Spem in alium Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 (edited) At one stage I was thinking of an enclosed order (hadn't contacted them or anything, but was interested in them) and told my parents. Up till then I had been very open with them and wanting to involve them in my discernment, and I sensed they wanted to know how things were going too. Anyway, they kind of flipped (especially my dad) when I started talking about enclosed orders. I've continued to discern and am now in an active order, but I think, as josephine says, parents tend to come round even if they are initially struggling or against it. I am still having difficulties with my mother, who is very supportive of me but is struggling to deal with me living in the convent and not having as much contact with her, but I sense it will get better with time. I was open with my sisters about how my mum was feeling and they have been really helpful. When I went for my home visit over January, my superior told my mother she could call her anytime just to chat. I know my mum really appreciated that. So I think it's a team effort (between you and your sisters) to help parents feel okay. In the end, all they really desire is your happiness, and if you show them you're happy it would likely help a lot. Edited February 12, 2016 by Spem in alium
vee Posted February 17, 2016 Author Posted February 17, 2016 I talked to the prioress today and she said I should probably tell them sooner than later... UUUUGGGGHHHHHHH I know Im a big girl and I have to deal with this but there are about nine, to start with, very opinionated and difficult people to tell and I dont really like drama.... UUUUGGGHHHH! I know what to say and how to say it, its jsut getting up the nerve to say it...
Maximilianus Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 I concur with the Prioress. sooner... Gives time for drama to settle, for folks to absorb and accept what is happening.
dominicansoul Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 I think it's exciting Vee...and a lot of the struggles that come in religious life may be scary and down right nerve wracking and even heartbreaking, but I always found a little thrill going through all the ups and downs. I don't' know how to describe it, I can only say it was GOD. It's like being in love and no matter what happens, you know that that Love remains regardless...and it gives you the strength to do what is asked of you no matter how tough it is... I'm praying for you and your family chica...
vee Posted February 18, 2016 Author Posted February 18, 2016 Ive decided to do a novena and tell the folks when its done. I need the graces for them and for me from the prayers, and it acts as a countdown too. Ive never been bungee jumping but from what Ive seen on tv they get a countdown before they jump and in this case I need taht too to psych myself up.
vee Posted February 19, 2016 Author Posted February 19, 2016 Today, day three of the novena, I told them. So far only two have responded but have actually been supportive and one said they even kind of guessed. A bunch more reactions to come though...
NadaTeTurbe Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 Wow ! You must be anxious. Let nothing disturb you Prayers !
Maximilianus Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 3 hours ago, vee said: Today, day three of the novena, I told them... This answers the question "How many days of a Novena does it take for vee for tell her family about her discernment" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O6rHeD5x2tI
vee Posted February 26, 2016 Author Posted February 26, 2016 Its been a week and the reactions were much more calm and not at all what I thought could happen. There was even support and encouragement from people I didnt expect to react that way. If and when I finally get to the point of an entrance date I will then tell the extended family. Actually I just need to tell one or two aunts in particular and my myriad of aunts uncles and cousins will find out sooner or later Worst of all I Im going to have to eventually tell some of my fellow parishioners Im friends with...
Spem in alium Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 13 hours ago, vee said: Its been a week and the reactions were much more calm and not at all what I thought could happen. There was even support and encouragement from people I didnt expect to react that way. If and when I finally get to the point of an entrance date I will then tell the extended family. Actually I just need to tell one or two aunts in particular and my myriad of aunts uncles and cousins will find out sooner or later Worst of all I Im going to have to eventually tell some of my fellow parishioners Im friends with... That's wonderful! Prayers for you and for your family and friends.
vee Posted February 26, 2016 Author Posted February 26, 2016 Thanks for the prayers Im sure they are helping! Hanging out today with my brother who even offered to drive me there I had visions of my arrival. I saw myself pulling up there the same way we go anywhere with music blasting, bass pounding, windows shaking and when we park we sit there and dance for a minute! It'll be amesome!
vee Posted February 27, 2016 Author Posted February 27, 2016 2 minutes ago, Maximilianus said: Can I provide the music? you can offer sirius satellite radio station suggestions
Maximilianus Posted February 27, 2016 Posted February 27, 2016 Channel 767 Rumbón... Although I don't think siriusxm canada has that channel
vee Posted March 3, 2016 Author Posted March 3, 2016 Im going for supper tonight with an aunt that I see every once in a while. Part of me has to laugh because the next time we see each other after tonight I may have some very surprising news for her. She was raised Catholic but stopped going to church and jsut recently told me why. She was in need of help years ago and a priest and a Sister were very cold and unhelpful to her while a Protestant neighbor was not. That's the short version of the story and hearing it reminded me that if I go to the convent Im going to be the best dang nun I can be!!! Far too many people have stories like my aunt's, or worse, and it is really a disgrace! I want people to be able to say "not her, she's a good one!"
vee Posted March 11, 2016 Author Posted March 11, 2016 On 3/5/2016, 11:39:07, TheresaThoma said: That is a great goal! by the grace of God! In the next handful of weeks I should be in a position where they can actually vote on me. Coincidentally I realized I have enough frequent flier miles to go visit the bff AND, there is a retreat going on that we will be able to attend during my visit too! Hopefully by the time I visit her I will have an answer either way because the trip is planned for a couple months from now.
Spem in alium Posted March 11, 2016 Posted March 11, 2016 9 minutes ago, vee said: by the grace of God! In the next handful of weeks I should be in a position where they can actually vote on me. Coincidentally I realized I have enough frequent flier miles to go visit the bff AND, there is a retreat going on that we will be able to attend during my visit too! Hopefully by the time I visit her I will have an answer either way because the trip is planned for a couple months from now. Wow that is so great!!! Continued prayers for you.
dominicansoul Posted March 11, 2016 Posted March 11, 2016 1 hour ago, vee said: by the grace of God! In the next handful of weeks I should be in a position where they can actually vote on me. Coincidentally I realized I have enough frequent flier miles to go visit the bff AND, there is a retreat going on that we will be able to attend during my visit too! Hopefully by the time I visit her I will have an answer either way because the trip is planned for a couple months from now. We are gonna have a blast!!!
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