx_racer' date='Mar 15 2006, 02:32 PM']hey, thanks guys for replying. and yeah, i used to do it to but then i started finding out it was wrong like at this church sex ed and stuff. if my dad had told me back then id be pretty embarrased. but hey it would have been for the best. however, my bro is more of a shyer person so i dunno ive been thinking of telling him myself, but yeah, its kinda tough. oh hes ten by the way but he goes to a Catholic school, so they dont condone it there, if theyve even mentioned it.
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