Holding Hands During Our Father At Mass

[BigJon16]

In my parish we have always held hand during the "Our Father" and shaked hands/hugged and said "peace be with you" for the Sign of Peace. I always thought that was how its supposed to be done, and feel that it is okay. But alas, the "experts" on here say otherwise, and so do the books.

I'll talk to my priest about it though.

Thanks for all the knowledge!! I do learn alot from this forum. More than I do from school at least. My school is hahaha

[Lil Red]

[quote name='BigJon16' timestamp='1295150905' post='2200658']
In my parish we have always held hand during the "Our Father" and shaked hands/hugged and said "peace be with you" for the Sign of Peace. I always thought that was how its supposed to be done, and feel that it is okay. But alas, the "experts" on here say otherwise, and so do the books.

I'll talk to my priest about it though.

Thanks for all the knowledge!! I do learn alot from this forum. More than I do from school at least. My school is hahaha
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i think the important thing to glean from this is that you are allowed not to hold hands, and to not let others make fun of you or make you feel ashamed because you wish to not hold hands.

[Winchester]

[quote name='IgnatiusofLoyola' timestamp='1295149752' post='2200654']
I might even go to Mass if I could see what YOU do when someone wants to hold hands with you during the Our Father. It would make my day.
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Nobody even tries to touch me.

[Ed Normile]

[quote name='Winchester' timestamp='1295151240' post='2200660']
Nobody even tries to touch me.
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maybe if you'd bathe more often ....

ed

[Brother Adam]

Our family is the only family in the parish that does not hold hands, but then again, we are mean and unfriendly.

[LaPetiteSoeur]

I rarely do, but the choir does it as sort of a "solidarity" thing.

Other than that, my family's kosher. No holding hands. Kisses during the sign of peace for family only, handshakes for the rest of the gang.

And considering it is flu season and sickness season, no one needs to be holding anyone else's hands. Keep your germs to yourself, please!

Any priest or religious out there have a catechism reason as to why handholding during the Our father is a no-no?

[Cam42]

[quote name='LaPetiteSoeur' timestamp='1295223565' post='2200841']
I rarely do, but the choir does it as sort of a "solidarity" thing.

Other than that, my family's kosher. No holding hands. Kisses during the sign of peace for family only, handshakes for the rest of the gang.

And considering it is flu season and sickness season, no one needs to be holding anyone else's hands. Keep your germs to yourself, please!

Any priest or religious out there have a catechism reason as to why handholding during the Our father is a no-no?
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There have been reasons given back in the thread. If you're so inclined, please go back and read...

[LaPetiteSoeur]

[quote name='Cam42' timestamp='1295225045' post='2200848']
There have been reasons given back in the thread. If you're so inclined, please go back and read...
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Whoops! I give myself a beating for not reading!

[CatholicWing]

[quote name='Livin_the_MASS' timestamp='1295111602' post='2200362']
My parish has the same problem although not everyone does it but there are still some that do.

Can anyone tell me how this came about, who started these habits and why?
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In our country we have not this kind of practice but last month i was in Malaysia. I had seen there people are doing this practice during the Mass. It was new thing for me and i had a question in my mind. That is it Liturgical and they are doing something traditionally. It is good discussion i have find on my return.

[Ash Wednesday]

They don't hold hands during the Our Father in Europe. It's quite nice to not have someone whipping their hand out towards you at warp speed over here. It's a cheesy American invention -- and forced sentimentality that's loaded with unintentional but still self-absorbed act of drawing more attention and focus on ourselves than the eucharist.

Why yes, someone did pee in my cheerios this morning.

Edited January 18, 2011 by Ash Wednesday

[Lil Red]

[quote name='Ash Wednesday' timestamp='1295326654' post='2201274']
They don't hold hands during the Our Father in Europe. It's quite nice to not have someone's whipping their hand out towards you at warp speed over here. It's a cheesy American invention -- and forced sentimentality that's loaded with unintentional but still self-absorbed act of drawing more attention and focus on ourselves than the eucharist.

Why yes, someone did pee in my cheerios this morning.
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i love you.

[StMichael]

This is a huge issue for me.

A new parish I am attending the Priests gather the altar boys and female altar servers behind the altar and hold hands during the Our Father.

I have no choice but to attend this parish and really not sure what to do (meaning voicing this to the Pastor, etc.).

I keep my hands in the prayer position as I say the Our Father.

I have no clue where this started but I truly wish the Bishops would address this.

[sixpence]

I Never ever saw holding hands during the Our Father in Rhode Island, but here is NJ it seems to be Everywhere.... it is very annoying to me... in fact the NJ guy that I am dating became upset when I told him I would rather keep my hands folded... he thinks I'm some type of elitist because of this lol

[StMichael]

Found this online: http://www.adoremus.org/0210MassGesturesPostures.html

Thoughts? Most of this i have practiced since a child.

[Nihil Obstat]

[quote name='StMichael' timestamp='1308021768' post='2253451']
Found this online: http://www.adoremus.org/0210MassGesturesPostures.html

Thoughts? Most of this i have practiced since a child.
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Kewl page. With regards to the procession and recession I figured we were bowing to the priest as a sign of his authority and role as an alter Christus, rather than to the crucifix. I'll need to clarify that from some further sources.

[StMichael]

Another thing I am witnessing at my new parish is lay people taking the unconsumed Eucharist, combing them all and then placing them in the Tabernacle. It strikes me as wrong as the Priest watches on. As a former altar boy I can never recall the Priest allowing this.

[mortify]

what is so difficult about following the rubrics?

[havok579257]

[quote name='StMichael' timestamp='1308021768' post='2253451']
Found this online: http://www.adoremus.org/0210MassGesturesPostures.html

Thoughts? Most of this i have practiced since a child.
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this mentions shaking hands at the sign of peace. so then this would not be wrong like some people on here have mentioned, correct?

[OnlySunshine]

This is definitely one thing I don't like about my current parish. I think I can name three things that are less than desirable:

-Holding hands during the Our Father
-Long Sign of Peace with hugging and handshakes
-Children's Liturgy of the Word (CLOW) with extended hands for blessing and singing "May the Word of God..." (I don't extend my hand for this)

[Nihil Obstat]

[quote name='havok579257' timestamp='1308152131' post='2254010']
this mentions shaking hands at the sign of peace. so then this would not be wrong like some people on here have mentioned, correct?
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It's not necessary, and many of us object to it because it shifts the focus from the Sacrifice on the altar to the community. All that is necessary is for the priest to offer the peace of Christ. We as laypeople don't have to actually do anything at that point.