uruviel Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 if the guy isn't shallow, then hopefully he would be attracted to her personality, her presence, just her in general. Though I am a girl.... so... I can't really say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brigid Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 you know, I think the problem is that guys don't care whether they read a thread about flirting, but girls see it and go "hmm, flirting. I think I'll click on that and see what they're talking about." so (almost) all the opinions you're getting are from girls. ... well, that's what I think... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
God Conquers Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 No, I think guys are interested... It's just a hard question to answer honestly. You COULD say "there's no real reason", but the truth is that guys flirt with girls if they find them attractive. Bottom line. It's not shallow, for there are more than just looks that attract a guy to a girl, but physical attractiveness is the #1 thing. Many Christian guys and girls will have a problem with that. Every girl/guy can make themselves look attractive, it's just about putting a little effort into clothes/makeup/grooming. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XIX Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 Actually to guys it's the #3 most important thing how attractive a girl looks. To girls, it's #7 as far as how physically attractive a guy is. Intelligence and kindness/understanding are #1 and #2. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
God Conquers Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 #3 That is ridiculous. Come on. So you're saying before you flirt with a girl you ask her in what year Beethoven composed the fifth, a skill-testing math question, and what she does for stray animals? NO WAY. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ash Wednesday Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 Why do people flirt? Attention. People like to feel like they are likable and attractive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaime Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' post='1280305' date='May 24 2007, 01:23 AM']Why do people flirt? Attention. People like to feel like they are likable and attractive.[/quote] *winks at Ash* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 watch out Ash he flirts with goldfish Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jeffpugh Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 (edited) [quote name='MIkolbe' post='1273869' date='May 15 2007, 12:45 AM']her gorgeous eyes... captivating smile... flowing hair.... overall angelic presence.... WOW, I love my wife [/quote] That is awesome. I concur with all of those descriptions. [quote name='hot stuff' post='1273878' date='May 15 2007, 12:57 AM']Because if I flirted with goldfish, people would think I was odd[/quote] Hahaha... this is funny... [quote name='Moosey' post='1279161' date='May 22 2007, 03:17 PM']Well, it all depends on the kind of goldfish you flirt with. After all, the snack food has been known to smile back... [img]http://intricateart.com/archives/200650eyeateitgoldfish-thumb.jpg[/img][/quote] [quote name='Brigid' post='1280252' date='May 24 2007, 01:16 AM']you know, I think the problem is that guys don't care whether they read a thread about flirting, but girls see it and go "hmm, flirting. I think I'll click on that and see what they're talking about." so (almost) all the opinions you're getting are from girls. ... well, that's what I think... [/quote] Actually, I came to this thread because I saw hot stuff quoted about the goldfish thing. I think I have one of the oddest reasons to be here. [quote name='XIX' post='1280303' date='May 24 2007, 04:05 AM']Actually to guys it's the #3 most important thing how attractive a girl looks. To girls, it's #7 as far as how physically attractive a guy is. Intelligence and kindness/understanding are #1 and #2.[/quote] I agree here too. I try and keep it at number 3... they have attraction at #7? YES! I HAVE A CHANCE : hahaha [quote name='God Conquers' post='1280304' date='May 24 2007, 04:17 AM']#3 That is ridiculous. Come on. So you're saying before you flirt with a girl you ask her in what year Beethoven composed the fifth, a skill-testing math question, and what she does for stray animals? NO WAY.[/quote] Umm... the girl better know about Beethoven or she's out!! Anywho, I guess I should give my list... Presence, Love of Music (preference that they play an instrument),what MIkolbe said, umm... energy, piety, love for God so much that she would not want to leave Christ and Mary out of our relationship. Edited May 29, 2007 by Sacred Music Man Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Totus Tuus Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 Good criteria, Sacred Music Man Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 [quote name='Sacred Music Man' post='1282905' date='May 28 2007, 09:02 PM']Presence, Love of Music (preference that they play an instrument),what MIkolbe said, umm... energy, piety, love for God so much that she would not want to leave Christ and Mary out of our relationship.[/quote] OK, those are all good things to consider when getting beyond flirting ... but flirting?? Come on. Flirting is light, surfacy banter. I think GC has it right. Physical attractiveness is #1 when it comes to flirting. I think it's probably #1 for girls too. Not that I won't flirt with a guy who isn't my top choice in terms of attractiveness, but I would say that I wouldn't flirt with a guy who wasn't in the range of acceptableness. Flirting is a sign of attraction, pure and simple. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
God Conquers Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 Yes yes yes. So many people are dishonest about this and it's ridiculous! You don't know anything about someone when you flirt with them initially! How could you know they are holy!? (unless you're flirting @ adoration?) There's a misconception that it's not OK to look attractive. There's also a misconception that people are either attractive already, or will never be attractive. Not true. Everyone finds different things attractive. But if you are a girl or a guy who wants to be noticed it's really easy. Just be clean, wear nice clothes and have a "spirit of openness" to others. If you are uptight, you will appear uptight, and people won't talk to you because they can sense that they won't get anywhere. You can do it! Be a flirt! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 Yeah I think within reason there is nothing wrong with playful banter. I think flirting can cross a line, but as long as you keep it light and clean it is really fun. It may not go anywhere but if it's done right it leaves both flirters feeling happier and better about themselves, because we all know instinctively that flirting is about attraction. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
God Conquers Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 Flirt to convert! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groo the Wanderer Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 Hmm...dunno. I find my wifey attractive and I flirt with her...but I still end up having to do the dishes. nuts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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