PhuturePriest Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 [quote name='Nihil Obstat' timestamp='1351574599' post='2500198'] I was not allowed to watch it at that age. Unfortunately by the time my parents got around to finally renting it, I was at a particular age where I did not find it to be as funny as I had been led to believe. [/quote] I probably wouldn't find it too hilarious if I watched it, but I'm sure there are some gems in there. All I remember is that when I first watched it I was really young and impressionable, and I wanted to be exactly like him and say what he said. My sister had to explain to me after saying "bastard" that that was not a nice word and I should not use it.
Pax_et bonum Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Aw! A girl has a crush on Miles! [quote name='FuturePriest387' timestamp='1351570785' post='2500172'] Thank you. The thing is, I can't be certain. I get the feeling she is hitting on me, but I don't know indefinitely. She knows I want to be a Priest and she saw the photos of me in the cassock on Facebook. Maybe if she is hitting on me she thinks she can change my mind or something? [/quote] Some girls go after (wannabe) seminarians...I go to night prayer at a minor seminary weekly, and I'm pretty sure one woman I know goes there to find a holy husband at the social afterwards. I mean, it's a good idea. Where else are you going to go and find such a big group of good Catholic guys but a seminary?
jazzytakara Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I think its best to be friendly, as it is never best to be cold towards someone, but as others have said keep her at an as length. Leading someone on only leads to hurt feelings, so it is best to ensure she understands your plans on entering the priesthood. Maybe next time she engages in conversation with you, speak more about your plans on becoming a priest, she will more than likely get the hint that you don't plan on dating her and be able to move on. Re: Austin Powers, I wish I had been able to watch. My parents never let me for some reason, yet let my younger sister watch it. These days its not really my film genre, so I haven't sat down to watch it. Maybe I should =p (I like thrillers and action films).. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope you don't have to face any awkward experiences with her in the future. Maybe you can enlighten her on EWTN though, God may have brought her into your life to help her learn more about her faith =)
PhuturePriest Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 [quote name='Pax_et bonum' timestamp='1351575447' post='2500205'] Aw! A girl has a crush on Miles! Some girls go after (wannabe) seminarians...I go to night prayer at a minor seminary weekly, and I'm pretty sure one woman I know goes there to find a holy husband at the social afterwards. I mean, it's a good idea. Where else are you going to go and find such a big group of good Catholic guys but a seminary? [/quote] Is it really that unbelievable? I'm pretty sure she's hitting on me. Her comments about me being a really nice guy and "hitting her up sometime" make me pretty suspicious. I have heard that saying you want to enter the Priesthood or religious life make you in fact more attractive, but I have never had the chance to see the theory tested.
Nihil Obstat Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 You will want to stay well away from girls who actively pursue seminarians. That is true now, but it will be more true in five years.
PhuturePriest Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 [quote name='Nihil Obstat' timestamp='1351577547' post='2500220'] You will want to stay well away from girls who actively pursue seminarians. That is true now, but it will be more true in five years. [/quote] *Cough* Two years...
Nihil Obstat Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 It is so nice that you have a minor seminary. I thought they were done away with after the Council.
Pax_et bonum Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 [quote name='Nihil Obstat' timestamp='1351578764' post='2500225'] It is so nice that you have a minor seminary. I thought they were done away with after the Council. [/quote] I guess it's technically an undergraduate seminary, but they also call it a minor seminary. I think it even says it on a shirt or sweatshirt.
PhuturePriest Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 [quote name='Nihil Obstat' timestamp='1351578764' post='2500225'] It is so nice that you have a minor seminary. I thought they were done away with after the Council. [/quote] Um... No. I know this because in two weeks I am in fact visiting Conception Seminary, which is known as Minor Seminary. When I go to Major Seminary I'll probably go to Saint John Vianney Major Seminary in Denver, but I haven't decided yet.
To Jesus Through Mary Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 FP- Yes she is hitting on you. And like Nihil says keep her at arms length. It will only end up in unwanted drama. She may not be the seminarian chaser. (those are the worst kind- "but but God is calling us to be married! Not for him to be a priest!") Especially since she may not be educated in the faith. If you don't want to choose the option of keeping her at arms length you can always drop large hints like "It is so great to have a girl just as a friend." "I am glad I am never going to get married, so I don't have to date..." "You know priests don't get married, right?" "I have a flesh eating bacteria. It is contagious" But honestly FP, be sure not to lead her on. I am sure it is innocent enough, but could end very badly.
Byzantine Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 [quote name='FuturePriest387' timestamp='1351580949' post='2500233'] When I go to Major Seminary I'll probably go to Saint John Vianney Major Seminary in Denver, but I haven't decided yet. [/quote] NOOOO you should come to St. Paul's in Pittsburgh!
Anomaly Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Or it could be just possible that she finds you appealing as a person and wants to get to know you better since she is beyond the age of thinking boys are yucky. Being friendly with her does not mean it's a romantic relationship. Don't load up a freindly relationship with a ton of excess conjecture. You can be freinds in the freindzone. Unless you fear you may not be mature enough to have a freind of the opposite sex without it having romantic entaglements.
MIKolbe Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I would have to agree with anomaly.. Perhaps the more prudent path is not to automatically think, is she catholic enough, holy enough, or (dare i say) chaste enough for you. Because the fact of the matter is you really have no idea now, and are just going off very limited data. If she seems like a nice enough person to get to know better, then get to know her better. Once you get to know her better, you will be in a more knowledgable position to set proper courses of action. Hey, a girl wants to talk to you. You are already eons ahead of where dUSt was at this age....... take heart
i<3franciscans Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Good luck Miles! I have been in the same situation before... yours will probably end better than mine though...
ACS67 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Altar[u][i][b] girl[/b][/i][/u]?!! Good grief! *ugh* Why, oh why, oh why? Tell her to "Get thee away from the altar...and quickly too!" How long O Lord? How long?
EmilyAnn Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I have to agree with anomaly and mlkolbe. As shocking a concept as this clearly is to some people, [i]she could just want to be friends[/i]. You really don't have enough information at this point to make a judgement.
FutureCarmeliteClaire Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 (edited) I agree with MIKolbe. Firstly, I want to remind us all that while FP is seriously discerning, he has not been accepted to seminary yet and is not a seminarian. And two years is a long time. FP, you didn't tell us how you feel about her, so I'm going to offer several scenerios. If you have no interest whatsoever: Be friendly, but keep her at a distance. If matters escalate, you may even want to tell the girl that you have no other intention than to be her friend. She'll get the message. If you want a real friendship: Get to know her, her interests, her family, etc. It never hurts to have another friend. Again, if she is going too far, you may have to mention something to her. Ask her if she's ever considered the religious life! If you have interest: Get to know her, her interests, her family. See where things go. Edited October 30, 2012 by FutureCarmeliteClaire
MIKolbe Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 [quote name='FutureCarmeliteClaire' timestamp='1351611093' post='2500325'] I agree with MIKolbe. [/quote] Gets a prop.. EVERY time.
Anomaly Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 And be careful during the "Sign [s]Kiss[/s] of Peace"!
dUSt Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I have a lifetime of experience of deflecting girl's attractions to me. This is not something you'd want to take the advice of people like MIKolbe or Nihil. They have no experience in this matter. Whatever you do, do not treat her like c[size=4]r[/size]ap. This was one of my early tactics, but it only makes the girl more attracted to you. It is an unexplained phenomenon among teenage girls. My advise to you is avoid all contact with her and talk to your priest about not allowing girl altar servers anymore.
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