I've got a not-a-date-yet!

[philothea]

[quote name='scardella' date='Nov 20 2005, 04:10 PM']I think this is the time to mention uxoriousness...
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Yes! It's not like we get many opportunities....

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[journeyman]

[quote name='scardella' date='Nov 20 2005, 04:10 PM']I think this is the time to mention uxoriousness...
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[quote name='philothea' date='Nov 20 2005, 04:20 PM']

Yes! It's not like we get many opportunities....
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[jasJis]

[quote name='theculturewarrior' date='Nov 20 2005, 09:17 AM']I've got a lot on my mind. I'm not sure where my life is leading me. Sometimes the only time I feel happy is when I'm with her, and everything is moving really fast, and I'm not sure what God wants from me, but I think I know. I haven't really tested the spirits. I need to talk to a psychologist. She thinks so too. Please pray for us!

On the bright side, we went to Adoration together. I told her that we'll have to pray together and go to Church together. She agreed. I don't know what God wants, but I trust Him. He's in the driver's seat now!

Pray for me! These past few weeks I've been very confused. I want to give her my heart, but I am going through so much stuff, and I'm so confused. I only feel healthy when I'm with her.
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[/quote]Dude. Life is allways a battle, to and fro. There are only two ways people handle life. Either you deal with your problems, or you add to them. Sometimes you have to relax a bit and not let anxiety add to your problems or make a small problem seem ginormous. It's putting way too much on her to say she is your 'happiness' or source of 'healthiness'. A partner adds to our happiness or health, but they aren't the souce of it, ever.

[theculturewarrior]

[quote name='jasJis' date='Nov 20 2005, 08:43 PM']Dude.  Life is allways a battle, to and fro.  There are only two ways people handle life.  Either you deal with your problems, or you add to them.  Sometimes you have to relax a bit and not let anxiety add to your problems or make a small problem seem ginormous.  It's putting way too much on her to say she is your 'happiness' or source of 'healthiness'.  A partner adds to our happiness or health, but they aren't the souce of it, ever.
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Yeah, I definitely am not healthy!

I'm calling my doctor in just a few minutes. I hope this takes care of it!

[Birgitta Noel]

TCW hang in there. You're in my prayers.

As for the contraception thing, I was on the pill when I met my husband (no, we weren't having sex). And I had no qualms about staying on it when we got married. He gave me an ultimatum one night, him, or birth control. I'm sure you can figure out which one I chose. It took a long time though for my head to come around to church teaching and an even longer time for my heart. And I still have doubts sometimes, but I am obedient

People change, often for the better, for ones whom they care about. Keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep your eyes focused on Christ together. He will lead you.

[theculturewarrior]

I've been a little silly!

I just got off the phone with my doctor and he pretty much told me that I'm being silly, except in a nice way that made me feel better. He told me everything she told me! I'm using my intellect, and I'm thinking about how good she is for me, and I think I need someone in my life like her. I haven't been feeling healthy, and I didn't want her to know what I'm like, but I don't really know myself. She told me to go to counseling, and that I'm stuck with her. My doctor told me to go to counseling too.

I didn't think it worked this way! I thought I had to sort through all my issues first, and then find love. It found me.

[philothea]

The girl has good taste.

[theculturewarrior]

A beautiful woman walks into my life and I say, "go away, I'm sick!"

She says, "I'm not going anywhere," and she won't let me be sick. This is a good thing!

I've already resolved to make her a saint. I know that that's not actually within my power to do, but God used me to make my family saints. All it takes is putting up with me! : And I started praying for her. That was a mistake I've made in the past. I didn't pray until it ended. Not this time!

We're going to go to Adoration and Mass together. We've both got a long way to go. She is not a phatmass-type Catholic, and I'm hoping that even if the relationship doesn't work out, it is an occasion of conversion for her. This is looking good!

BTW: We're already boyfriend and girlfriend. These past few weeks have been bewildering!

[photosynthesis]

[quote name='theculturewarrior' date='Nov 21 2005, 01:16 PM']A beautiful woman walks into my life and I say, "go away, I'm sick!"

She says, "I'm not going anywhere," and she won't let me be sick. This is a good thing!

I've already resolved to make her a saint. I know that that's not actually within my power to do, but God used me to make my family saints. All it takes is putting up with me! : And I started praying for her. That was a mistake I've made in the past. I didn't pray until it ended. Not this time!

We're going to go to Adoration and Mass together. We've both got a long way to go. She is not a phatmass-type Catholic, and I'm hoping that even if the relationship doesn't work out, it is an occasion of conversion for her. This is looking good!

BTW: We're already boyfriend and girlfriend. These past few weeks have been bewildering!
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I'm glad you were able to settle this!

Maybe this is just me, but I don't think you can make anyone a saint. You can't make anyone love God. Love is always a free choice; everything else is counterfeit. You can share your faith, take her to Adoration and point her in the direction of Love, but there is nothing you can do to make her love God. I don't know, maybe this is just me... My parents didn't become Catholic. I "converted" my best friend before he died, and his parents are still a bit bitter towards me, but I firmly believe that I did not convert him. I shared my testimony and instructed him to the best of my ability, but his conversion is the result of his choice to cooperate with God's grace. Catholicism is contagious, because it's good news, and we are only mere messengers. I'm sorry if that sounds offensive. I do hope that you can help her become a saint.