homeschoolmom Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 [img]http://www.georgiaencyclopedia.org/media_content/m-2594.jpg[/img] Everyone knows the answer to your question.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 [quote name='homeschoolmom' post='1254989' date='Apr 24 2007, 09:57 AM'][img]http://www.georgiaencyclopedia.org/media_content/m-2594.jpg[/img] Everyone knows the answer to your question....[/quote] I have that book ... it hasn't helped yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 It's not a self-help? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lounge Daddy Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 [quote name='Terra Firma' post='1254462' date='Apr 23 2007, 08:27 PM']See, now that's inspiring, esp. since you now have 8 kids. [/quote] Some one else has 8 kids? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lounge Daddy Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 We will just have to have 9 then. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XIX Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 [quote name='annabelle87' post='1051146' date='Aug 26 2006, 05:41 PM']So I met this amazing guy last November and we started dating in January...he's 23, grad student, Catholic, doesn't party, values family, respects me, respects my family...wow amazing right? I felt so blessed...I found the kind of person I've always prayed about. He broke up with me a few weeks ago for stupid reasons. I was/am dumbfounded. My parents even liked him and thought we would get married. I know I need to trust God because He has a plan and I know this isn't gonna sound too Christian but I hate love and I hate men and I hate having my heart broken again and again. And this time could be the worst, because he was so different. It's not fair. I hate it! I'm sorry don't mean to sound like a pathetic case but I just needed to vent [/quote] If it makes you feel any better, there are guy that are attracted to women who are broken hearted. This sounds kinda stwange, but hear me out. I'm reading this, and I'm basically thinking to myself "OH COME ON...I could do such a good job!" So our knight-in-shining-armor side comes out. Some guy down the road will possibly catch wind of your situation and be like... You poor wee chicken! Hey I'm 23. I'm Catholic. I don't binge drink or anything. That's definitely a girl I would respect. etc. etc. etc. And he'll be more motivated to treat you well and win you over because he wants to do something to heal the wounds of the past. Knights in Shining Armor like to come to the rescue like that. Hope that made sense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prose Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 I am sorry. Heartbreak smells of elderberries. There is nothing any of us can say to make it better. Just keep getting up each morning, and slowly it becomes less painful. I will pray for you (and your vocation) (and maybe your future husband). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
onathing1 Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 [quote name='Lounge Daddy' post='1255047' date='Apr 24 2007, 12:40 PM']Some one else has 8 kids?[/quote] I'm the oldest of 8 And I definately understand your heart break. It hurts, I know, but it'll get better with each passing day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tindomiel Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 [quote name='homeschoolmom' post='1255024' date='Apr 24 2007, 12:19 PM']It's not a self-help?[/quote] A self-help book by Flannery O'Connor? Now that would be something I'd love to see. I can just imagine her advice.... like Dr. Laura plus some. [quote name='XIX' post='1255070' date='Apr 24 2007, 01:13 PM']If it makes you feel any better, there are guy that are attracted to women who are broken hearted.[/quote] I'm a nerd for thinking that this reminds me of Raskolnikov. No offense, mind you... the side that was attracted to women with broken hearts was his good side after all...................................... yeah, and I'll just stop now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnnydigit Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 (edited) everyone should discern the religious life and marriage seriously. those brave and mature enough to do this will decisively (somewhat) determine what their calling is. they can finally and peacefully shut the door on the other possibility, and fully put their faith into what God is calling them to. you can take engagement/marriage courses (by yourself even), learn about dating and theology of the body, etc. if it's marriage you know you're being called to, then you will feel so free and probably won't be as hurt by these guys. you'll be confident in your purpose, dating, your role, your mate's role, etc. you'll be able to focus more on God, and whatever happens will be much easier to handle. ANYWHO, how active are you in the church and catholic community? when i started to explore young adult groups, i would connect with this person and that, meet this person and that, see this person here and there, at events and conferences and such. next thing i know, i've met like a million young catholics from all over the region of my state. the good ones are out there, you just gotta let God lead you! oh ya and pray, pray, pray. pray everyday! ask God that if this is what He wants for you and if this is the time, to bring that someone into your life. if not, let you be at peace and focus on what you're supposed to be focusing on. it takes so much stress off wondering and always thinking if that guy there is the one or not.. Edited April 24, 2007 by johnnydigit Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morostheos Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 [quote name='Terra Firma' post='1255001' date='Apr 24 2007, 05:04 PM']I have that book ... it hasn't helped yet.[/quote] I keep getting confused since your avatar is similar to Lil' Red's old avatar, and confusing the two of you. I was thinking, wait a minute, she's married --- oh, that's terra firma, not red.... : Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morostheos Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 oh, and I totally identify... good men are most definitely hard to find!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jckinsman Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 (edited) [quote name='onathing1' post='1255097' date='Apr 24 2007, 12:41 PM']I'm the oldest of 8 And I definately understand your heart break. It hurts, I know, but it'll get better with each passing day.[/quote] Hi Everyone! I'am the youngest of ten, and my husband and I have six,....so far.......I 'am not sure what this has to do with the topic...but relationships and kids do go hand in hand! I really think what is lacking today is commitment. Okay, so you find someone that you are attracted too, he seemingly has all the right elements,ie; Faith, morals, the not "drunk" type etc. I wonder though what his or her level of true commitment is??? In the long run you have to have it! The very first thing would be his commitment to God. Not just going to church on sunday! Second, to the relationship, when your fat, ugly, smelly and mean, he can see beyond that and say ,"My little crabby, smelly, fat bear, I love you".You have to also be willing to do the same too! Then ask yourself,about his background, kids and the purpose of marriage! Was he really all you wanted???? Is this what God wanted??? If it is, NO worries right???? It will flow.....If its not, Do you really want it????( Not I, said the fly) What if your "real spouse" to be, lives in New mexico and is planning to move where you live in the spring???? Ya, just never know!!!! The perfect spouse for you may be in a place you haven't looked.( or maybe you looked over) I say "perfect spouse" because I think eveyone should consider it might be, God himself. JC Many Blessings! Edited April 24, 2007 by jckinsman Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jmjtina Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 God usually plans bigger and better than we ever imagined. It may happen when you least expect it. Trust in HIm and grow in your relationship with Him. It's hard. But not impossible. prayers for you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maria Posted April 25, 2007 Share Posted April 25, 2007 [ ] [quote name='Lounge Daddy' post='1255053' date='Apr 24 2007, 12:50 PM']We will just have to have 9 then.[/quote] [quote name='jckinsman' post='1255296' date='Apr 24 2007, 03:36 PM']Hi Everyone! I'am the youngest of ten,[/quote] I'm the second of 10... I suppose you'll just have to have 11. It's kind of funny... after the last English evening of prayer for vocations at the seminary, everyone was invited to the cafeteria for refreshments. My mom, two sisters and I ended up talking with Fr. Ray, who's the youngest of 10, for a bit. Then someone in our choir (our parish choir had sung for the Mass) joined the conversation, and he's one of 8. So then one of the auxiliary bishops was passing by, and Fr. Ray said that we all understood each other, because we came from large families. The bishop replied that he wouldn't fit in at all... he's one of only 13. [/ ] annabelle, I'm so sorry... I've never been in that kind of position myself (dateless wonder that I am, and content as such for now), but it's never easy to have your hopes raised and then dashed... especially when it's about something so important. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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