catholicinsd Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 I just got a Letter from the Assitant VD of my diocese, and they don't want me. That's all.
stlmom Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 Oh, so sorry-- What seems to be going on? No explanation in the letter?
catholicinsd Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 I don't know. It seems the recomendations they're getting aren't glowing.
stlmom Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 I see--that must really sting--will pray that you can work through this disappointment. Do you have an SD that can help you?
catholicinsd Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 [quote name='stlmom' post='1365684' date='Aug 21 2007, 01:33 PM']I see--that must really sting--will pray that you can work through this disappointment. Do you have an SD that can help you?[/quote] Not really.
IrishSalesian Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 [quote name='catholicinsd' post='1365686' date='Aug 21 2007, 02:34 PM']Not really.[/quote] It may help to get one, so that wherever you may need it he can help you grow in your spirituality.
catholicinsd Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 [quote name='IrishSalesian' post='1365698' date='Aug 21 2007, 01:42 PM']It may help to get one, so that wherever you may need it he can help you grow in your spirituality.[/quote] With everything that just, happened I really couldn't care less.
Noel's angel Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 Maybe your last post might help explain things... Everything will work out, in time.
IrishSalesian Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 [quote name='catholicinsd' post='1365705' date='Aug 21 2007, 02:45 PM']With everything that just, happened I really couldn't care less.[/quote] Im sorry man, I am, but if you feel that you have a calling, and the diocese said no, then you need to pray, and seek guidance. This may not be the vocation you are being called to, or maybe it is. You may be called to religious life. Get a spiritual director, and seek help. They can guide you and they can tell you if you do indeed have this vocation.
catholicinsd Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 I know, but I placed so much trust in God with this. To see it crushed really makes me sad.
StColette Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 [quote name='catholicinsd' post='1365711' date='Aug 21 2007, 12:54 PM']I know, but I placed so much trust in God with this. To see it crushed really makes me sad.[/quote] I'm going to tell you what my dad told me when I saw my dreams of studying Theology slipping away from me. He sat me down and told me this ... "You know, there have been many Saints who had to wait for years before they were able to do what they felt God calling them to do... many of them had to wait a long time before they were able to study or even enter into the Religious life. It's not your time yet... maybe someone who has waiting longer is getting their chance now. If it is God's will then it will happen. Be patient and pray."
catholicinsd Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 I'm too stupid and don't have enough close friends.
Totus Tuus Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 [quote name='catholicinsd' post='1365711' date='Aug 21 2007, 01:54 PM']I know, but I placed so much trust in God with this. To see it crushed really makes me sad.[/quote] No, having them crushed is God saying, "I love you. Keep trusting so that you can prove you love Me even more". When I was told I didn't pass my chapter at OLAM, for no reason, I really had the grace to trust Him. I say it was a grace because it was through no merit of my own. Without Him giving me the grace to trust and move forward, I would have gone backwards in my spiritual life. He is the one who gives you the grace to move on, to accept it when people say "no", and to realize that the only way we're going to get through and discover His will is by holding on to the cross for dear life. Hang on to it and He'll take care of you. And I'd echo the suggestion to get a spiritual director. Not only will he help you sort all of this out, but anywhere you go from here will probably be happy to know that you have one. Most of all I'll pray for you.
catholicinsd Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 [quote name='Totus Tuus' post='1365765' date='Aug 21 2007, 03:31 PM']No, having them crushed is God saying, "I love you. Keep trusting so that you can prove you love Me even more".[/quote] It's also the VD saying "You're too stupid and have no friends"
chelsea Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 It seems right now that you are really upset, and i dont think anything we say will be helpful. So rather than saying anything, I'll pray for you.
Sojourner Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 [quote name='StColette' post='1365721' date='Aug 21 2007, 01:03 PM']I'm going to tell you what my dad told me when I saw my dreams of studying Theology slipping away from me. He sat me down and told me this ... "You know, there have been many Saints who had to wait for years before they were able to do what they felt God calling them to do... many of them had to wait a long time before they were able to study or even enter into the Religious life. It's not your time yet... maybe someone who has waiting longer is getting their chance now. If it is God's will then it will happen. Be patient and pray."[/quote] That is great advice. I guess the other thing I've learned over the years is that sometimes the end goal you've been working toward isn't the important thing, it's the work you did along the way ... the preparations you made for yourself thinking you would be a diocesan priest may come in handy with whatever God [i]is[/i] calling you to. And, like others have said, maybe the answer is not "never" but rather "not now." One verse I've come to truly treasure is the one where St. Paul talks about God working all things together for the good of those who love him and are called according to his purposes. We all go through heartbreaks and disappointments in life, but God uses those, if we let him, to form us into the people he is calling us to be. The friendships that end in disaster, the dreams that don't come true, the loves that die -- these are all opportunities for us to grow in character, perseverance, and grace. Out of great perversity God brings about great goodness. While you may not see it in the moment, and the pain of what you're going through may be great, [i]there is always hope[/i]. God through his grace makes all things new ... beauty rises out of ashes. Don't give up hope.
Totus Tuus Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 [quote name='Terra Firma' post='1365863' date='Aug 21 2007, 05:44 PM']That is great advice.[/quote] I concur. I just read St. Colette's post and it was really good advice
StColette Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 [quote name='Totus Tuus' post='1365874' date='Aug 21 2007, 04:51 PM']I concur. I just read St. Colette's post and it was really good advice [/quote] My dad's brilliant! I didn't want to hear the advice at that moment but thinking about it for a few days really let me see that he was right. He might as well be my Spiritual Director lol My advice is to hang in there. I know first hand what it's like to have your dreams dashed, or what seems like it. Be patient, which is difficult I know, and hand it over ... it will take time ... just keep hangin in there you have my prayers!
Veritas Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 [quote name='catholicinsd' post='1365782' date='Aug 21 2007, 03:53 PM']It's also the VD saying "You're too stupid and have no friends"[/quote] + It's okay to be disappointed and to feel a bit hurt, but remember, Satan knows how powerful a priest is an he would LOVE to take you away from God right now. PLEASE, DON"T LET HIM! Trust in Jesus! Read Job.
GodChild Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 [quote]No, having them crushed is God saying, "I love you. Keep trusting so that you can prove you love Me even more".[/quote] oh please .... I was told this line a MILLION times - its a lie, a big fat lie - do you really believe "jesus" crushes you to see if you love him more? - lies like this are filth. I'm really sorry & can only imagine the amount of rejection your feeling ..... I have a few things to say but I'll pm you
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