stagefairy Posted August 10, 2004 Author Posted August 10, 2004 [quote]hahahahahaha I dont wanna play board games with you either!!!! HAH lol.... those things can hurt if you chunk them hard enough[/quote] When we first got married we played risk at a friend's house and he backstabbed me and did bad, betraying things one should never do in risk and I rubbed my ice cream in his hair... woops. I have learned a little self control since then. What a waste of perfectly good ice cream!
stagefairy Posted August 10, 2004 Author Posted August 10, 2004 Oh a really good book to read is "Arms of Love" by Carmen Marcoux. I loved it and so did my fourteen year old sister. It's 100% Catholic romance... the best way. [url="http://www.courtshipnow.com/"]Courtship Now[/url] Here is her website where you can get the book.
curtins Posted August 10, 2004 Posted August 10, 2004 my 2 cents: I used to think that you HAD to go out with a girl and it was the "cool" thing to do. i went out with this girl for 3 months and i have to say that it changed me- now when i see everyone talking about whos goin out with who etc. it just strikes me as foolish. i bet that as i get into high school ill probably be casualy dating (chaistly of course) and such but idk- im like in this limbo ever since i broke up with that girl- and that was back in january. if u really like a girl (or a dude) an u got sumthing going then sure go out an spend sum time 2gether- but keep it pg.
franciscanheart Posted August 10, 2004 Posted August 10, 2004 [quote name='stagefairy' date='Aug 10 2004, 03:15 PM'] When we first got married we played risk at a friend's house and he backstabbed me and did bad, betraying things one should never do in risk and I rubbed my ice cream in his hair... woops. I have learned a little self control since then. What a waste of perfectly good ice cream! [/quote] ROFL that was a waste and im glad you have more self control maybe we'll play one someday then maybe start with like checkers or something something easy that you cant hate me too much for
Ash Wednesday Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 I think dating, from a Catholic standpoint, is really stupid if you're not seeking a potential spouse. All you end up with is a dirty feeling and a broken heart. I dated a guy that I thought I was going to marry, but he proved to be immature, socially young, and without ambition (and a faith that he would leave behind ) I reached a point where I asked him, "why are we even dating when none of us wants to marry anytime soon?" What went from "let's take a break" very rapidly to "sorry, you're not what I'm looking for in a life partner." I don't think holding hands and a short but sweet dry smooch is a bad thing, so long as it doesn't get anyone's gears going. But french kissing and groping in certain areas is for one thing only: foreplay -- and is wrong unless you're married. Saving the kiss for the wedding is highly admirable.
franciscanheart Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' date='Aug 10 2004, 07:30 PM'] I think dating, from a Catholic standpoint, is really stupid if you're not seeking a potential spouse. All you end up with is a dirty feeling and a broken heart. ... I don't think holding hands and a short but sweet dry smooch is a bad thing, so long as it doesn't get anyone's gears going. But french kissing and groping in certain areas is for one thing only: foreplay -- and is wrong unless you're married. Saving the kiss for the wedding is highly admirable. [/quote] AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMEN!
qfnol31 Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 All I'm going to say about this is I refuse to date until I'm ready for marriage. And I refuse to consider marriage when my definition of it is so limited.
stagefairy Posted August 11, 2004 Author Posted August 11, 2004 [quote]maybe we'll play one someday then maybe start with like checkers or something something easy that you cant hate me too much for[/quote] Don't worry. I don't hate anyone, ever. And I'm really bad at checkers. You would win. I would practice humility. I guess it's a win, win situation!!!
stagefairy Posted August 11, 2004 Author Posted August 11, 2004 [quote]All I'm going to say about this is I refuse to date until I'm ready for marriage. And I refuse to consider marriage when my definition of it is so limited.[/quote] What is your definition of it? And why is it limited?
ViolaPower3000 Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 [color=purple]To get to know someone one on one to see if the are the one for marriage[/color]
Christina Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 [quote name='homeschoolmom' date='Aug 9 2004, 07:48 PM'] My husband doesn't really like me to date all that much... [/quote] Yeah, what she said
MorphRC Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 [quote name='hugheyforlife' date='Aug 11 2004, 03:53 AM'] and i disagreed with your statement which disagreed with mine.... which means we have two very different views, i agree with me (obviously) and you agree with you (obviously) [/quote] Lol.. ok..lol *confused*
Luthien Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 [quote]I went on the whole quasi-extreme no physical contact until we're married kick. I'm off of it now, but still being careful. I think physical intimacy should match committment. The opposite of love is use.[/quote] I love my boyfriend, he is an amazing young man. I admit he is not a fully matured man, but who is at 17? He and I respect eachother very much. We're not going a million miles an hour physically. We don't play with that, its way too dangerous. Our relationship is focused on potentially marrying eachother. Though that sounds scary, it does not frighten me in the least. I love him, he loves me, we're going to do what is right, save ourselves for marriage! PS. We hold hands constantly. I do not believe it is wrong to want to be close to someone physically. I do, however, see it wrong to make-out, french, etc., before marriage. That cheats you out of what you marriage should be, that is, exclusive with your spouse. I tell my boyfriend all the time, I do not deserve to touch, or kiss in a deeply physical way, because he and I have not commited for life yet. Not to say that we won't when the time comes (marriage) If saying this type of thing to your significant other displeases them, drop them. It is partially my views on chastity that my boyfriend has fallen in love with me. He tells me all the time, that he's never met anyone like me, that I have made him less of a "Ill go to church because it seems to be the right thing" type. (I tell him its only because God wants it that way. ) Go against the crowd people, you may bring someone closer to Christ. :wub:
stef22 Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 [quote]I think it depends on your definition of dating too. By dating do you mean an exclusive relationship with a member of the opposite sex in which you spend a lot of time one on one or alone? Or do you mean a relationship with someone of the opposite sex where you get to know the person through mutual friends and social activities, fostering friendship? I don't think that spending a lot of time alone with a person of the opposite sex is necessary or necessarily good. [/quote] I mean, like hang around with friends (good friends), and maybe group date if there is such a thing, but not all members have to have someone. I agree, spending time alone isn't a good idea.
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